Kudzivirira: Man Smart, Mukadzi Akapusa

Pandakanga ndiri kukoreji, ini ndaida kuve wekunyoreswa wezvekudya. Kudya zvine hutano uye tsika yekurovedza muviri kwakakosha mukudzivirira zvirwere zvakawanda kune vese vakadzi nevarume, uye ini ndaifunga kuti kuve tsika yekudya hakuzobatsire ini chete nevarwere vangu, asiwo mhuri yangu neshamwari. Nehurombo, ini handisi kunyatsogona math kana sainzi, saka basa iri harina kundishandira, asi ndichiri kushandisa ruzivo rwandakatora kubva kuhutano hwakasiyana nehutano hwezvidzidzo makosi uye vekudzidzira kuti vaedze kubatsira mhuri yangu neshamwari kuve zvine hutano.

Ini ndinonyanya kutarisa pakubatsira varume vari muhupenyu hwangu kuve nehutano: baba vangu, hama yangu uye mukomana wangu. Sei? Nekuti varume vane hupenyu hwakaderera hwekugara kupfuura vakadzi - paavhareji, varume vanofa vashoma pamakore mashanu pane vakadzi.¹  Nekuti varume vanokwanisa kufa kubva kune vazhinji vepamusoro gumi vekufa, mazhinji acho anogona kudzivirirwa, kusanganisira chirwere cheshuga, chirwere chemoyo, uye chirwere chechiropa kana cheitsvo.² Uye nekuti varume vanowanzo kudzivirira kuona vanachiremba vavo, uye kuwona chiremba idanho rakakosha mukudzivirira.³ Vanhurume zvakare zvakanyanya kushoma kuisa pane sunscreen pavanobuda kunze. Zvakanaka, ini ndakagadzira iyo yekupedzisira kumusoro, asi ichokwadi kune varume vari muhupenyu hwangu kanopfuura!

Rimwe remabhendi andinofarira iGrateful Dead, uye vaiwanzovhara rwiyo runonzi "Man Smart, Woman Smarter." Kunyangwe ini ndisingabvumirane zvachose uye ndisiri kusimudzira murume kana murume pane imwe nzira, ndinofanira kubvuma kuti sainzi inoratidza kuti vakadzi "vakangwara" mukudzivirira kupfuura varume. Ichi chinhu chakanakira hutano hwevakadzi zvese, asi zvinorevawo kuti tinogona kubatsira varume muhupenyu hwedu kuti vave nani uye nehungwaru pakudzivirira.

Uye June inguva yakanaka yekutanga: mwedzi yehutano hweVarume, iyo inotarisa mukusimudzira kuziva kwehutano husingadzivirirwe hutano uye inokurudzira kuona nekurapa kwezvirwere zvechirume nevarume.

Ndinoedza kuyeuchidza baba vangu, hama, uye musikana wekubuditsa nzira dziri nyore dzekugara uine hutano pasina kukwirira. Izvi zvakaoma kupfuura zvinoita, asi zvakanyanya kukosha! Ndinoedza kuvabatsira kuti vagone kuita hutano hwekudya (baba vangu vanondidaidza kuti snack monitor), ndichivamanikidza kuti varovedze neni kunyange kana chiri chinhu chekupedzisira chavanoda kuita, kana kuvayeuchidza kuti vapfeke pazera rezuva chero pavanobuda panze (kunyanya kana vanondishanyira kuno muColorado, nekuti tinobva kuNew York uye zuva reColorado riri STRONG).

Ini ndinoedzawo kuve nechokwadi chekuti ivo vari kuona chiremba uye chiremba wemazino nguva zhinji kuti vagare vari padhuze nekubata chero zvidiki zvidiki vasati vatendeuka kuva matambudziko makuru. Vangandiwana ndichishatirisa, kunyanya kana ndiri mugwara rekutarisamo snack mode, asi ivo vanoziva kudaro nekuti ini ndinonyanyofunga nezvavo uye ndinoda kuti vagare vaine hutano. Ivo vangasanditeerera nguva dzese, asi ini ndicharamba ndichiedza zvakadaro, kunyanya panguva yeVarume Mwedzi Wehutano. Mwedzi uno, isu tese ngatishingei kukurudzira varume vari muhupenyu hwedu kuti vatange kuvandudza maitiro ane hutano anogona kutungamira kuhupenyu hwakanaka. Kunyangwe zvinhu zvidiki zvinogona kubatsira kuita mutsauko uye kutendeuka izvo zvitambi zvakatenderedza!

Sources

1. Harvard Health Publishing, Harvard Medical Chikoro: Nei varume vachiwanzofa kare kupfuura vakadzi - 2016: https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/why-men-often-die-earlier-than-women-201602199137
2. Hutano hweVarume veNetwork: Zvikonzero zvepamusoro Zvekufa neRudzi, Bonde, uye Tsika - 2016: https://www.menshealthnetwork.org/library/causesofdeath.pdf
3. Cleveland Clinic Newsroom: Cleveland Clinic Muongorori: Varume vanozoita chero chipi zvacho kudzivirira kuenda kuna chiremba - 2019: https://newsroom.clevelandclinic.org/2019/09/04/cleveland-clinic-survey-men-will-do-almost-anything-to-avoid-going-to-the-doctor/