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Mhuri Dzokurera Ndechimwe Chinhu Chokupemberera

Ndichikura handina kumbofunga nezveshoko rokuti “mhuri yokurera.” Nguva zhinji youduku hwangu ndaipedza ndiri mumhuri ine vabereki vaviri. Asi upenyu hunochinjana isu hationi huchiuya uye shoko rokuti “mhuri yokurera” rakaguma rava netapuro huru muupenyu hwangu, sezvo ndakariona mumativi maviri akasiyana.

Chiitiko changu chokutanga ndiine mhuri yokurera chandakaita panyaya yevana, pandakawana amai vokurera. Iye zvino, ndine amai vokubereka vanonyanya kukosha muupenyu hwangu uye vandinoti munhu wandinovimba naye. Asi izvozvo zvakanga zvisingarevi kuti basa raamai vangu vokurera raiva rokuva mutorwa kana kuti ndaisada mumwe munhu waamai. Hukama hwangu naamai vangu vokurera hwaikosha uye hune chinangwa zvakare, chimwe chinhu chandinofunga kuti vamwe vanhu havatarisiri kana kunyatsonzwisisa.

Pandakatanga kusangana naamai vangu vokurera, Julie, ndakanga ndichangopfuura makore 20 saka kutsamwa kana chigumbu hazvina kunyatsoshanda. Ndakanga ndagara ndichida kuti vabereki vangu vadzokerane uye zvaisaita sokuti aizondiranga kana kugara neni. Hameno kuti baba vaive nemusikana asi ndakavafarira. Saka, baba vangu pavakaronga makore mashoma gare gare, ndakanga ndichibvuma uye ndakafara. Ndakanga ndisingafungiri kuti amai vangu vokurera vaizopinda sei mumwoyo mangu, pasinei nezera randakatanga kudanana.

Ndiri pakati pema20s, ndakasarudza kubvuma basa muDenver. Panguva iyi, Julie akanga abatwa kenza uye yakanga ichipararira. Yakanga iri nhanho 4. Iye nababa vangu vaigara kuEvergreen saka ndaiziva kuti kutama uku kwaizondibvumira kupedza nguva naye uye kubatsira pose pandaikwanisa. Ndakagara navo kuEvergreen kwekanguva ndichitsvaga imba. Julie aisanyatsotenda mune "nhanho" mavara. Vakandibata zvakafanana nevana vavo vatatu vokubereka. Paaindisuma, aiti “uyu ndiye mwanasikana wedu, Sarah.” Akandiudza kuti aindida pese pandaimuona kana kutaura naye, uye aindichengeta sezvinoita amai. Julie paakaona mupendero weskirt yangu uchisvika wakafukunurwa akabva asona. Aramu yangu yebasa payakarira na2:00 mangwanani, ndakamutswa neruzha rwemugadziri wekofi achidzvanya pakugadzira kofi ichangobva kubikwa. Ndakasvika kumba masikati kudziya kwatove patafura. Handina kumbokumbira chimwe chezvinhu izvi, ndaikwanisa zvizere kuzvitarisira. Akazviita nekuti aindida.

Ndakakwanisa kupedza makore akati kuti ezororo, kudya kwemanheru, kushanya, uye nhambo dzinokosha naJulie kenza yake isati yanyanya kuipa. Rimwe zuva muchirimo, ndakagara mukamuri rinochengeterwa vakwegura nemitezo yemhuri yake sezvatakamuona achiverevedza. Apo vazhinji vemhuri yavo vakaenda kuzvokudya zvemasikati, ndakamubata ruoko apo iye akanga achinetseka ndokumuudza kuti ndaimuda sezvo iye akatora mweya wake wokupedzisira. Handaizombofa ndakafanana pashure pokunge ndarasikirwa naye, uye handifi ndakakanganwa kubata kwaakaita upenyu hwangu. Aindida nenzira yaaisambofanira kuita, yaisambotarisirwa. Uye mune dzimwe nzira, izvozvo zvaireva zvinopfuura rudo runopiwa nomubereki wokubereka.

Kwangopera gore, ndakatanga kudanana nemumwe murume akazova murume wangu. Ndakaona, pamusoro pemaburger nedoro, kuti akanga akarambwa uye baba vevakomana vaduku vaviri. Pfungwa yangu yekutanga yaive yekubvunza kana ndaikwanisa kuzvibata. Ndakabva ndarangarira kuti pfungwa yaamai vokurera nemhuri yokurera yaishamisa sei. Ndakafunga nezvaJulie uye kundigamuchira kwaakaita mumhuri yake, muupenyu hwake, uye mumwoyo make. Ndaiziva kuti ndaimuda murume uyu, kunyangwe ndaimuziva kwemaawa mashoma, uye ndaiziva kuti aive akakodzera kufamba izvi. Pandakasangana nevanakomana vake, vakanyurawo mumwoyo mangu nenzira yandaisatarisira.

