Unondi Zadzisa
"Unondi Zadzisa."
Zvakanaka, patinofunga nezvekurumbidza, tinogona kufunga nezvevakakurumbira, pamusoro-pamusoro-soro seizvi kubva mufirimu "Jerry Maguire," inotungamirirwa naCameron Crowe muna 1996.
Ngatiiburutsei pasi zvishoma kana zviviri uye tifunge nezve simba ringave riri mukurumbidza kune anogamuchira pamwe chete neanopa.
Iko chaiko kune Zuva reKurumbidza reNyika iro rinowira gore negore muna Ndira 24. Chinangwa chezororo rino ndechekutaura chimwe chinhu chakanaka kushamwari dzako, mhuri, uye vaunoshanda navo. Ongororo dzakaratidza kuti kupa rumbidzo kunewo zvinobatsira pamunhu ari kupa rumbidzo. Mune mamwe mazwi, ipa rumbidzo uye unogona kuzvifadza iwewo.
“Readers Digest” yakanzvera vanhu mumakore apfuura ndokuwana dzimwe dzerumbidzo dzakanakisisa dzinobatanidza zvinhu zvakadai sokuti: “uri muteereri mukuru,” “uri mubereki anoshamisa,” “unondikurudzira,” “Ndinotenda iwe,” nevamwe.
"Harvard Bhizinesi Ongororo" yakawana kuti vanhu vanowanzo tarisira pasi maitiro ekurumbidza kwavo kune vamwe. Vakaonawo kuti vanhu vari kunyanya kunetseka pamusoro pekugona kwavo kurumbidza neunyanzvi kune mumwe munhu. Isu tose tinonzwa takaneta kana kusagadzikana, uye ipapo kufunganya kwedu kunotisiya tisina tariro pamusoro pemhedzisiro yekurumbidza kwavo.
Kungofanana nekudya zvakanaka uye kurovedza muviri, isu sevanhu tine chido chikuru chekuonekwa, kukudzwa, uye kukosheswa nevamwe vanhu. Izvi ndezvechokwadi mugadziriro yebasa pamwe chete noupenyu hwose.
Mumwe munyori akatenda kuti ndezvekugadzira tsika yekutenda. Izvi zvingave zvakakosha iye zvino kupfuura kare. Kugara uchitaura kuonga kune mumwe munhu kunobatsira kugadzira tsika iyi. Mhedzisiro yezviito zvakanaka izvi hazvigone kuwedzeredzwa.
Kufanana nechero chinhu chakakosha kuita, zvinoda kudzidzira. Vamwe vedu vanonyara kana kuti vanotya uye hatina kusununguka kutaura manzwiro edu. Ini ndinotenda kana iwe uchinge wawana kureba kwayo, kupa rumbidzo kana kurumbidza kunove nyore, kugadzika uye kwakakosha zuva nezuva basa.
Unenge uchitaura kuonga kwako kwechokwadi kune waunoshanda naye, sabhuku, weta, mushandi wemuchitoro, kana kuti kunyange mukwanyina wako, vana vako, uye vamwene vako.
Vatsvagiri vakaona kuti nzvimbo imwechete yehuropi, iyo striatum, inobatiswa kana munhu apihwa mubairo wekurumbidza kana mari. Izvi dzimwe nguva zvinodaidzwa kuti "mibairo yemagariro." Tsvagiridzo iyi inogona kuenderera mberi ichikurudzira kuti kana striatum ikamiswa, inoita kunge inokurudzira munhu kuita zvirinani panguva yekurovedza muviri.
Kungava kuti kugamuchira rumbidzo kunobudisa kemikari muuropi inonzi dopamine. Ndiyo kemikari imwe chete inoburitswa patinopinda murudo, tichidya zvinonaka, kana kufungisisa. I“mubayiro wezvakasikwa” uye inzira yekukurudzira maitiro mamwe chetewo mune ramangwana.
Kutenda, ndinotenda, ndicho chiito chakakosha chiri kuitika pano. Uye kuve wakananga, kana iwe uchida kukanganisa hupenyu hwako kuti huve nani, teerera kune zvaunofunga nezvazvo. Iri isimba rerutendo. Kukoshesa mumwe munhu kunosimbisa ukama hwako naye. Inogona kutokurudzira mumwe wako kana waunoshanda naye kuti aitewo saizvozvo. Zvakare, kana mumwe munhu akakupa rumbidzo, gamuchira! Vanhu vazhinji vanogamuchira kurumbidzwa nekunyara (oo kwete!), vachizvishora (haa zvanga zvisina kunaka zvachose), kana kuti kazhinji kuzvibvisa. Vazhinji vedu takatarisa zvakanyanya pazvinhu zvatisingade zvekuti tinoregeredza zvinhu zvakanaka zviri kutaurwa nevanhu vakatipoteredza. Kana wawana rumbidzo, usazviwisire pasi, bvisa rumbidzo, ratidza kusasimba kwako, kana kuti rangova rombo rakanaka. Pane kudaro, iva anoonga uye ane nyasha, iti mazvita, uye kana zvakakodzera, ipa rumbidzo yako pachako.
Kuita kuti kuchinjana kwakanaka uku kuve tsika kunotungamira kune yakasimba pfungwa yehukama hwepedyo, kuvimbana, uye kuva munhu. Kuwedzera kudzidzira kutenda muhukama hwako hwose kunogona kutungamirira kukudzikama, kufara iwe. Saka, ratidza kuonga kwako mumwe munhu nekuisa pfungwa pazvinhu zvine mufungo (uye dzimwe nguva zvisingaonekwe) zvavanoita.
Vanhu vanotenda vanowanzoitawo maitiro ane hutano chikamu chemararamiro avo. Vanoita nguva yekuongororwawo zvavo. Vanosimbisa muviri zvakanyanya uye vanoita sarudzo dzine hutano pamusoro pekudya nekunwa. Zvinhu zvose izvi zvinovandudza hutano.
Tsanangudzo pamusoro pezvikwata munzvimbo yebasa: kutenda kwakakosha kune hutano hwechikwata. Nhengo dzechikwata dzinonzwa kukoshesa uye kuzivikanwa dzinowedzera manzwiro aya kune vamwe, zvichigadzira kutenderera kwakanaka.
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