Zomwe Kulankhula Pagulu Zandiphunzitsa Zokhudza Utsogoleri

Ndili kusukulu yomaliza maphunziro, ndinaphunzitsa zolankhula pamaso pa anthu kwa zaka ziwiri. Linali kalasi yomwe ndimakonda kuphunzitsa chifukwa inali maphunziro ofunikira kwa akuluakulu onse, kotero ndinali ndi mwayi wocheza ndi ophunzira omwe ali ndi zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana, zokonda komanso zokhumba. Chisangalalo cha maphunzirowo sichinali kumverera kwapakati - ophunzira nthawi zambiri ankayenda tsiku loyamba akuwombera, kusakasaka ndi / kapena kuyang'ana mwamantha kwathunthu. Zinapezeka kuti palibe amene amayembekezera semesita yolankhula pagulu kuposa ine. Pafupifupi zaka khumi ndi theka pambuyo pake, ndayamba kukhulupirira kuti zambiri zinaphunzitsidwa m’maphunziro amenewo kuposa momwe ndingalankhulire mopambanitsa. Zina mwa zikhulupiriro zoyambilira zamalankhulidwe osaiwalika ndizonso mfundo zazikuluzikulu za utsogoleri wabwino.

1. Gwiritsani ntchito mawonekedwe osawerengera.

Polankhula pagulu, izi zikutanthauza kuti musawerenge zolankhula zanu. Dziwani - koma musamveke ngati loboti. Kwa atsogoleri, izi zikukamba za kufunika kokhala munthu weniweni. Khalani otseguka kuti muphunzire, werengani pamutuwu koma dziwani kuti kutsimikizika kwanu ndiye chofunikira kwambiri pakuchita bwino kwanu monga mtsogoleri. Malinga ndi Gallup, "utsogoleri siwongofanana ndi aliyense - ndipo mudzakhala mtsogoleri wabwino kwambiri ngati mutadziwa zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala wamphamvu mwapadera." ¹ Olankhula bwino samatengera olankhula ena abwino - amatsamira kumayendedwe awo mobwerezabwereza. Atsogoleri akuluakulu angachite chimodzimodzi.

 

2. Mphamvu ya amygdala.

Pamene ophunzira amabwera ali ndi mantha ndikulowa m'kalasi pa tsiku loyamba la semester, anakumana ndi chithunzi cha mammoth a ubweya wowala pa bolodi loyera. Phunziro loyamba la semesita iliyonse linali lonena za zomwe cholengedwa ichi ndi kuyankhula pagulu zinali zofanana. Yankho? Onsewa amayambitsa amygdala kwa anthu ambiri zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ubongo wathu umanena chimodzi mwazinthu izi:

"NGOZI! NGOZI! Thamangani kumapiri!

"NGOZI! NGOZI! Tengani nthambi ya mtengo ndipo tsitsani chinthucho!

"NGOZI! NGOZI! Sindikudziwa choti ndichite ndiye ndingozizira, ndikhulupilira kuti sindikuzindikira ndikudikirira kuti zoopsa zidutse.

Kuyankha kwankhondo iyi / kuthawa / kuzizira ndi njira yodzitetezera muubongo wathu, koma sizitithandiza nthawi zonse. Pamene amygdala yathu yatsegulidwa, timaganiza mwamsanga kuti tili ndi chisankho cha binary (kumenyana / kuthawa) kapena kuti palibe kusankha konse (kuzizira). Nthawi zambiri, pali njira zachitatu, zachinayi, ndi zisanu.

Pankhani ya utsogoleri, amygdala athu akhoza kutikumbutsa za kufunikira kotsogolera ndi mtima - osati mitu yathu yokha. Kutsogolera ndi mtima kumayika anthu patsogolo ndikuyika ubale patsogolo. Zimafunika kuwonekera, zowona komanso kutenga nthawi yodziwana ndi ogwira ntchito payekha. Zimapangitsa antchito kukhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndi ntchito zawo ndi kudalirika kwakukulu. M'malo awa, antchito ndi magulu amatha kukumana ndi kupitirira zolinga.

Kutsogola kuchokera kumutu kapena m'malingaliro kumayika patsogolo zolinga, ma metrics, ndi miyezo yapamwamba yakuchita bwino. M'buku lake, "The Fearless Organization," Amy Edmondson akunena kuti mu chuma chathu chatsopano timafunikira mitundu iwiri ya utsogoleri. Atsogoleri ogwira mtima kwambiri amatha kutengera masitayelo onse awiri².

