Kubvumbi Mwedzi wekuzivisa nezve Doro
Haisi nhau kuti kushandisa doro zvisina kufanira idambudziko guru rehutano hweveruzhinji. Muchokwadi, ndicho chikonzero chechitatu chinotungamira cherufu runodzivirirwa muUnited States. National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence inofungidzira kuti vanhu zviuru makumi mapfumbamwe nemazana mashanu muUnited States vanofa gore rega rega kubva mukukanganiswa nedoro. NIAAA (National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Addiction) inotsanangura kunwa doro zvisina kufanira sekukanganisa kugona kumisa kana kudzora mashandisiro ainoita kunyangwe paine mhedzisiro. Ivo vanofungidzira vangangoita mamirioni gumi nemashanu vanhu muUnited States vanotambura neizvi (95,000 mamirioni evarume uye 15 mamirioni evakadzi). Iyo inofungidzirwa seisingaperi inodzokorora huropi kusagadzikana uye ingangoita gumi muzana inowana kurapwa.
Ndaiwanzo kuwana mubvunzo kubva kuvarwere nezve izvo zvinonzi "zvisina kunaka kunwa." Murume anonwa zvinwiwa zvinodarika gumi nemana pavhiki (kana zvinopfuura zvinomwe zvinwiwa pasvondo zvemukadzi) "ari panjodzi." Kutsvagurudza kunopa mumwe mubvunzo wakareruka: "kangani mugore rapfuura iwe wakanwa zvishanu kana kupfuura zvinwiwa zvemunhurume, kana kana kupfuura zvevakadzi pazuva rimwe chete?" Mhinduro yeimwe kana dzakawanda zvinoda kuongororwa zvakare. Chinwiwa chimwe chinodhakisa chinosanganisira maoice gumi nemaviri edoro, maoita 14 echidhakwa, kana maawa mashanu ewaini.
Ngatichinjei magiya. Kune rimwewo boka revanhu rakabatwa zvakanyanya nedoro. Ishamwari kana nhengo dzemhuri dzeanonwa. Kana paine mamirioni gumi nematatu evanonwa doro muUnited States, uye zviripo, ngatitii, avhareji yevanhu vaviri kana kupfuura kune mumwe nemumwe akabatwa, unogona kuita math. Huwandu hwemhuri dzakakanganiswa hwakashamisa. Changu chaive chimwe chazvo. Muna 15, Janet Woititz akanyora Vakuru Vana veVadhakwa. Akatyora muganho wekuti chirwere chekudhakwa chakaganhurirwa kune munwi. Akacherekedza kuti vakapindwa muropa vakapoteredzwa kazhinji nevanhu vanoda kuvatenda, uye semhedzisiro, vasingazive vanova chikamu chechimiro chechirwere. Ini ndinofunga vazhinji vedu tinoedzwa kuti tikurumidze kuyedza kugadzirisa "dambudziko" kuitira kuti tirege kunzwa kurwadziwa kana kusagadzikana. Kazhinji izvi zvinotungamira mukushungurudzika uye hazvibatsire.
Ndinoda kuunza matatu "A" mazwi: Kuziva, Kugamuchira, uye Action. Izvi zvinotsanangura hunyanzvi hunodzidziswa nevakawanda vezvehutano maitiro nezve maitiro ekuita mamiriro akaoma muhupenyu. Izvi zvinoshanda chaizvo kumhuri dzevanonwa dambudziko.
Kuzivisa: Dzora pasi kwenguva yakareba zvakakwana kuti unzwisise zvizere uye nekuona mamiriro acho ezvinhu. Tora nguva yekupa kutarisisa kune zviri kuitika. Iva nehanya munguva uye chenjera kune ese mamiriro ezvinhu acho. Teerera kune iro dambudziko uye kuti unonzwa sei nezvazvo. Isa mamiriro acho pasi pegirazi rinokudza repfungwa kuti riwedzere kujekesa uye kunzwisisa.
Acceptance: Ini ndinoidaidza iyo “Ndizvo zvazviri”Nhanho. Kuva akavhurika, kutendeseka, uye kujekesa nezve mamiriro acho kunobatsira kudzikisira kunzwa kwekunyara. Kubvuma hakusi kuregerera.
Chiito: Kune vazhinji vedu "vanogadzirisa" isu tinosvetukira kumabvi-jerk mhinduro. Fungisisa fungisisa sarudzo dzako, kusanganisira (uye izvi zvinonzwika zvakanyanya!), Manzwiro aunoita nezvazvo. Iwe une sarudzo.
Kudzivisa chishuwo cheku "ita chimwe chinhu," uye kufunga uchifunga zviito zvekutora zvine simba. Imwe yezviito izvi zvaunogona kutora kuzvitarisira. Kubatana kune mumwe munhu ari kurwara nechirwere chekudhakwa kunogona kukurira. Kana iwe uchinetseka kana kushushikana, zvinogona kubatsira zvakanyanya kutsvaga rubatsiro kubva kuna chipangamazano kana murapi. Iwe unogona zvakare kutora chikamu muchirongwa chakagadzirirwa shamwari uye nhengo dzemhuri yezvidhakwa, senge al anon.
Pane rimwezve izwi ratinofanira kukurukura. Hazvitangi netsamba A, asi zvakakodzera kucherechedza. Kuenderana. Iro ishoko iro isu tinowanzonzwa asi isu tisingakwanise kunyatsonzwisisa. Handina.
Tsananguro yakanakisa yandakaona yekutsigira kodhi ndiwo maitiro ekuisa pekutanga zvido zvemumwe wako, murume kana mukadzi, nhengo yemhuri, kana shamwari pane zvako zvaunoda. Funga nezvazvo serutsigiro rwakanyanya zvakanyanya zvinova zvisina hutano. Unogona kuda mumwe munhu, kuda kupedza nguva navo uye kuvapo kwavari ... pasina kutungamira kana kubata maitiro avo. Unonzwa kugoneswa nekuva mubatsiri uye vanobva vawedzera kuvimba newe. Pazasi mutsara: mira kupa mhinduro uye kuyedza "kugadzirisa" vanhu vaunoitira hanya, kunyanya kana iwe usina kubvunzwa.
Ini ndichapedzisa nemamwe mazwi mana aunosvika pakunzwisisa paunomisa kutamba neanoshanda chidhakwa. Panyaya iyi vese vanotanga nebhii "C." Unokurumidza kuona kuti hauna chikonzero izvo, haugone masimba It, uye haugone chirwere iyo… asi unogona kuomesa izvozvo.
Zvinyorwa uye Zviwanikwa
https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohols-effects-health/alcohol-use-disorder
https://www.aafp.org/afp/2017/1201/od2.html
https://www.healthline.com/health/most-important-things-you-can-do-help-alcoholic
http://livingwithgratitude.com/three-steps-to-gratitude-awareness-acceptance-and-action/
https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-stop-being-codependent