Inu Mundikwanitse Ine
“Mwandimaliza.”
Chabwino, tikaganizira zoyamikira, tikhoza kuganiza za otchuka, apamwamba kwambiri monga awa kuchokera mufilimu "Jerry Maguire," yotsogoleredwa ndi Cameron Crowe mu 1996.
Tiyeni titsitse pansi pang'ono kapena ziwiri ndikuganizira mphamvu zomwe zingakhalepo pakuyamika kwa wolandira komanso woperekayo.
Pali Tsiku Loyamikira Ladziko Lonse lomwe limachitika chaka chilichonse pa Januware 24. Cholinga cha holideyi ndi kunena zabwino kwa anzanu, abale anu, ndi antchito anzanu. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti kupereka chiyamikiro kumapindulitsanso munthu amene akumuyamikirayo. M’mawu ena, perekani chiyamikiro ndipo inunso mukhoza kudzipangitsa kukhala osangalala.
Magazini ya “Readers Digest” yafufuza anthu kwa zaka zambiri ndipo yapeza kuti ena mwa zinthu zabwino kwambiri zoyamikiridwa ndi zinthu monga: “Ndinu womvetsera wabwino,” “ndinu kholo lodabwitsa,” “mumandilimbikitsa,” “Ndimakhulupirira kwambiri.” inu,” ndi ena.
"Harvard Business Review" inapeza kuti anthu nthawi zambiri amapeputsa zotsatira za kuyamikiridwa kwawo kwa ena. Anapezanso kuti anthu amadera nkhawa kwambiri za luso lawo lopereka matamando kwa munthu wina. Tonsefe timakhala otopa kapena osamasuka, ndiyeno nkhawa yathu imatipangitsa kukhala opanda chiyembekezo pa zotsatira za chitamando chawo.
Mofanana ndi kudya bwino ndi kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, anthufe timafunika kuonedwa, kulemekezedwa, ndi kuyamikiridwa ndi anthu ena. Izi ndi zoona pa ntchito komanso moyo wonse.
Wolemba wina amakhulupirira kuti ndi kupanga chikhalidwe choyamika. Izi zitha kukhala zofunika kwambiri tsopano kuposa kale. Kuyamikira nthawi zonse kwa munthu wina kumathandiza kupanga chikhalidwe ichi. Zotsatira za manja abwinowa sitinganene mopambanitsa.
Monga chilichonse choyenera kuchita, pamafunika kuchita. Ena a ife ndi amanyazi kapena amantha ndipo sitimasuka kufotokoza zakukhosi kwathu. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mukangozindikira, kupereka matamando kapena kuyamikira kumakhala kosavuta, komasuka komanso ntchito yofunika yatsiku ndi tsiku.
Mudzakhala mukupereka chiyamikiro chenicheni kwa wogwira nawo ntchito, bwana, woperekera zakudya, wogulitsa m’sitolo, ngakhalenso mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, ana anu, ndi apongozi anu.
Ofufuza apeza kuti gawo lomwelo laubongo, striatum, limayatsidwa munthu akalandira chiyamiko kapena ndalama. Izi nthawi zina zimatchedwa "mphoto zamagulu." Kafukufukuyu atha kunenanso kuti striatum ikayatsidwa, imawoneka ngati ikulimbikitsa munthuyo kuti azichita bwino panthawi yolimbitsa thupi.
Zitha kukhala kuti kutamandidwa kumatulutsa mankhwala muubongo otchedwa dopamine. Ndi mankhwala omwewo omwe amatulutsidwa tikagwa m'chikondi, kudya chakudya chokoma, kapena kusinkhasinkha. Ndi “mphotho ya chirengedwe” ndi njira yolimbikitsira makhalidwe omwewo m’tsogolo.
Kuthokoza, ndikukhulupirira, ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri chomwe chikuchitika pano. Ndipo kunena zachindunji, ngati mukufuna kusintha moyo wanu kukhala wabwino, samalani zomwe mukuganiza. Iyi ndi mphamvu yakuyamikira. Kuyamikira munthu wina kumalimbitsa ubwenzi wanu ndi iye. Zingathenso kulimbikitsa mnzanu kapena mnzanu wa kuntchito kuti achitepo kanthu. Komanso, wina akakuyamikirani, vomerezani! Anthu ambiri amachita manyazi akayamikiridwa (oh ayi!), kudzidzudzula (o, sizinali zabwino kwenikweni), kapena kuzichotsa. Ambiri aife timangoganizira kwambiri za zinthu zomwe sitikonda, kotero kuti timanyalanyaza zabwino zomwe anthu otizungulira akunena. Mukalandira chiyamikiro, musadzichepetse, kunyalanyaza kuyamikiridwa, kunena zofooka zanu, kapena kunena kuti zinali zabwino chabe. M’malo mwake, khalani oyamikira ndi achisomo, nenani zikomo, ndipo ngati n’koyenera, perekani chiyamikiro chanu.
Kupanga kusinthana kwabwino kumeneku kukhala chizoloŵezi kumabweretsa kugwirizana kolimba, kudalirana, ndi kuyanjana. Kupitiriza kuyamikira mu maubwenzi anu onse kungachititse kuti mukhale odekha, osangalala. Choncho, sonyezani kuyamikira kwanu munthu wina poika maganizo ake pa zinthu zoganizira (ndipo nthawi zina zosaoneka) zimene amachita.
Anthu oyamikira amakhalanso ndi mwayi wopanga makhalidwe abwino kukhala mbali ya moyo wawo. Amapeza nthawi yokayezetsa. Amachita masewera olimbitsa thupi kwambiri ndikupanga zisankho zathanzi pakudya ndi kumwa. Zinthu zonsezi zimathandizira thanzi.
Ndemanga yokhuza magulu pantchito: kuthokoza ndikofunikira paubwino wa gulu. Mamembala agulu omwe akumva kuyamikiridwa ndikuzindikiridwa amakulitsa malingaliro awo kwa ena, ndikupanga kuzungulira kwabwino.
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