Njira Yanga

Tonse tili panjira yathu m'moyo. Zomwe ife tiri lero ndi mndandanda wa zochitika zathu zakale zomwe zimatipanga ife chomwe ife tiri. Palibe aliyense wa ife amene amafanana, komabe tonsefe tingagwirizane wina ndi mnzake kudzera mu malingaliro ofanana. Pamene tikuunikira za kudzipha mu Seputembala kudzera mu Mwezi Wadziko Lonse Wodziwitsa Kudzipha ndi Kupewa, taganizirani nkhani zitatu izi:

Tom * ndi mnyamata wazaka 19, wokonda kuchita zinthu monyanyira, akukwaniritsa chikhumbo chake chogwira ntchito m’makampani osangalatsa, ndiponso pakampani inayake imene ankafuna kuigwira ntchito. Lakhala loto lake la moyo wonse. Moyo ndi wabwino. Ali ndi abwenzi ambiri, ndipo ndi mnyamata wosangalala yemwe mukufuna kumudziwa. Amapanga mabwenzi kulikonse kumene akupita. Amadziwika ndi nzeru zake zofulumira komanso kukonda zosangalatsa.

Tsopano talingalirani mwamuna wa zaka 60, dzina lake Wayne, * amene ali m’gawo lake lachiŵiri la moyo wake, atatumikira dziko lathu monga Msilikali wa Panyanja wa United States. Wabwereranso kusukulu, akukwaniritsa maloto ake oti apange maphunziro otengera zomwe adakumana nazo pazankhondo, kuthana ndi zovuta za PTSD ndi zina zomwe anthu ambiri amakumana nazo akabwerera kumoyo "wanthawi zonse".

Ndiyeno pali mtsikana wina wazaka 14, dzina lake Emma. Iye wangoyamba kumene kusukulu yasekondale ndipo amapeza ndalama komanso kusunga tsogolo lake. Akaweruka kusukulu, asanayambe homuweki, amagwira ntchito yolemba mapepala, n’kumagaŵira nyuzipepala kwa anthu oyandikana nawo nyumba pamtunda wa makilomita awiri kuchokera kunyumba kwake. Ali ndi abwenzi, ngakhale akuganiza kuti sadzakhala wabwino ngati mchimwene wake wamkulu wodziwika bwino pamasewera, kotero amakhala nthawi yayitali kuthawira ku zenizeni zomwe zimapezeka m'mabuku akale.

Tonse tili m'njira zathuzathu m'moyo. Kunena zoona, palibe aliyense wa anthuwa amene amafanana pa chilichonse. Komabe, onse akhoza kukhala aliyense amene timamudziwa. Ndipo kwa ena a ife, timawadziwa Tom, Wayne ndi Emma. Ndidachita ndipo ndidatero. Chimene simuchidziwa n’chakuti Tom akulimbana ndi chiwerewere chake ndikupeza malo ake monga mnyamata m’dziko lino. Zomwe simumva ndi Wayne, akulimbana ndi zake za PTSD; m’chikhumbo chake chofuna kuthandiza ena, kwenikweni amafunafuna chithandizo chimene akufunikiradi. Ndipo zomwe simukuwona ndi Emma, ​​akubisala kuseri kwa mawonekedwe a anthu otchulidwa m'mabuku ndi maloto opeza ndalama kuti abise kufunikira kwake kocheza ndi omwe amawaona kuti amamuwona ngati wotopetsa komanso wosasangalatsa.

Kwa aliyense wa anthu amenewa, kunja kunkabisa mmene akumvera mumtima. Aliyense wa anthu ameneŵa anafika pofika pomangokhala opanda chiyembekezo. Aliyense wa anthuwa anaganiza zodzitengera yekha zinthu zimene ankaona kuti n’cholinga choti athandize dziko. Aliyense wa anthu amenewa anafika pokhulupiriradi kuti dziko likanakhala bwino popanda iwo. Ndipo aliyense wa anthuwa anachitapo kanthu. Aliyense wa anthu atatuwa anachita zenizeni komanso zomaliza zofuna kudzipha. Ndipo awiri a iwo adatsiriza ntchitoyo.

Malinga ndi bungwe la American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, kudzipha ndi nambala 2017 zomwe zimayambitsa imfa ku United States. Mu 47,173, anthu odzipha anali owirikiza kawiri (19,510) kuposa omwe adapha (2016) m'dziko lathu. Ndipo ku Colorado, kuyambira XNUMX, kafukufuku wa United Health Foundation adawona kuti dziko lathu lawona kuwonjezeka kwakukulu, chaka ndi chaka. Ili ndi vuto la thanzi la anthu lomwe lingapewedwe lomwe tonse tingathe kuyesetsa kuthetsa. Njira imodzi ndiyo kuzindikira ndi kunyozetsa nkhani za umoyo wamaganizo. Monga momwe madokotala amathandizira pa thanzi lathu lakuthupi, ochiritsa angathandizenso m’maganizo athu. Palibe vuto kupempha thandizo. Sibwino kuyenderana ndi abwenzi ndi abale kuti muwonetsetse kuti omwe ali pafupi nafe akuyenda bwino. Musaganize kuti wina ali bwino, chifukwa akuwoneka kuti ali bwino kunja kwake.

