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International Childfree Day

Zuva reInternational Childfree Day rinocherechedzwa nomusi wa1 Nyamavhuvhu gore rega rega sezuva rekupemberera vanhu vanosarudza nekuzvidira kusaita vana uye kukurudzira kugamuchirwa kwesarudzo isina mwana.

Vamwe vanhu vagara vachiziva kuti vanoda vana. Vanoziva kubvira vachiri vadiki kuti vagara vachida kuva vabereki. Ini handina kumbobvira ndave nemanzwiro iwayo - zvakapesana, chaizvo. Ini ndiri mukadzi cisgender akasarudza kusabereka; asi kutaura chokwadi, handina kumbobvira ndasarudza. Sevanhu vagara vachiziva kuti vanoda kuita vana, ndagara ndichiziva kuti handina. Pandinosarudza kugovera sarudzo iyi nevamwe, inogona kusangana nemanzwiro akasiyana siyana uye mhinduro. Dzimwe nguva kuburitsa kwangu kunosangana nerutsigiro nekutaura zvinokurudzira, uye dzimwe nguva… kwete zvakanyanya. Ndasangana nemutauro unozvidzikisira, kubvunza mibvunzo, kunyara, uye kuvenga. Ndakaudzwa kuti handifi ndakava mukadzi chaiye, kuti ndine udyire, uye mamwe mashoko anorwadza. Manzwiro angu akarerutswa, akarambwa, akaderedzwa, kazhinji ndichiudzwa kuti ndichachinja ndangariro yangu kana ndakura kana kuti ndichaada rimwe zuva kana ndakura zvikuru. Zvino, ndinofanira kutaura, sezvo ndave pedyo nemakore makumi mana uye ndakazvikomberedza nemaune nevanhu vanotsigira uye vanosanganisirwa, ndinowana zvirevo izvi kazhinji, asi hazvina kupera zvachose.

Munzanga umo muitiro unobatanidza kutanga mhuri nokurera vana, kusarudza kuva asina mwana kunowanzoonekwa sechinhu chisingawanzoitiki, chinoputsa tsika, uye chisinganzwisisiki. Kunyara, kutonga, uye kutaura zvine hutsinye zvinokuvadza uye zvinogona kukanganisa hutano hwepfungwa nekugara zvakanaka kweumwe munhu. Kuita kwomutsa uye kunzwisisa kungagamuchirwa noushamwari nevanhu vanoita sarudzo yomunhu oga yokusava nevana. Nekubata vanhu vasina vana netsitsi, ruremekedzo, uye kunzwisisa, tinokwanisa kukurudzira nzanga inosanganisirwa uye inogashira inokoshesa sarudzo dzakasiyana siyana uye nzira dzekuzadzikiswa.

Kuve asina mwana hakusi kuramba mubereki kana sarudzo yeudyire, asi sarudzo yemunhu inobvumira vanhu kutevera nzira dzavo. Sezvo nyika ichiwedzera kufambira mberi uye nekusiyana, vanhu vazhinji vari kutambira sarudzo yekurarama hupenyu husina mwana uye nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakasiyana zvemunhu uye zvemunhu. Pane zvikonzero zvisingaverengeki nei vanhu vachisarudza kusava nevana, uye izvi zvinokurudzira zvinogona kusiyana zvakanyanya pamunhu nemunhu. Zvimwe zvikonzero zvinozivikanwa zvinosanganisira kusava nechido chekuva nevana, kugadzikana kwemari, rusununguko rwekukoshesa kuzadzikiswa kwemunhu, kuwandisa kwevanhu / kushushikana kwezvakatipoteredza, zvinangwa zvebasa, hutano / mamiriro emunhu, mamwe mabasa ekutarisira, uye / kana mamiriro azvino enyika. Yeuka kuti chiitiko chemunhu mumwe nomumwe chichave chakasiyana, uye chisarudzo chekusava nemwana ndechemunhu pachake. Zvakakosha kuremekedza nekutsigira sarudzo dzemunhu kuti asarudza kuva nevana here kana kuti kwete; uye kuti mufaro nechirevo zvinogona kuwanikwa munzvimbo dzakasiyana-siyana.

Vamwe vanhu vanowana kugutsikana uye chinangwa muhupenyu kuburikidza nedzimwe nzira dzisiri mubereki. Vangasarudza kuisa simba ravo muzvirondwa zvekugadzira, zvekutandara, kuchengeta vabereki vachembera, kuzvipira, kupa zvipo, uye zvimwe zviitiko zvine musoro zvinoenderana nezvavanokoshesa nezvavanoda. Kusarudza kusava nemwana hazvirevi hupenyu husina kukosha kana kugutsikana. Asi, vanhu vasina vana vane mukana wekuisa simba ravo nezviwanikwa muzvikamu zvakasiyana zvehupenyu hwavo zvinovaunzira mufaro. Ini pachangu, ndinowana mufaro mukuru mukuzvipira, kupedza nguva nemhuri, kuenda kune dzimwe nyika, kutarisira mhuka dzinovaraidza, uye kutevera zvinangwa zvakasiyana-siyana.

Kusarudza kusava nemwana chisarudzo chomunhu chinofanira kuremekedzwa uye kukosheswa. Zvakakosha kuziva kuti kusarudza kusaita vana hakuiti kuti mumwe munhu asakwanisa kuva nerudo, tsitsi, kana kubatsira munharaunda. Nekunzwisisa nekugashira mararamiro asina mwana, tinokwanisa kusimudzira nharaunda inosanganisirwa uye inonzwisisa inogamuchira sarudzo dzakasiyana uye inopemberera kutsvaga mufaro wega nekugutsikana, zvisinei nekuti izvo zvinosanganisira kuva mubereki kana kwete.

psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-the-wild-things-are/202302/11-reasons-people-choose-not-to-have-children#:~:text=Some%20people%20feel%20they%20cannot,other%20children%20in%20their%20lives.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Voluntary_childlessness