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Ubwino Wachiyanjano: Khalani Olumikizana Ndikuchita Bwino

Sindimadziwa kuti kuli Mwezi wa Ubwino wa Anthu, ndipo ngakhale ndikanatero, sindikudziwa kuti ndikanamvetsera kwambiri…koma zinali zisanachitike COVID-19. Kuchokera powerenga za umoyo wabwino, ndikutanthauzira kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi m'maganizo ndi mwathupi kudzera mu ubale ndi ena, kulumikizana pakati pa anthu ammudzi ndi zochitika zanthawi zonse. Tonsefe titha kukhala ndi njira yosiyana yokhudzana ndi ubwino wa anthu, koma pachimake, ubwino wa anthu ndikuzindikira kuti anthu amamangidwa chifukwa cha kugwirizana ndi ubale ndi ena. Kafukufuku wochititsa chidwi yemwe adachitika ku yunivesite ya Michigan adawonetsa kuti kusowa kwa kulumikizana kumawononga kwambiri thanzi kuposa kunenepa kwambiri, kusuta komanso kuthamanga kwa magazi. Kapenanso, kulumikizana mwamphamvu kumatha kubweretsa mwayi wowonjezereka wa 50% wokhala ndi moyo wautali, zawonetsa kulimbitsa chitetezo chanu chamthupi ndipo zingakuthandizeni kuchira msanga ku matenda.

Titha kukhala tikutopa ndikulankhula za momwe COVID-19 idakhudzira moyo wathu, koma ndikuganiza kwa ambiri aife, kudzipatula ku COVID-19 kunawonetsa momwe kuyanjana ndi anthu ena kumafunikira pa moyo wathu. ubwino. Ngakhale ife omwe timakonda kukhala tokha kapena tifunika kukhala tokha kuti tiwonjezere. Ndine wokhutitsidwa kukhala ndekha, koma ndimachita nawo gawo mwachangu pamoyo wanga. Ndili ndi zokonda, anzanga ndi zochita zongodzipereka zomwe ndi gawo la moyo wanga watsiku ndi tsiku. Chaka cha 2020 chisanafike, nthawi yokhayo inali yolinganizidwa ndi banja langa, anzanga, ndi zochita. Pamene nthawi ikudutsa ndi COVID-19, ndidakhala ndekhandekha, ndipo pamapeto pake ndinakhumudwa. Ndidali ndi akaunti ya Zoom kuti ndizitha kucheza ndi anzanga ndi abale pafupifupi, ndipo kwakanthawi, zomwe zidachepetsa kusungulumwa. Koma kusaonana mwakuthupi ndi anzanga ndi achibale ndi kuchita nawo zinthu zinandichititsa kuthera nthaŵi yochuluka kulingalira za kuipa kwa moyo wanga ndi dziko londizinga. Kaonedwe kanga kabwino ka moyo kanayamba kuipiraipira ndipo ndinayamba kuganizira za mantha omwe kudzipatula kungabweretse. Ndinalibe malire; Ndinalibe chidziwitso chochokera kuzinthu zomwe kukhala kunja kuno kumapereka. Zomwe zinachititsa kuti zinthu ziipireipire, titayamba kupita kudziko, ndinaona kuti sizivuta. Ndinali nditazolowera kukhala kunyumba, choncho ndinatero. Pomaliza, ndidadzikakamiza kupita kudziko kuti ndikachitenso, kulumikizana ndipo nthawi yomweyo ndidamva bwino.

Pamene ndikulemba izi, ndili ndi COVID-19. Ndakhala ndekha kwa masiku asanu ndi limodzi ndipo ndikuyamba kumva bwino, koma ndili ndi masiku ena anayi okhala ndekhandekha. Ndaphunzira zomwe ndiyenera kuchita kuti ndikhalebe ndi chiyembekezo. Ndine wojambula, kotero ndimalumpha pa intaneti ndi ojambula anzanga, ndimakhala ndi FaceTime tsiku lililonse ndi abale ndi abwenzi, ndimasinkhasinkha tsiku ndi tsiku kuti ndikhazikike komanso kukhala ndi chiyembekezo, ndimayesetsa kusankha ziwonetsero zolimbikitsa komanso ma podcasts olimbikitsa. Kukhala ndi luso logwira ntchito ndi dalitso lomwe limandipangitsa kuti ndizicheza ndi anzanga. Mosasamala za machenjerero amenewo, kusungulumwa ndi malingaliro oyipa zimabwerera ndipo ndimalakalaka kulumikizana.

Tili ndi mwayi wokhala m'dziko lomwe ndi tchuthi kwa ambiri. Kuyenda m'chilengedwe ndiye elixir wamkulu. Kudzipereka m'dera lomwe tikukhalamo kumapereka kulumikizana ndikudyetsa moyo. Tazingidwa ndi matauni ndi mizinda yomwe ili ndi mwayi wokondwerera komanso kucheza ndi anthu. Zimatengera kuyesetsa kowonjezereka kuti ndikhalebe pachibwenzi, kuti ndimve kukhala mbali yake, koma ndapeza mikono yotseguka ndi yolandirira kulikonse komwe ndikupita kuti ndimve kuti ndine wolumikizidwa.

M'munsimu muli zina mwazinthu zomwe ndimakonda kwambiri polumikizana ndikuchita zomwe ndimakonda:

Zina Zowonjezera

Kulumikizana & Thanzi: Sayansi ya Social Connection - Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education (stanford.edu)

Ubale Wapagulu ndi Zaumoyo (science.org)