Epulo ndi Mwezi Wodziwitsa Mowa
Si nkhani zakuti kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso ndi vuto lalikulu pagulu. M'malo mwake, ndiye chifukwa chachitatu chodziwika bwino chakufa kwa anthu ku United States. National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence akuti anthu 95,000 ku United States amamwalira chaka chilichonse chifukwa chakumwa mowa. NIAAA (National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Addiction) imafotokoza zakumwa zoledzeretsa ngati kulephera kuletsa kapena kuwugwiritsa ntchito ngakhale zitakhala zovuta. Akuyerekeza kuti pafupifupi anthu 15 miliyoni ku United States ali ndi vuto ili (amuna 9.2 miliyoni ndi akazi 5.3 miliyoni). Amawerengedwa kuti ndi matenda obwerera m'mbuyo muubongo ndipo pafupifupi 10% amalandira chithandizo.
Nthawi zambiri odwala amandifunsa za zomwe amati "kumwa moyenera". Mwamuna yemwe amamwa zakumwa zoposa 14 pa sabata (kapena zakumwa zoposa zisanu ndi ziwiri pa sabata kwa mkazi) "ali pachiwopsezo." Kafukufuku akuwonetsa funso losavuta kwambiri: "Chaka chathachi mudamwapo kangati kasanu kapena kupitilira apo kwamwamuna, kanayi kapena kupitilira tsiku limodzi?" Yankho la limodzi kapena angapo amafunika kuwunikanso. Chakumwa chimodzi chimaphatikizapo ma ola 12 a mowa, ma ola 1.5 a mowa, kapena ma ola asanu a vinyo.
Tiyeni tisinthe magiya. Pali gulu lina la anthu lomwe lakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi mowa. Ndi abwenzi kapena abale amomwe amamwa. Ngati pali omwa mowa okwana 15 miliyoni ku United States, ndipo pali, tinene kuti, avareji ya anthu awiri kapena kupitilira onse omwe akukhudzidwa, mutha kuwerenga masamu. Chiwerengero cha mabanja omwe akhudzidwa ndikodabwitsa. Anga anali amodzi mwa iwo. Mu 1983, a Janet Woititz adalemba Ana Aakulu Aachidakwa. Adadutsa chotchinga choti matenda akumwa amamwa ndi womwa okha. Adazindikira kuti osokoneza bongo amakhala mozungulira nthawi zambiri ndi anthu omwe amafuna kuwakhulupirira, ndipo chifukwa chake, mosadziwa amakhala gawo la matendawa. Ndikuganiza kuti ambiri a ife timayesedwa kuti tichite mwachangu kukonza "vuto" kuti tisamve kuwawa kapena kusapeza bwino. Nthawi zambiri izi zimabweretsa kukhumudwa ndipo sizothandiza.
Ndikufuna kufotokoza mawu atatu a "A": Kudziwitsa, Kulandila, ndi Action. Izi zikufotokozera njira yomwe othandizira azaumoyo ambiri amaphunzitsira za momwe angathanirane ndi zovuta pamoyo wawo. Izi zikugwiranso ntchito kumabanja omwe amamwa mavuto.
Kuzindikira: Chepetsani pang'ono kuti mumvetsetse bwino ndikuwona momwe zinthu ziliri. Khalani ndi nthawi yosamala ndi zomwe zikuchitika. Kumbukirani pakadali pano ndipo khalani tcheru kuzinthu zonse zomwe zachitika. Samalani za zovutazi komanso momwe mumamvera. Ikani izi pansi pagalasi lokulitsa m'maganizo kuti mumveke bwino komanso kuzindikira.
Kulandira: Ndikutcha ichi "ndichomwe chili”Sitepe. Kukhala wotseguka, wowona mtima, komanso wowonekera pazochitikazi kumathandiza kuchepetsa manyazi. Kuvomereza sikuvomereza.
Action: Kwa ambiri a ife "okonza" timadumpha ku mayankho osagwedezeka. Ganizirani mozama zosankha zanu, kuphatikiza (ndipo izi zikuwoneka ngati zopanda pake!), Momwe mumamvera za izi. Muli ndi chisankho.
Kukaniza chilakolako "chochita chinachake," ndikuganiza mozama zomwe mungachite ndi champhamvu. Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe mungachite ndi kudzisamalira. Kuyanjana ndi munthu amene akulimbana ndi matenda a uchidakwa kumatha kukhala kovuta kwambiri. Ngati mwapanikizika kapena mwapanikizika, zitha kukhala zothandiza kwambiri kufunsa thandizo kwa mlangizi kapena wothandizira. Muthanso kutenga nawo gawo pulogalamu yomwe idapangidwira abwenzi komanso abale ndi zidakwa, monga ndi ayi.
Palinso mawu ena omwe tiyenera kukambirana. Sichikuyamba ndi chilembo A, koma choyenera kudziwa. Kudalira. Ndi mawu omwe nthawi zambiri timamva koma osamvetsetsa bwino. Sindinatero.
Kutanthauzira kwabwino kwambiri komwe ndidawona pakukhazikika ndi njira yoyikira patsogolo zosowa za mnzanu, wokwatirana naye, wachibale, kapena mnzanu pazosowa zanu. Ganizirani izi ngati chithandizo chomwe chimakhala choopsa kwambiri chimakhala chopanda thanzi. Mutha kukonda wina, kufuna kucheza nawo ndi kukhala nawo… osawongolera kapena kuwongolera machitidwe awo. Mumadzimva kuti muli ndi mphamvu zokhala wothandizira ndipo amakudalira kwambiri. Mfundo yofunika: lekani kupereka mayankho ndikuyesera "kukonza" anthu omwe mumawakonda, makamaka ngati simukufunsidwa.
Ndikumaliza ndi mawu ena anayi omwe mumvetsetsa mukamasiya kuvina ndi chidakwa. Potere onse ayamba ndi chilembo "C." Mumazindikira kuti simunatero chifukwa inu, simungathe ulamuliro ndipo simungathe kuchiza Iwo… koma mutha sokoneza izo.
Zolemba ndi Zothandizira
https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohols-effects-health/alcohol-use-disorder
https://www.aafp.org/afp/2017/1201/od2.html
https://www.healthline.com/health/most-important-things-you-can-do-help-alcoholic
http://livingwithgratitude.com/three-steps-to-gratitude-awareness-acceptance-and-action/
https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-stop-being-codependent