Tsiku Lopanda Ana Padziko Lonse
Tsiku Lopanda Ana Padziko Lonse limakumbukiridwa pa Ogasiti 1 chaka chilichonse ngati tsiku lokondwerera anthu omwe mwaufulu asankha kusakhala ndi ana komanso kulimbikitsa kuvomereza chisankho chaulere.
Anthu ena akhala akudziwa kuti amafuna ana. Amadziwa kuyambira ali aang'ono kuti akhala akufuna kukhala makolo. Sindinakhalepo ndikumverera koteroko - mosiyana, kwenikweni. Ine ndine mkazi cisgender amene anasankha kuti asakhale ndi ana; koma moona mtima, sindinasankhepo. Mofanana ndi anthu amene amadziŵa kale kuti amafuna kukhala ndi ana, ndakhala ndikudziŵa kuti ndinalibe ana. Ndikasankha kugawana chisankhochi ndi ena, chikhoza kukumana ndi malingaliro ndi ndemanga zosiyanasiyana. Nthawi zina kuwulula kwanga kumakumana ndi chithandizo ndi ndemanga zolimbikitsa, ndipo nthawi zina ... osati mochuluka. Ndakumana ndi zilankhulo zonyozeka, mafunso ovutirapo, manyazi, ndi kusalidwa. Ndauzidwa kuti sindidzakhala mkazi weniweni, kuti ndine wodzikonda, ndi ndemanga zina zopweteka. Malingaliro anga akhala akupeputsidwa, kunyalanyazidwa, kunyozedwa, kaŵirikaŵiri kuuzidwa kuti ndidzasintha malingaliro anga ndikadzakula kapena kuti ndidzawafuna tsiku lina ndikadzakula. Tsopano, ndiyenera kunena, pamene ndikuyandikira zaka 40 ndipo ndakhala ndikudzizungulira dala ndi anthu ochirikiza komanso ophatikizana, sindimapeza ndemanga izi pafupipafupi, koma sizinasiyiretu.
M’chitaganya chimene chizoloŵezi chimaloŵerera poyambitsa banja ndi kulera ana, kusankha kukhala wopanda mwana kaŵirikaŵiri kumawonedwa kukhala kosazolowereka, kuswa mwambo, ndi kwachilendo. Kuchita manyazi, kuweruza, ndi ndemanga zankhanza ndizopweteka ndipo zimatha kukhudza thanzi la munthu. Mayankho okoma mtima ndi omvetsetsa angalandilidwe mwachikondi ndi anthu omwe amasankha okha kukhala ndi ana. Pochitira anthu opanda ana mwachifundo, ulemu, ndi kumvetsetsa, titha kulimbikitsa gulu lophatikizana komanso lovomerezeka lomwe limayamikira zosankha zosiyanasiyana ndi njira zokwaniritsira.
Kukhala wopanda mwana sikukana ubereki kapena kusankha kodzikonda, koma ndi chisankho chaumwini chomwe chimalola anthu kutsatira njira zawo. Pamene dziko likupita patsogolo komanso losiyanasiyana, anthu ambiri akuvomereza chisankho chokhala ndi moyo wopanda mwana komanso pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana payekha komanso payekha. Pali zifukwa zambiri zimene anthu amasankha kukhala opanda ana, ndipo zosonkhezera zimenezi zingasiyane kwambiri ndi munthu ndi munthu. Zifukwa zina zodziwika bwino ndi monga kusafuna kukhala ndi ana, kukhazikika pazachuma, ufulu woyika patsogolo kukhutitsidwa kwaumwini, kuchuluka kwa anthu / nkhawa za chilengedwe, zolinga zantchito, thanzi / moyo wanu, maudindo ena osamalira, ndi/kapena momwe dziko lilili. Kumbukirani kuti zokumana nazo za munthu aliyense zidzakhala zapadera, ndipo chisankho chokhala wopanda ana chimakhala chaumwini. Ndikofunika kulemekeza ndi kuthandizira zosankha za anthu ngati akufuna kukhala ndi ana kapena ayi; ndi kuti chimwemwe ndi tanthauzo zingapezeke m’malo osiyanasiyana.
Anthu ena amapeza chikhutiro ndi cholinga m'moyo kudzera m'njira zina osati kulera ana. Angasankhe kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zawo m’zochita zaluso, zokonda, kusamalira makolo okalamba, kudzipereka, kuchitira chifundo, ndi zinthu zina zatanthauzo zomwe zimagwirizana ndi zomwe amakonda komanso zomwe amakonda. Kusankha kukhala wopanda ana sikutanthauza moyo wopanda phindu kapena wokhutiritsa. M'malo mwake, anthu opanda ana ali ndi mwayi wogwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zawo ndi zinthu zawo m'mbali zosiyanasiyana za moyo wawo zomwe zimawapatsa chisangalalo. Ineyo pandekha, ndimapeza chisangalalo chochuluka m’ntchito yodzipereka, kukhala ndi nthaŵi ndi banja, kupita kunja, kusamalira ziweto, ndi kukwaniritsa zolinga zosiyanasiyana.
Kusankha kukhala wopanda ana ndi chosankha chaumwini chimene chiyenera kulemekezedwa ndi kulemekezedwa. Ndikofunikira kuzindikira kuti kusankha kusakhala ndi ana sikupangitsa munthu kukhala wopanda chikondi, chifundo, kapena chothandizira pagulu. Pomvetsetsa ndi kuvomereza moyo wopanda mwana, titha kulimbikitsa gulu lophatikizana komanso lomvetsetsa lomwe limasankha zosankha zosiyanasiyana ndikukondwerera kufunafuna chimwemwe chaumwini ndi kukhutitsidwa, mosasamala kanthu za kulera kapena ayi.