Iri rimwe divi resimba remhuri yekurera raive diki diki. Kutanga, vana ava vaiva vadiki kwandiri pandakava mwana wokurera. Asiwo kugara navo kwainge kwakaoma nekuziva maitiro. Tisingatauri, denda reCCIDID-19 rakauya ndichangogara, saka ndanga ndichishanda kumba uye ivo vaienda kuchikoro kumba, uye hapana mumwe wedu aienda kumwe… Pakutanga, ndaisada kudarika, asi ndaisada kufambiswa pose pose. Ndaisada kupindirana nezvinhu zvisiri zvebasa rangu asi ndaisadawo kuita sendisina basa nazvo. Ndaida kuvaisa pokutanga uye ukama hwedu. Ndinenge ndichinyepa kuti hapana marwadzo ari kukura. Zvakatora nguva kuti ndiwane nzvimbo yangu, basa rangu, uye mwero wangu wekunyaradza. Asi iye zvino ndinofara kutaura kuti ini nevana vangu vokurera tinodanana uye tine hanya zvikuru. Ndinofunga vanondiremekedzawo.

Munhoroondo, mabhuku enyaya anga asina mutsa kuna amai vokurera; haufanirwe kutarisa kunze kweDisney. Rimwe zuva ndakaona imwe "American Horror Nhau” chiitiko chakanzi “Facelift” umo amai vokurera, vakanga vari pedyo nemwanasikana wavo wokurera, vakatanga kuita “zvakaipa” uye kutaura se“haasi mwanasikana wangu chaiye!” Nyaya yacho yakazopera mwanasikana paakaona kuti “amai vake chaivo” vaimuchengeta kudarika amai vake vokurera. Ndinodzungudza musoro pandinoona zvinhu izvi nokuti handitendi kuti nyika inogaronzwisisa kuti mhuri yokurera inorevei. Pandakaunza amai vangu vokurera mukukurukurirana, ndaigarosangana nemashoko okuti “unomuvenga here?” kana kuti “ane zera newe here?” Ndinoyeuka rimwe gore ndakaudza mumwe wandaishanda naye kuti Zuva raAmai izororo guru kwandiri nokuti ndinopemberera vakadzi vatatu – ambuya vangu, amai vangu, naamai vangu vokurera. Mhinduro yaive "sei uchitengera amai vako vekurera chipo?" Pakashaya Julie, ndakaudza basa rangu rekare kuti ndaizoda kumbozorora uye ndakaora mwoyo apo mhinduro yaibva kuna HR yaiva yokuti, “Aa, ndiamai vako vokurera chete? Ipapo unongowana 2 days." Ndinozviona pane dzimwe nguva iye zvino, nevana vangu vokurera, sezvo vamwe vanhu vasinganyatsonzwisisi chido changu chokuvabata sezvandingaita mhuri yangu kana kunzwisisa rudo rwangu nekuzvipira kwangu kwavari. Izvo zvisingaratidzi zita rekuti "nhanho" kubatana kwakadzama, kunoreva kwaungave uine nemubereki kana mwana muhupenyu hwako, izvo zvisiri zvehupenyu. Tinozvinzwisisa mumhuri dzokurera, asi neimwe nzira kwete nguva dzose mumhuri dzokurera.

Sezvatinopemberera Zuva Remhuri Dzokurera, ndinoda kutaura kuti mabasa angu mumhuri dzokurera akandichinja munzira dzakawanda dzakanaka, akandibvumira kuona kuti rudo rusina muganhu runogona kuva uye kuti ungakoshesa zvakadini munhu angave asiri iye. aripo kubva pakutanga asi amire padivi penyu zvakangodaro. Chandinongoda chete kuita zvakanaka saamai vekurera saJulie. Ndinonzwa kuti handifi ndakakwanisa kurarama maererano naye, asi ndinoedza zuva rega rega kuti vana vangu vekurera vanzwe mhando yerudo rwune chinangwa rwandakanzwa kubva kwaari. Ndinoda kuti vanzwisise kuti ndakavasarudza, uye ndicharamba ndichivasarudza semhuri yangu kweupenyu hwangu hwose. Ndinobatikana muupenyu hwavo hwezuva nezuva. Ini, pamwe chete nevabereki vavo chaivo, tinogadzira zvokudya zvavo zvemasikati, tovasiya mangwanani, tovambundira nokuvatsvoda, uye ndinovada zvikuru. Vanoziva kuti vanogona kuuya kwandiri kuti vabatsirwe nemabvi avo akakwenya, pavanenge vachida kunyaradzwa, uye kana vachida kuti mumwe munhu aone chimwe chinhu chinoshamisa chavakaita. Ndinoda kuti vazive kuti vanondirevesa sei uye kuti kundivhurira kwavakaita mwoyo yavo ndechimwe chinhu chandisingamboregi kurerutsa. Pavanomhanyira kwandiri kuti vandiudze kuti vanondida kana kundikumbira kuti ndivavhare usiku, ndinoshaya kuti ndofunga sei rombo rakanaka muupenyu randakaita kuva navo sevana vangu vokurera. Ndauya kuti ndizivise munhu wose asina ruzivo rwemhuri yokurera kuti imhuri chaidzo zvakare uye rudo rwuri mavari rwakangosimbawo. Uye ndinovimba nekufamba kwenguva, nzanga yedu inogona kuwana zvishoma zviri nani pakuvavaka, pane kuvaderedza, uye kukurudzira kukura kwavo uye nekuwedzera "bhonasi" rudo rwavanotiunzira.