Mwezi Wadziko Lonse Wosamalira Mabanja

Zikafika kwa agogo anga amayi, ndakhala ndi mwayi kwambiri. Bambo a amayi anga anakhala ndi moyo zaka 92. Ndipo amayi a amayi anga akadali ndi moyo zaka 97. Anthu ambiri sakhala ndi nthawi yochuluka chonchi ndi agogo awo ndipo agogo ambiri sakhala ndi moyo wautali chonchi. Koma, kwa agogo anga, zaka zingapo zapitazi sizinali zophweka. Ndipo chifukwa cha zimenezo, sizinali zophweka kwa amayi anga (omwe anali kuwasamalira nthaŵi zonse kufikira miyezi ingapo yapitayo) ndi kwa azakhali anga a Pat (amene akupitirizabe kukhala wowasamalira wanthaŵi zonse) . Ngakhale ndikuwathokoza kwamuyaya chifukwa chopatula zaka zawo zopuma pantchito kuti asunge agogo anga ndi banja lawo, ndikufuna kutenga mphindi imodzi, kulemekeza Mwezi Wodziwitsa Osamalira Mabanja, kuti ndilankhule za momwe nthawi zina, zabwino kwambiri, zosankha zomveka zimawonekera. monga chinthu cholakwika kuchita ndipo akhoza kukhala zisankho zovuta pa moyo wathu.

Kumayambiriro kwa zaka za m’ma 90 agogo anga anali ndi moyo wabwino. Nthaŵi zonse ndinkauza anthu kuti ndimaona kuti ngakhale atakalamba, moyo wake unali wabwino. Anali ndi masewera ake a penuckle mlungu uliwonse, amasonkhana kamodzi pamwezi ku Chakudya cha Akazi ndi anzake, anali m'gulu la kalabu ya crochet, ndipo ankapita ku misa Lamlungu. Nthawi zina zinkawoneka ngati moyo wake wocheza nawo unali wosangalatsa kuposa wanga kapena azibale anga omwe anali azaka za m'ma 20 ndi 30. Koma mwatsoka, zinthu sizikanatha kukhala choncho mpaka kalekale ndipo m’zaka zingapo zapitazi, zinthu zinafika poipa kwambiri. Agogo anga aakazi anayamba kuvutika kukumbukira zinthu zimene zinali zitangochitika kumene, ankafunsa mafunso omwewo mobwerezabwereza, ndipo anayamba kuchita zinthu zimene zinali zoopsa kwa iwo eni kapena kwa ena. Panali nthaŵi zina pamene amayi anga kapena Azakhali a Pat anadzuka kwa agogo anga aakazi kuyesa kuyatsa chitofu ndi kuphika chakudya chamadzulo. Nthaŵi zina, ankayesa kusamba kapena kuyenda mozungulira popanda kugwiritsa ntchito chopondapo n’kugwa molimba pansi pa matailosi.

Zinali zodziwikiratu kwa ine ndi msuweni wanga, yemwe amayi awo ndi Aunt anga a Pat, kuti ntchito yowasamalira inali kuwavutitsa kwambiri. Malinga ndi Administration for Community Living, ofufuza akusonyeza kuti kulera anthu ena kungawononge maganizo, thupi, ndiponso ndalama. Owasamalira amatha kukumana ndi zinthu monga kupsinjika maganizo, nkhawa, kupsinjika maganizo, ndi kuchepa kwa thanzi lawo. Ngakhale kuti amayi anga ndi azakhali anga a Pat ali ndi azing’ono awo atatu, aŵiri a iwo akukhala pafupi kwambiri, iwo sanali kulandira chithandizo ndi chichirikizo chimene anafunikira kuti adzisamalira thanzi lawo lakuthupi, maganizo, ndi maganizo ndi kusamalira agogo anga panthaŵi imodzi. . Amayi anga sanapume kwa nthawi yayitali. “Nthawi yopuma” ya azakhali anga inali kupita kwa mwana wawo wamkazi (msuweni wanga) kuti akawonere anyamata awo atatu osakwana zaka zitatu. Osati kwambiri yopuma. Ndipo azakhali anga anali atasamaliranso agogo athu asanamwalire. Chiwerengerocho chinakhala chenicheni, mofulumira kwambiri. Anafunikira thandizo la akatswiri, koma abale awo sanavomereze zimenezo.

Ndikukhumba ndikanakhala ndi mapeto abwino kuti ndifotokoze momwe banja langa linathetsera nkhaniyi. Mayi anga, omwe ankakangana ndi amalume anga, anasamukira ku Colorado kukakhala pafupi ndi ine ndi banja langa. Ngakhale kuti zimenezi zinandipatsa mtendere wa m’maganizo, podziŵa kuti amayi analibenso m’mikhalidwe imeneyi, zinatanthauza kudera nkhaŵa kwambiri za azakhali anga kuposa kale. Komabe, azakhali anga ena aŵiri ndi amalume anga sanalole kuthandizidwa mwanjira iliyonse. Popeza kuti amalume anga anali oimira udindo wawo, panalibe zambiri zomwe tingachite. Zinkawoneka kuti m'modzi mwa azakhali anga (omwe sakhala m'nyumba ndi agogo anga aakazi) adalonjeza bambo awo pamene anali pafupi kutha moyo wawo, kuti sadzayika amayi awo kumalo ogona akuluakulu. Kuyang'ana msuweni wanga, ine, mayi anga, komanso Aunt anga a Pat, lonjezoli silinakwaniritsidwenso ndipo kusunga agogo anga kunyumba kunali kumukhumudwitsa. Sanali kulandira chithandizo chomwe amafunikira chifukwa palibe m'banja mwathu amene ali ndi ntchito zachipatala. Komanso vuto linalake la azakhali anga a Pat, omwe panopa ndi agogo anga aakazi okha, ndi wogontha. Zinali zopepuka kwa azakhali anga kuti atsatire lonjezo lawo pamene anali wokhoza kupita kwawo usiku ku mtendere ndi bata, popanda kudera nkhaŵa kuti amayi awo okalamba angayatse chitofu ali mtulo. Koma sizinali bwino kuyika udindo umenewo kwa azilongo ake omwe ankadziwa kuti nthawi yafika gawo lina la chisamaliro cha agogo anga.

Ndikuuza nkhaniyi kuti ndiwonetsere kuti mtolo wa wosamalira ndi weniweni, wofunika, ndipo ukhoza kufooketsa. Ndikuwonetsanso kuti ngakhale ndikuthokoza kwambiri omwe adathandizira agogo anga kukhalabe ndi moyo, m'nyumba yomwe amawakonda komanso moyandikana nawo kwa zaka zambiri, nthawi zina kukhala kunyumba si chinthu chabwino kwambiri. Choncho, pamene tikuimba nyimbo zotamanda anthu amene amadzipereka kuti asamalire okondedwa awo, ndikufunanso kuvomereza kuti kusankha kufunafuna thandizo la akatswiri sikuli chinthu chabwino kwambiri chochitira anthu amene timawakonda.