Kotero, izi zimagwirizanitsa bwanji ndi amygdala? Muzondichitikira zanga, ndimawona kuti ndimangotsogolera ndi mutu wanga pokhapokha ndikuwona ngati pali njira ziwiri zokha - makamaka ndikakumana ndi chisankho chachikulu. Munthawi izi, ndagwiritsa ntchito izi ngati chikumbutso kuti ndipeze anthu kuti apeze njira yachitatu. Monga atsogoleri, sitiyenera kumva kuti tatsekeredwa m'mabini. M'malo mwake, titha kutsogolera ndi mtima kuti tipeze njira yomwe ili yosangalatsa, yopindulitsa, komanso yokhuza zolinga ndi magulu athu.

3. Dziwani omvera anu

Mu semesita yonse, ophunzira adalankhula mitundu yosiyanasiyana - yophunzitsa, mfundo, chikumbutso ndi kuitana. Kuti apambane, kunali kofunika kuti adziwe omvera awo. M'kalasi lathu, izi zidapangidwa ndi zazikulu zambiri, zikhalidwe ndi zikhulupiliro. Chigawo chomwe ndimakonda chinali nthawi zonse zolankhula za mfundo chifukwa mbali zonse za mfundo zambiri nthawi zambiri zimaperekedwa.

Kwa atsogoleri, kudziwa gulu lanu ndikofanana ndi kudziwa omvera anu. Kudziwana ndi gulu lanu ndi njira yopitilira yomwe imafuna kuti mulowemo pafupipafupi. Mmodzi mwa omwe ndimawakonda kwambiri amachokera kwa Dr. Brenè Brown. Amayamba misonkhano mwa kupempha opezekapo kuti afotokoze mawu awiri a momwe akumvera pa tsikulo³. Mwambo uwu umamanga kulumikizana, kukhala, chitetezo komanso kudzizindikira.

Wokamba nkhani ayenera kudziwa omvera awo kuti nkhaniyo ikhale yogwira mtima. Momwemonso ndi atsogoleri. Ubale wanthawi yayitali komanso kulowa pafupipafupi ndikofunikira .

4. Luso lokopa

Monga ndanenera, gawo la zolankhula za ndondomeko ndilomwe ndimakonda kuphunzitsa. Zinali zosangalatsa kuwona zomwe ophunzira achidwi komanso ndimasangalala kumva zolankhula zomwe zidali zolimbikitsa udindo, osati kungosintha malingaliro a anzanga. Ophunzira ankafunika kuti asamangokambirana za vuto lomwe linalipo komanso kupereka njira zatsopano zothetsera vutoli. Ophunzira omwe anali ogwira mtima kwambiri polemba ndi kukamba nkhanizi, ndi omwe adafufuza mozama mbali zonse za nkhanizo ndipo adabwera ndi mayankho oposa amodzi.

Kwa ine, ichi ndi chitsanzo choyenera cha utsogoleri wabwino. Kuti titsogolere magulu ndikuyendetsa zotsatira, tifunika kukhala omveka bwino pavuto lomwe tikuyesera kuthetsa ndikukhala omasuka ku njira zingapo kuti tipeze zotsatira zomwe tikufuna. M'buku lake, "Drive," Daniel Pink akunena kuti chinsinsi cholimbikitsa anthu si mndandanda wa zinthu zomwe ziyenera kukwaniritsidwa kapena kukwaniritsa, koma kudziyimira pawokha komanso kutha kuwongolera ntchito ndi moyo wawo. Ichi ndi chifukwa chimodzi chomwe malo ogwirira ntchito (ROWEs) asonyezedwa kuti akugwirizana ndi kuwonjezeka kwakukulu kwa zokolola. Anthu safuna kuuzidwa zochita. Amafunikira mtsogoleri wawo kuti awathandize kumvetsetsa zolinga zawo kuti athe kuzikwaniritsa momwe akufunira komanso nthawi yomwe akufuna⁴. Njira yabwino yolimbikitsira anthu ndikutengera zomwe zimawalimbikitsa kuti aziyankha komanso aziyankha pazotsatira zawo.

Ndikakhala pansi ndi kusinkhasinkha za maola amene ndinathera kumvetsera zokamba, ndikuyembekeza kuti ngakhale oŵerengeka a ophunzira amene ndinali ndi mwaŵi wowaphunzitsa adzakhulupirira kuti kalasi ya kulankhula inali yoposa kukumana maso ndi maso ndi mantha awo tsiku ndi tsiku. Ndikukhulupirira kuti nawonso amakumbukira bwino za luso la moyo ndi maphunziro omwe tinaphunzira limodzi ku Eddy Hall ku Colorado State University.

Zothandizira

¹gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/401999/leadership-authenticity-starts-knowing-yourself.aspx

²forbes.com/sites/nazbeheshti/2020/02/13/do-you-mostly-lead-from-your-head-or-from-your-heart/?sh=3163a31e1672

³panoramaed.com/blog/two-word-check-in-strategy

⁴Thamangitsani: Chowonadi chodabwitsa pazomwe zimatilimbikitsa