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Kana iri nyaya yasekuru nambuya amai vangu, ndaita rombo rakanaka. Baba vaamai vangu vakararama kusvika kumakore makumi mapfumbamwe nemaviri. Uye amai vaamai vangu vachiri vapenyu pamakore 92. Vanhu vakawanda havawani nguva yokupedza nguva yakawanda kudaro navanasekuru nanasekuru uye vanasekuru nasekuru vakawanda havawani upenyu hwakareba kudaro. Asi, kuna mbuya vangu, makore mashoma apfuura anga asiri nyore. Uye nokuda kwaizvozvo, zvave zvisiri nyore kuna amai vangu (avo vakanga vachivatarisira nguva yakazara kutozosvikira mwedzi mishomanene yapfuura) uye nokuda kwaTete vangu Pat (uyo anopfuurira kuva muchengeti wavo wenguva yakazara, wenguva yakazara) . Kunyange ndichivatenda nekusingaperi nekupa makore ekuzorora kwavo kuti vachengete ambuya vangu nemhuri yavo, ndinoda kutora miniti, mukuremekedza Mwedzi Wekuzivisa Vachengeti veMhuri, kuti nditaure nezvekuti dzimwe nguva, zvakanakisa, sarudzo dzine musoro dzinoita sei. sechinhu chisina kunaka kuita uye chinogona kuve sarudzo dzakaomesesa dzehupenyu hwedu.

Kuburikidza nekutanga kwavo kusvika pakati pemakore ekuma90 ambuya vangu vakararama hupenyu hwakanaka. Ndaigara ndichiudza vanhu kuti ndainzwa kuti kunyange muukweguru hwake, mararamiro ake akanga akanaka. Aive nemutambo wake wevhiki nevhiki wepenuckle, aiungana kamwe chete pamwedzi kuChidyo cheMadzimai neshamwari, aive chikamu chekirabhu yekucheka, uye aienda kumisa neSvondo. Dzimwe nguva zvaiita sekuti hupenyu hwake hwekugarisana hwaigutsa kupfuura hwangu kana hama dzangu dzaive mumakore edu ekuma20 nema30. Asi zvinosuruvarisa kuti zvinhu hazvina kuzoramba zvakadaro uye mumakore akati wandei apfuura, akachinja. Ambuya vangu vakatanga kuva nechinetso chokuyeuka zvinhu zvakanga zvichangobva kuitika, vakabvunza vabvunzazve mibvunzo yakafanana, uye vakatotanga kuita zvinhu zvaiva nengozi kwavari kana kuti vamwe. Pane dzimwe nguva mai vangu kana mainini Pat vaimuka mbuya vachiedza kubatidza chitofu nekubika kudya kwemanheru. Dzimwe nguva, aiedza kugeza kana kufamba-famba asingashandisi chifambiso chake obva adonha, zvakaomarara, pauriri hwemataira.

Zvaiva pachena kwandiri nemwana wamai vangu, amai vangu vatete Pat, kuti mutoro wokuvachengeta wakanga wava kuvaremera zvikuru. Maererano ne Administration for Community Living, tsvakurudzo inoratidza kuti kutarisira kunogona kuva nemigumisiro inokosha mupfungwa, mumuviri, uye mune zvemari. Vachengeti vanogona kusangana nezvinhu zvakadai sekuora mwoyo, kufunganya, kushushikana, uye kuderera kwehutano hwavo pachavo. Kunyange zvazvo amai vangu naAmainini Pat vaine vamwe vanun’una vatatu, vaviri vacho vanogara pedyo zvikuru, vakanga vasiri kuwana rubatsiro norutsigiro rwavaida kuti vatarisire utano hwavo hwomuviri, hwemirangariro, uye hwepfungwa uye kutarisira mbuya vangu panguva imwe chete. . Amai vangu havana kumbowana zororo chero nguva yakakosha. “Kuzorora” kwaamainini vangu kwaiva kuenda kumba kwemwanasikana wavo (kwehanzvadzi yangu) kunoona vakomana vavo vatatu vari pasi pemakore matatu. Kwete zvakawanda zvekuzorora. Uye mainini vakanga vachengetawo sekuru vedu vasati vafa. Mutero wacho wakanga wava kuva chaiwoiwo, nokukurumidza zvikuru. Vaida rubatsiro rwenyanzvi, asi vakoma vavo vaisabvuma.

Ndinoshuva kuti dai ndave nemagumo anofadza kuti ndigoverane pamusoro pemagadzirirwo emhuri yangu iyi nyaya. Amai vangu, avo vakanga vanetsana nasekuru vangu, vakatamira kuColorado kuti vave pedyo neni nemhuri yangu. Kunyange zvazvo izvi zvakandipa zororo mupfungwa, ndichiziva kuti amai vangu vakanga vasisipo, zvaireva kuti mainini vangu vanyanya kunetseka kupfuura zvavaimboita. Zvakadaro, vamwe vanamainini vangu vaviri nasekuru mumwe vaisabvuma chero rubatsiro runokosha. Nasekuru vangu vaive her power of attorney, hapana zvakawanda zvataigona kuita. Zvaiita sokuti mumwe wamainini vangu (vasingagari mumba naambuya vangu) vakanga vaita chitsidzo kuna baba vavo pavakanga vava pedyo nekuguma kwehupenyu hwavo, kuti vasazomboisa amai vavo muimba huru yekugara. Semaonero aiita mwana wamai vangu, ini, mhamha natete vangu Pat, vimbiso iyi yakanga isingachaitike uye kuchengeta mbuya vangu pamba kwaitova kuvaitira zvakaipa. Akanga asiri kuwana rubatsiro rwaaida nokuti mumhuri mangu hamuna munhu akadzidzira basa rezvoutano. Sezvineiwo Tete vangu Pat, iyezvino ndiye ega munhu anogara pamba naambuya vangu, matsi. Zvaiva nyore kuna mainini kuti varambe vakatsiga vimbiso yavo kana vakwanisa kuenda kumba kwavo usiku kune runyararo nerunyararo, vasingatyi kuti mai vechikuru vangabatidza chitofu vakarara. Asi zvakanga zvisina kunaka kuisa mutoro iwoyo pahanzvadzi dzake vaiziva kuti nguva yakanga yasvika yechikamu chaitevera mukuchengetwa kwambuya vangu.

Ndinoudza nyaya iyi kuratidza kuti mutoro wemuchengeti ndewechokwadi, wakakosha, uye unogona kuomesa. Ndokunongedzawo kuti kunyangwe ndinotenda zvakanyanya kune avo vakabatsira ambuya vangu kuchengetedza hupenyu hwavo, mumusha wavo wavanoda uye munharaunda kwemakore akawanda kudaro, dzimwe nguva kuva pamba hachisi chinhu chakanakisa. Saka, tichiimba rumbidzo yeavo vanozvipira kutarisira mudikanwi, ndinodawo kubvuma kuti kuita sarudzo yekutsvaga rubatsiro rwenyanzvi haisi sarudzo yakaderera yekuitira avo vatinotarisira.