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Kuumba Mhuri Yekurera

By Sara W

Uyezve paive nevashanu.

Kutanga kwaFebruary, ini nemurume wangu takava nemwana. Chikonzero chinoita kuti tive mhuri yevashanu ndechokuti ane vamwe vanakomana vaviri, vana vangu vokurera, vane makore manomwe nepfumbamwe. Ndivo vana vangu bonus, ndivo vakaita kuti ndinzwe semubereki. Taita rombo rakanaka kuva nevakomana vatatu zvino; tiri mhuri yokurera izere norudo.

Ndakambonyora nezvayo zvakaitika kwandiri ndiri mumwe wemhuri yokurera, zvose semwanasikana wekurera uye amai vokurera, asi zvinhu zvakashanduka mberi nekuwedzera kwaLucas musi waFebruary 4, 2023. Vana vangu vokurera iye zvino vane hafu-mukoma. Simba rachinja, asi rudo rwangu kuvana vangu vekurera haruna. Ndainetseka kuti vangafunga kuti ndinoda mwana mutsva nokuti ndiye "wangu," asi chaizvoizvo, ndinongonzwa ndiri pedyo nevana vangu vaduku kupfuura zvandakaita Lucas asati aberekwa. Isu zvino takabatanidzwa pamwe chete neropa kuburikidza naLucas uye tiri vazhinji vemhuri kupfuura kare. Uye nokutendeseka, ivo vachagara vari vacheche vekutanga mumoyo mangu. Vakandiita “amai,” nokuti ndaivatarisira saamai kwemakore akawanda pamberi paLucas, uye vakaita kuti ndinzwisise rudo rwuri pakati pomutarisiri nemwana. Vachabatawo nzvimbo yakakosha mumoyo mangu nekuti takasarudza kudanana uye kuva nehukama hwepedyo. Chakanga chisiri chimwe chinhu chavakaberekerwa machiri. Zvaikosha kwandiri kuti vazive kuti kunyange mwana mutsva achida kutarisirwa zvakanyanya, hazvirevi kuti haakoshi kwandiri. Mwana wangu wokurera mukuru, Zach, anopedza nguva achitsvakurudza zviitiko zvemwana uye kukura; anonetseka apo munun’una wake mucheche anochema uye anoedza kufunga kuti nei agumbuka; anofarira kunhonga chipfeko chinopfekwa naLucas mangwanani uye anotamba naye lullabies paYouTube kuyedza kumuita kuti arare. Mwanakomana wangu wokurera muduku, Kyle, akanga asingafariri munun’una wake mutsva pakutanga. Zvakaoma kuerekana waita mwana wepakati kana wada kutariswa uye wajaira kuve mucheche. Asi mumwedzi inoverengeka yapfuura, akatanga kufarira, achikumbira kusunda chingoro chake, uye kutaura kuti mwana wacho akanaka sei. Anonyemwerera mukamuri munun'una wake paanouya nesu kuzvidzidzo zvaKyle zvejiu-jitsu kana kuti zvekutuhwina. Ndinogona kunzwisisa kuti panogara paine mamwe manzwiro akavhengana evana kana mwana mutsva apinda mumufananidzo, saka ndaizonzwisisa kana pasina kana mumwe wavo ainzwa kufara zvakanyanya nezvekuva naye pedyo, asi zvinoshamisa kuvaona vachifarira kuva naye sechikamu che mhuri.

Ndizvo zvakaita mhuri yangu yokurera. Ndakabatikana zvikuru muupenyu hwevana vangu vokurera; Ndinovachengeta sezvinoita mubereki. Ndagara ndichiomerera kumurume wangu pamusoro pokugoverana mitoro yevabereki naye pavanenge vari mumba medu (inova 50% yenguva yacho). Ndinoenda navo kuchikoro, ndinogadzira kudya kwemasikati, kuvararisa usiku, uye kunyange kuvaranga pazvinenge zvakakodzera—pamwe chete nomurume wangu, anova baba vanoshamisa kuvakomana vose vari vatatu uye anobatikana zvikuru mukuvatarisira vose. Zvaikosha kwandiri kuti tese tive mhuri. Ndiyo chete nzira yandaigona kufungidzira kuva amai vokurera. Asi ndakadzidza kuti kune nzira dzakawanda dzokuva naamai vokurera uye mhuri yokurera, uye hapana kana imwe yadzo isina kururama. Izvo zvese nezve izvo zvinokushandira iwe murwendo rwako, uye inogona kuve yakaoma kufamba. Zvinotora nguva kuwana basa rako somubereki wokurera uye mumhuri yokurera. Chiverengero chandakanzwa ndechekuti zvinotora makore manomwe kunyatsobatanidza mhuri. Ndiri mugore rechitatu, ndichienderera mberi nechina izvozvi, asi zvinhu zvatowedzera kugadzikana, nyore, uye kufara.

