Mwedzi Wekuzivisa Kutorwa Kwevana

Ndichiri mudiki, ndaiona zviratidziro zvepaTV paDisney kana Nickelodeon uye paigara paine chiitiko chimwe chete apo mumwe mukoma akanyengedza mumwe kuti afunge kuti vakarerwa nevabereki vasiri vavo, izvo zvakaita kuti mukoma wacho aita pranked, agumbuke. Izvi nguva dzose zvaiita kuti ndizvibvunze kuti nei kune maonero asina kunaka akawanda kwazvo okurerwa nevabereki vasiri vangu nokuti ndingadai ndisina kufara zvikuru! Ndakakura ndichiziva uye kunzwa rudo uye kudzidza kubva kuvabereki vangu sezvakaita shamwari dzangu; Musiyano chete waive wekuti ndaisaratidzika sevabereki vangu seshamwari dzangu dzakaita sedzavo, asi zvaive zvakanakawo!

Sezvandinofunga shure kundangariro dzangu kubva pauduku hwangu, ndinorangarira kuseka kuzhinji, rudo, uye vabereki vangu nguva dzose vachiratidzira kunditsigira pasinei zvapo nokuti chii. Hapana chakambonzwa chakasiyana nedzimwe mhuri. Takaenda kumazororo pamwe chete, vabereki vangu vakandidzidzisa kufamba, kuchovha bhasikoro, kutyaira, uye zvimwe miriyoni zvimwe zvinhu - sevamwe vana.

Ndichikura, uye nanhasi, ndinowanzobvunzwa kuti ndinonzwa sei nezvokurerwa uye chokwadi ndechokuti ndinokuda chaizvo. Ndinotenda zvikuru kuti vabereki vangu [vakandirera] vaivapo kuti vanditore semwana mucheche uye vandibatsire kukura uye kukura kuva mukadzi wandiri nhasi. Ndinogona kutaura zvechokwadi kuti pasina kurerwa nevabereki vasiri vavo, handizivi kwandingava. Vabereki vangu pavakanditora, vakandipa kugadzikana uye kugadzikana izvo zvakandibvumira kuti ndive mucheche zvechokwadi uye kukura uye kukura munzira dzandingave ndisina kukwanisa.

“Kurerwa mwana kuzvipira kwaunopinda mauri usingaone, asi hazvina kusiyana nekuwedzera mwana pakuzvarwa. Zvakakosha kuti vabereki vanorera vana vakazvipira kurera mwana uyu kweupenyu hwavo hwese uye vakazvipira kurera vana kuburikidza nezvinhu zvakaoma. ”

– Brooke Randolph

Ndinofunga kuti chikamu chakakosha chekufunga nezvacho pakusarudza kutora kana kusatora kana uine manzwiro uye mari, izvo zvisina kusiyana nekuronga kuzvara mwana wako wekubereka. Izvo zvasara zviri kungopfuura nekuita uye kugadzirira kukura mhuri yako. Kunyange paine zvakawanda zvisingazivikanwe nekugamuchirwa, ndinofunga chidimbu chakakosha kuziva kuti isu tese tiri vanhu. Muchiitiko changu, haufanirwe kunge uri “zvakakwana” mubereki kuti uve muenzaniso wakanaka kumwana wako. Zvichireva, chero uri kuedza nepaunogona napo, ndizvo chete zvinogona kukumbirwa nemwana. Kuva nemaune kunogona kuita mutsauko wese.

Nepo mhuri ichiwanzo fungwa seropa, kana hama dzakaitwa kuburikidza newanano, kurerwa kwevana kunounza maonero matsva eizwi rekuti “mhuri” sezvo zvichibvumira vakaroorana, kana vanhu vamwe navamwe, kukura mhuri yavo “nenzira shoma”. Mhuri inogona kuva, uye iri, kupfuura ropa; ndicho chisungo chinogadzirwa uye chinosimudzirwa mukati meboka revanhu. Pandinofunga nezvetemu ikozvino, handingofungi nezvevanin'ina vangu nevabereki vangu, ndakaona kuti hukama hwemhuri hwakakura kupfuura zvandaimbofunga - chisungo chakaomarara chinogona kusanganisira zvipenyu, uye zvisiri zvebhayoloji. , hukama. Zvakaitika kwandiri zvakatondikurudzira kuti ndifunge zvekurerwa nevabereki vasiri vavo muneramangwana rangu, ndingave ndinokwanisa kuita pamuviri ndega kana kuti kwete, saka ndinokwanisa kugadzira mhuri yangu yakasarudzika.

Saka, ndinokurudzira chero ani zvake ari kufunga kurerwa nevabereki kuti apfuurire nazvo. Hongu, pachava nemibvunzo uye zvinonetsa, uye nguva dzekusavimbika asi kana usipo paunenge uchiita sarudzo huru dzehupenyu?! Kana iwe uine nzira yekutora mwana, kana vana mumba mako, unogona kuita mutsauko. Tsvagiridzo inoratidza kuti kubva muna 2019, pakanga paine vana vanopfuura zviuru zana nemakumi maviri muhurongwa vakamirira kuiswa mumusha unogara (Statista, 120,000) ukuwo 2021 kusvika 2% chete yevaAmerica vakatora mwana, kana vana (Adoption Network, 4). Kune vana vazhinji vari muhurongwa vari kuda mukana wekukura nekukura mumhuri yakagadzikana uye isingachinji. Kupa mwana nemhoteredzo yakanaka kunogona kukanganisa kukura nekukura.

Kuti uwane rumwe ruzivo nezvekuti ungatore sei iwe unogona kushanya adoptuskids.org/adoption-and-foster-care/how-to-adopt-and-foster/state-information kwaunogona kuwana masangano ekurera vana munharaunda yako uye kuwana rumwe ruzivo rwekushanda kuburikidza nehurongwa hwekuunza mwana mutsva, kana vana, mumba mako! Kana uchida kumwe kukurudzira, unogonawo kushanya globalmunchkins.com/adoption/adoption-quotes/ kune makotesheni akapoteredza kurerwa uye zvakanakira kusarudza kutora.

Zvidzidzo:

statista.com/statistics/255375/nhamba-yevana-vakamirira-kutorwa-in-the-united-states/

adoptionnetwork.com/adoption-myths-facts/domestic-us-statistics/

definitions.uslegal.com/t/transracial-adoption/

globalmunchkins.com/adoption/adoption-quotes/