Mwezi Wodziwitsa Kulera Ana

Ndili wamng'ono, ndinkaonera mapulogalamu a pa TV pa Disney kapena Nickelodeon ndipo nthawi zonse pamakhala chochitika chimodzi pamene m'bale wina anapusitsa m'bale winayo kuti aganize kuti analeredwa ndi makolo awo, zomwe zinapangitsa kuti mchimwene wakeyo akhumudwe. Izi nthawi zonse zinkandichititsa kudzifunsa kuti n’chifukwa chiyani pali maganizo olakwika otere okhudza kulera ana chifukwa sindikanakhala wosangalala kuposa pamenepo! Ndinakulira ndikudziwa ndikumva chikondi komanso kuphunzira kuchokera kwa makolo anga monga momwe anzanga amachitira; kusiyana kokha kunali kuti sindinkawoneka ngati makolo anga ngati anzanga amafanana ndi awo, koma zinali bwinonso!

Ndikamakumbukira zimene ndinakumbukira kuyambira ndili wamng’ono, ndimakumbukira kuseka kochuluka, chikondi, ndipo makolo anga ankasonyeza nthaŵi zonse kundichirikiza zivute zitani. Palibe chomwe chidakhalapo chosiyana ndi mabanja ena. Tinapita kutchuthi limodzi, makolo anga anandiphunzitsa kuyenda, kukwera njinga, kuyendetsa galimoto, ndi zinthu zina miliyoni - monga ana ena.

Ndikukula, ndipo ngakhale lerolino, nthaŵi zambiri amandifunsa mmene ndimamvera ponena za kuleredwa ndi makolo ena ndipo zoona zake n’zakuti ndimakukonda kwambiri. Ndine wothokoza kwambiri kuti makolo anga [olera] analipo kuti anditengere ndili khanda ndi kundithandiza kukula ndikukhala mkazi amene ndili lero. Ndinganene moona mtima kuti popanda kulera ana ena, sindikudziwa kumene ndikanakhala. Makolo anga atanditenga kukhala makolo anga, anandithandiza kukhala wokhazikika komanso wosasinthasintha zimene zinandithandiza kuti ndikhaledi mwana komanso kuti ndikule m’njira zimene mwina sindikanatha kutero.

“Kulera mwana ndi kudzipereka komwe kumalowa mwakhungu, koma sikusiyana ndi kuwonjezera mwana pakubadwa. Ndikofunikira kuti makolo olera akhale odzipereka kulera mwanayu kwa moyo wawo wonse ndikudzipereka kulera ana pamavutowo. ”

–Brooke Randolph

Ndikuganiza kuti gawo lofunika kwambiri loti muganizire posankha kulera kapena ayi ndikukhala ndi malingaliro komanso ndalama, zomwe sizili zosiyana ndi kukonzekera kubereka mwana wanu wakubadwani. Zina zonse zikungodutsamo ndikukonzekera kukulitsa banja lanu. Ngakhale pali zambiri zosadziwika ndi kukhazikitsidwa, ndikuganiza kuti chinthu chofunikira ndikuzindikira kuti tonse ndife anthu. Muzochitika zanga, simukuyenera kukhala “wangwiro” kholo kukhala chitsanzo chabwino kwa mwana wanu. Kutanthauza kuti, bola ngati mukuyesetsa kuchita zonse zomwe mungathe, ndizo zonse zomwe mwana angapemphe. Kuchita mwadala kungapangitse kusiyana kulikonse.

Ngakhale kuti banja nthawi zambiri limaganiziridwa ngati magazi, kapena achibale opangidwa kudzera muukwati, kulera ana kumabweretsa lingaliro latsopano la mawu oti "banja" momwe zimalola okwatirana, kapena anthu pawokha, kukulitsa banja lawo m'njira yocheperako. Banja likhoza kukhala, ndipo liri, kwambiri kuposa magazi; ndi mgwirizano umene umapangidwa ndi kulimbikitsidwa mkati mwa gulu la anthu. Ndikaganiza za mawuwa tsopano, sindimangoganizira za abale anga ndi makolo anga, ndazindikira kuti mabanja ndi akulu kuposa momwe ndimaganizira - ndi mgwirizano wovuta womwe ungaphatikizepo zamoyo, komanso zosagwirizana ndi chilengedwe. , maubale. Zomwe ndakumana nazo zandilimbikitsanso kuti ndiganizire za kulera tsogolo langa, kaya ndingathe kubereka ndekha kapena ayi, kotero nditha kupanga banja langa lapadera.

Chifukwa chake, ndikulimbikitsa aliyense amene akufuna kulera ana kuti apitilize. Inde, padzakhala mafunso ndi nkhawa, ndi mphindi zosatsimikizika koma palibe pamene mukupanga zisankho zazikulu pamoyo?! Ngati muli ndi njira yotengera mwana, kapena ana kunyumba kwanu, mutha kusintha kwambiri. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti pofika chaka cha 2019, panali ana opitilira 120,000 omwe akuyembekezeka kuyikidwa mnyumba yokhazikika (Statista, 2021) pomwe 2 mpaka 4% yokha ya aku America adatengera mwana, kapena ana (Adoption Network, 2020). Pali ana ambiri m'dongosolo lino omwe akufunika mwayi kuti akule ndikukula m'banja lokhazikika komanso lokhazikika. Kupatsa mwana malo oyenera kungakhudzedi kukula ndi chitukuko.

Kuti mudziwe zambiri za momwe mungatengere mukhoza kupita adoptuskids.org/adoption-and-foster-care/how-to-adopt-and-foster/state-information kumene mungapeze mabungwe olera ana m'dera lanu ndi kupeza zambiri za momwe mungagwirire ntchito yobweretsa mwana watsopano, kapena ana, m'nyumba mwanu! Ngati mukufuna zina zowonjezera, mukhoza kupitako globalmunchkins.com/adoption/adoption-quotes/ kwa mawu okhudza kulera ana komanso ubwino wosankha kutengera.

Zida:

statista.com/statistics/255375/number-of-children-waiting-to-be-adopted-in-the-united-states/

adoptionnetwork.com/adoption-myths-facts/domestic-us-statistics/

definitions.uslegal.com/t/transracial-adoption/

globalmunchkins.com/adoption/adoption-quotes/