KUNE zvinhu ZVAKAWANDA zvakasiyana-siyana zvokuverenga nezvemhuri dzokurera. Pandakatanga kugara nemurume wangu iye zvino-murume uye vana vokurera, ndakanga ndichiri kufunga kuti ndopinda sei mune simba, uye ndakaverenga zvakawanda zvinyorwa uye mablogiki. Ndakapindawo mumapoka mashoma epaFacebook evana vekurera apo vanhu vaigovana nyaya dzavaisangana nadzo vachikumbira mazano. Ndakaona kuti kune nyika yese yemadimikira ane chekuita nemhuri dzekurera. Semuyenzaniso:

  • BM = biological amai (bio amai)
  • SK, SS, SD = mwana wekurera, mwana wekurera, mwana wekurera
  • DH = murume anodiwa
  • EOWE = imwe neimwe chibvumirano chekuchengetedza kwevhiki

Chimwe chinhu chikuru chandakaona chichitaurwa chaive NACHO, zvinoreva kuti "nacho kids, nacho problem," kana "nacho circus, nacho tsoko." Vana mai vekurera pamhepo vanowanzo taura nezve "NACHOing," kureva kusabuda pabasa reubereki nevana vavo vekurera. Izvi zvinogona kutaridzika sezvinhu zvakawanda uye pane zvikonzero zvakawanda nei vanhu vachisarudza nzira iyi, iyo yakasiyana zvakanyanya neiyo yandakasarudza. Kune vamwe, vana vavo vokurera vanenge vachiri kuyaruka kana kuti vakuru. Kune vamwe, imhaka yokuti amai vokubereka havadi kuti amai vokurera vevana vavo “vadarike.” Kune vamwe, imhaka yokuti vana vavo vokurera havavagamuchiri mubasa romubereki. Ndakaita rombo rakanaka nekuti hapana chimwe cheizvi chakashanda kwandiri, asi zvinonzwisisika kuti vamwe vanaamai vekurera vanofanirwa kutora chikamu muhupenyu hwevana vavo vekurera zvinova basa rekumashure. Uye zvinoshanda kwavari. Vamwe vakaita seshamwari yepamoyo kana tete kuvana vavo vekurera. Vanoita zvinhu navo uye vanovada asi havaedzi kuvabereka kana kuvaranga zvachose, vanosiira izvozvo kuvabereki chaivo.

Kunyange ndichibvuma kuti nzira dzese dzekurera vana dzevabereki dzakanaka, ndakaona kuti havasi vese vane pfungwa dzakavhurika online. Pandakanyora paforamu ndichitsanangura mamiriro ezvinhu mumba mangu uye ndichitsvaga zano, ndakagamuchira mutongo kune murume wangu neni pamusoro pekubatanidzwa kwangu nevana vangu vekurera! Ndakabvunzwa kuti sei ndaiitira vana vangu vekurera kana murume wangu aripo uye nei aivepo Kugadzirwa ndinobata vana kwete kutora. Ini handina mutongo kune vamwe vanosarudza kuve nemaoko-off kana izvo zvichishanda kumhuri yavo uye zvichiita kuti vagadzikane kana kufara. Asi, ndinovimba uye ndinotarisira zvakafanana kubva kune vamwe mukusarudza kwangu kuve nemaoko-pakawanda.

Zano rangu kune chero munhu ari mubishi rekubatanidza mhuri nderekuti uite zvinokunakira iwe. Hapana nzira yakarurama uye isina kururama yokuva mhuri yokurera, chero bedzi vana vachidiwa uye vachichengetwa, uye munhu ari wose akasununguka nemamiriro acho ezvinhu. Kuverenga zvinyorwa kana shinda pamhepo dzimwe nguva kunogona kubatsira, asi zvakare, tora nesadza remunyu nekuti zvinhu zvakawanda zvinopokana, uye vanhu ivavo havazive mamiriro ako pachako. Ndingatiwo zvakakosha! Handikwanise kutsanangura mufaro wekuona mwana wangu mukomana achitsvoda kubva kune vakoma vake vakuru kana kuona zviso zvavo zvichipenya apo Lucas anovanyemwerera.