Tsiku la Abambo 2022

Tsiku la Abambo limeneli lidzakhala lapadera kwa ine chifukwa chidzakhala nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndingasangalale ndi dzina lovomerezeka la "Abambo." Mwana wanga wamwamuna Elliott anabadwa mu Januwale chaka chino, ndipo sindikanatha kunyadira umunthu wake wofuna kudziwa zambiri komanso luso lomwe akuphunzira mwakhama (monga kumwetulira, kugudubuza ndi kukhala tsonga!).

Nyengo ya Tsiku la Abambo ili yandipatsa mwayi wolingalira za udindo wanga chaka chathachi. Mwachilengedwe, 2022 yadzaza ndi zochitika zodabwitsa, komanso mayesero otopetsa komanso kusintha kwa moyo. Mukakumana ndi kusintha kwakukulu kotereku m'moyo, ndikofunikira kudzifufuza nokha komanso thanzi lanu. Nawa maupangiri akatswiri omwe ndafufuza omwe adandigwira mtima paulendo wanga wautate. Ngakhale simuli atate kapena simukukonzekera kukhala atate, ndikuganiza kuti malingaliro ofotokozedwa m'mawu awa amagwira ntchito pakusintha kulikonse kwa moyo.

1. Nkhawa ya ubereki ndi yeniyeni; ngakhale simungathe kukonzekera vuto lililonse, mutha kusintha ndikuphunzira panjira². Ndine wokonda kwambiri kukonzekera zam'tsogolo, ndipo ngakhale ndinawerenga mabuku onse a makolo, panalibe zinthu zomwe zinandidabwitsa. Kukhala ndi malingaliro akukula ndikofunikira, komanso kumvetsetsa kuti simuyenera kukhala wangwiro pa chilichonse.
2. Pezani chithandizo pakati pa ena, kaya kuchokera kwa abwenzi, abale, kapena kulowa nawo gulu latsopano la abambo². Ndakhala ndi chithandizo chambiri kuchokera kwa abale anga ndi anzanga omwenso ndi abambo. Ngati mukufuna thandizo, Postpartum Support International ili ndi foni/mawu (800-944-4773) ndi gulu lothandizira pa intaneti.³. Musaiwale, mutha kupezanso thandizo la akatswiri kwa akatswiri¹.
3. Ngati simuli kholo limodzi, musanyalanyaze ubale wanu ndi bwenzi lanu². Ubale wanu ndi iwo usintha, kotero kulankhulana pafupipafupi ndikofunikira kuti mugawane malingaliro anu, kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu, ndikuwongolera maudindo/maudindo atsopano. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zonse sindimalankhulana bwino, ine ndi mkazi wanga timayesetsa kulankhulana momasuka pa nkhani ya chithandizo chimene timafunikira.
4. Musaiwale kutenga nthawi yanu ndi zinthu zomwe mumakonda¹. Kutenga udindo watsopano sikutanthauza kuti muyenera kutayatu zomwe muli. Ndikuganiza kuti ndikofunikira kudzipatula nokha ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mukuchita zomwe mumakonda; kapena bwino, chitani zomwe mumakonda pamodzi ndi ana anu. Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe ndimakonda masiku ano ndikudyetsa mwana wanga botolo lake ndikumvetsera masewera a baseball pa wailesi.

Ndikamaliza kulemba izi, Elliott akukuwa mchipinda china chifukwa sakufuna kuti agone, ngakhale amangoyasamula ndipo watopa kwambiri. Nthawi ngati izi, kaya ndinu bambo watsopano kapena mukungoyendayenda nthawi zambiri, ndimaona kuti zimathandiza kudzikumbutsa kuti mukhale ndi chisomo chochuluka, komanso kuyamikira kamphindi kakang'ono nthawi iliyonse mukapeza mwayi.

Tsiku Labwino la Abambo 2022!

magwero

1. Chipatala cha Emerson (2021). Abambo Atsopano ndi Umoyo Wathanzi - Malangizo 8 Oti Mukhale Athanzi.  org/articles/abambo-atsopano-ndi-maganizo-athanzi
2. Mental Health America (ND) Umoyo Wamaganizo ndi Atate Watsopano. org/zaumoyo-ndi-bambo-watsopano
3. Postpartum Support International (2022). Thandizo kwa Abambo. ukonde/peza-thandizo/thandizo-kwa-abambo/