Tom, Wayne ndi Emma aliyense ali ndi chiwerengero chosiyana, ndipo ena akhoza kuona kuchuluka kwa kudzipha, ngakhale magulu onse a anthu amadzipha. Ophunzira achikazi, monga Emma, ​​amayesa kudzipha kuwirikiza kawiri kuposa ophunzira achimuna. Ndipo ndi anthu ngati Wayne, mu 2017, kuchuluka kwa omwe adadzipha adadzipha anali osachepera nthawi 1.5 kuposa omwe sanali ankhondo.

Dziko lomwe tikukhalali masiku ano silidziwa zomwe Tom kapena Wayne akadabweretsa. Komabe, kwa iwo omwe amadziwa Tom ndi Wayne, pali chosowa. Ndipo izi zikhoza kunenedwa kwa aliyense amene anakumanapo ndi munthu amene amamudziwa akudzipha. Banja la Tom limasowa chisangalalo cha moyo. Tom nthawi zonse ankakonda kwambiri dziko lozungulira. Akafuna kuchita zinazake analumphira ndi mapazi awiri. Ndimamusowa nthabwala zake zowuma komanso chisangalalo cha moyo. Ndani akudziwa zomwe akanachita akadakhala moyo zaka 19. Antchito osawerengeka omwe Wayne akanatha kuwafikira atakhala phungu wovomerezeka atayika kosatha. Sadzathanso kuphunzira kuchokera ku zomwe Wayne adakumana nazo komanso ukatswiri wake. Adzukulu ake a Wayne adatayanso amalume ake osamala komanso achikondi. Kwa ine, ndikudziwa kuti ndikuphonya nthabwala zake powunika momwe galamala amagwiritsira ntchito molakwika ma clichés ndi miyambi. Wayne anali wamkulu pa izo.

Koma Emma, ​​njira yomwe anasankhayo sinali yomaliza monga momwe ankayembekezera. Pambuyo pothana ndi mavuto ndi zonse zomwe zidamupangitsa kuti asankhe zomwe adapanga, tsopano ndi munthu wamkulu wathanzi komanso wogwira ntchito bwino pagulu. Amadziwa nthawi yoti ayang'ane momwe akumvera, nthawi yodziyimira yekha komanso nthawi yoti apemphe thandizo. Ndikudziwa kuti Emma adzakhala bwino. Mtsikana wazaka 14 uja si amene ali lero. Ali ndi njira yabwino yothandizira, achibale ndi abwenzi omwe amamusamalira, komanso ntchito yokhazikika yomwe imamupangitsa kukhala wopeza ntchito. Ngakhale kuti tonse tili panjira yathu, pankhaniyi, njira ya Emma ndi yanga. Inde, ndine Emma.

Ngati inu kapena munthu wina amene mumamudziwa akukumana ndi maganizo ofuna kudzipha, pali njira zambiri zopezera thandizo. Ku Colorado, imbani Colorado Crisis Services pa 844-493-8255 kapena lembani TALK ku 38255. Congress posachedwapa idapereka chigamulo chomwe chimatchula 988 ngati chiwerengero cha dziko lonse kuti muyimbire ngati muli ndi vuto lodzipha kapena la maganizo. Nambalayi ili pa cholinga choti igwire ntchito pakati pa 2022. Mpaka izi zichitike, kudziko lonse mukhoza kuyimbanso 800-273-8255. Fufuzani ndi achibale anu ndi abwenzi ndi omwe akuzungulirani. Simudziwa njira yomwe munthu angakhale nayo komanso momwe mungapangire.

*Maina asinthidwa kuti ateteze zinsinsi za munthu.

 

Sources:

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. https://afsp.org/suicide-statistics/

Maofesi a Kuletsa ndi Kuteteza Matenda. https://www.cdc.gov/msmhealth/suicide-violence-prevention.htm

National Institute for Mental Health. https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/suicide.shtml

National Alliance on Mental Illness. https://www.nami.org/About-NAMI/NAMI-News/2020/FCC-Designates-988-as-a-Nationwide-Mental-Health-Crisis-and-Suicide-Prevention-Number

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Chiwopsezo cha Kudzipha Kwa Achinyamata ku Colado Kuwonjezeka Ndi 58% M'zaka 3, Kupangitsa Kuti Ikhale Chifukwa Cha Imfa Mmodzi mwa Anyamata Asanu. https://www.cpr.org/2019/09/17/the-rate-of-teen-suicide-in-colorado-increased-by-58-percent-in-3-years-making-it-the-cause-of-1-in-5-adolescent-deaths/