Kuchita Kuyamikira

Ngati mubwera kunyumba kwanga, chinthu choyamba chimene mudzachiwona mutalowa pakhomo ndi Bambo Turkey. Mutha kuyamikira luso la kulenga la mwana wanga wazaka 2.5 chifukwa chake. Bambo Turkey ali opanda kanthu pakali pano, kupatulapo nthenga zochepa. M'mwezi wa Novembala, apeza nthenga zambiri. Pa nthenga iliyonse, mupeza mawu ngati “amayi,” “dada,” “Play-Doh,” ndi “zikondamoyo”. Mukuwona, Bambo Turkey ndi Turkey yoyamikira. Tsiku lililonse, mwana wanga wamng'ono amatiuza chinthu chimodzi chimene amayamikira. Kumapeto kwa mweziwo, tidzakhala ndi nthenga zodzaza ndi nthenga zomwe zili ndi zinthu zonse zomwe mwana wanga amakonda. (Zolemba pambali: Ndikukhumba kuti nditenge ngongole chifukwa cha lingaliro ili. Koma kwenikweni limachokera ku @busytoddler pa Instagram. Ngati muli ndi ana, mumamufuna m'moyo wanu).

N’zoona kuti mwana wanga ndi wamng’ono kwambiri moti sangamvetse tanthauzo la kuyamikira, koma amadziwa zimene amakonda. Ndiye tikamufunsa kuti, "Kodi mumakonda chiyani?" ndipo amayankha ndi “bwalo la maseŵero,” timamuuza kuti “muli oyamikira malo anu osewererapo.” Ndi lingaliro losavuta kwambiri, ngati mukuganiza za izo; kukhala oyamikira zinthu zimene tili nazo ndi zimene timakonda. Komabe, zingakhale zovuta kwa anthu, kuphatikizapo ine, kukumbukira. Pazifukwa zina, zimakhala zosavuta kupeza zinthu zodandaula. Mwezi uno, ndikukonzekera kusintha madandaulo anga kukhala othokoza. Choncho m'malo mwa "ugh. Mwana wanga akuchedwanso kugona. Zomwe ndikufuna kuchita ndikupumula ndekha kwa mphindi imodzi, "Ndikuyesetsa kusintha izi kukhala "Ndili wokondwa chifukwa chowonjezera nthawi yolumikizana ndi mwana wanga. Ndimakonda kuti amamva kuti ali nane wotetezeka ndipo amafuna kucheza nane.” Kodi ndatchula kuti ndine kuyeserera izi? Chifukwa izi sizimabwera mosavuta. Koma ndaphunzira kuti kusintha kwa maganizo kungathedi kuchita zodabwitsa. Ndicho chifukwa chake ine ndi mwamuna wanga tikufuna kuphunzitsa anyamata athu kuyamikira ali aang’ono. Ndi chizolowezi. Ndipo ndizosavuta kugwa. Kotero chinthu chophweka monga kuyendayenda patebulo pa chakudya chamadzulo ndi kunena chinthu chimodzi chomwe timayamikira ndi njira yachangu yochitira kuyamikira. Kwa mwana wanga, usiku uliwonse ndi yankho lomwelo. Iye ndi woyamikira chifukwa cha "kupatsa amayi marshmallows." Anachita izi kamodzi ndipo adawona kuti zimandisangalatsa, choncho ndi zomwe amayamikira tsiku lililonse. Ndi chikumbutso chakuti tikhoza kuyamikira ngakhale zinthu zosavuta. Ndipo kundipatsa marshmallows chifukwa akudziwa kuti zimandisangalatsa? Ndikutanthauza, bwerani. Wokoma kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, nachi chikumbutso, kwa ine ndi inu, kuti tipeze china chake choti tithokoze lero. Monga wanzeru Brené Brown adanenera, "Moyo wabwino umachitika mukayima ndikusangalala ndi nthawi wamba zomwe ambiri aife timangothamangira kuyesa kupeza nthawi yodabwitsayi."

*Ndimazindikira mwayi wanga wokhala ndi zinthu zambiri zoti ndithokoze. Chiyembekezo changa n’chakuti tonse tingapeze chinthu chimodzi, chachikulu kapena chaching’ono, choti tiziyamikira tsiku lililonse.