ʻO ʻApelila ka mahina hoʻomaopopo no ka ʻalekohola
ʻAʻole ia he nūhou ʻo ka hoʻohana hewa ʻana i ka waiʻona ka pilikia nui o ke olakino lehulehu. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ia ke kolu o nā kumu ke kumu o ka hiki ke pale ʻia i ka make ma United States. Ua kuhi ka National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence ua make he 95,000 mau kānaka ma United States i kēlā me kēia makahiki mai nā hopena o ka ʻalekohola. NIAAA (National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Addiction) wehewehe i ka hōʻino ʻana i ka ʻona ma ke ʻano he kūpono ʻole e kū a kāohi paha i kāna hoʻohana ʻana me nā hopena. Kuhi lākou he ʻaneʻane 15 miliona mau kānaka ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa e ʻeha mai kēia (9.2 miliona kāne a me 5.3 miliona mau wahine). Ua manaʻo ʻia he maʻi lolo hoʻi hou a ma kahi o 10% wale nō e loaʻa ai ka lāʻau.
E loaʻa pinepine wau i ka nīnau mai nā mea maʻi e pili ana i ka mea i manaʻo ʻia he "inu maikaʻi ʻole." ʻO ke kāne e inu ana ma mua o 14 mau inu i kēlā me kēia pule (a i ʻoi aku paha ma mua o ʻehiku mau inu i kēlā me kēia pule no ka wahine) "weliweli." Hōʻike ka noiʻi i kahi nīnau maʻalahi hoʻi: "Ehia mau manawa i ka makahiki i hala i loaʻa ai iā ʻoe he ʻelima a ʻoi aku paha inu no kahi kāne, ʻehā a ʻoi paha no ka wahine i hoʻokahi lā?" ʻO kahi pane o hoʻokahi aʻoi aʻe paha pono e loiloi hou. Hoʻokahi inu ʻona me 12 auneke pia, 1.5 auneke inu rama, a i ʻole 5 auneke waina.
E hoʻololi i nā kapa. Aia kekahi hui kanaka e loli nui ʻia e ka ʻalekohola. ʻO ia nā hoaaloha a ʻohana paha o ka mea inu. Inā he 15 miliona mau mea inu ʻona ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa, a aia, e ʻōlelo mākou, he awelika o ʻelua a ʻoi paha mau kānaka no kēlā me kēia mea i hoʻopili ʻia, maikaʻi, hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i ka makemakika. He mea kupaianaha ka helu o nā ʻohana. ʻO kaʻu kekahi o lākou. I ka makahiki 1983, ua kākau ʻo Janet Woititz ʻO nā kamaliʻi makua ʻo nā Alika. Ua wāwahi ʻo ia i ka pale i paʻa ka maʻi ʻona i ka mea inu. Ua ʻike ʻo ia i ka hoʻopuni pinepine ʻia e nā poʻe makemake e manaʻoʻiʻo iā lākou, a ʻo ka hopena, lilo i ʻike ʻole i ʻāpana o ke ʻano o ka maʻi. Manaʻo wau e hoʻowalewale ʻia ka hapa nui o mākou e hoʻāʻo koke e hoʻoponopono i kahi "pilikia" i ʻole mākou e ʻike i ka ʻeha a i ʻole ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻole. Lawe pinepine kēia i ka huhū a kōkua ʻole.
Makemake wau e hoʻolauna i ʻekolu mau huaʻōlelo “A”: ʻIke, ʻae ʻia, a hana. Hōʻike kēia i kahi ʻenehana i aʻo ʻia e nā mea lapaʻau olakino e pili ana i ke ʻano e hoʻokokoke ai i nā hanana pilikia i ke ola. Pili kēia i nā ʻohana o nā mea inu ʻona.
kaʻike: E lohi i ka lōʻihi e hoʻomaopopo piha a ʻike i ke kūlana. E hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e nānā i ka mea e hana nei. E noʻonoʻo i ka manawa a makaʻala i nā ʻano āpau o ke kūlana. E nānā i ka hoʻopiʻi a pehea kou manaʻo e pili ana iā ia. E kau i ke kūlana ma lalo o ke aniani hoʻonui ʻike no ka nui o ka mōakāka a me ka ʻike.
ʻAeʻia: Kāhea wau i kēia ka “ʻO ia ia”ʻAnuʻu. ʻO ka hāmama, hoʻopono, a me ka aniani e pili ana i ke kūlana e kōkua i ka hōʻemi ʻana i nā hilahila. ʻAʻohe ʻae ʻia ka ʻae ʻana.
hana: No ka hapanui o mākou he "fixers" lele mākou i nā hopena kuli. E noʻonoʻo pono i kāu koho ʻana, me (a kani kolohe kēia!), Pehea kou manaʻo e pili ana iā ia. He koho kāu.
Ke pale nei i ka manaʻo e "hana i kekahi mea," a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i nā hana e hana ai he mana. ʻO kekahi o kēlā mau hana i hiki iā ʻoe ke mālama i ka mālama pilikino. Pili loa i kekahi e hakakā ana me ka maʻi o ka wai ʻona hiki ke loli. Inā kaumaha a kaumaha paha ʻoe, hiki ke kōkua nui i ka ʻimi ʻana i ke kōkua mai kahi kākāʻōlelo a mea hoʻoponopono paha. Hiki iā ʻoe ke komo pū i kahi papahana i hoʻolālā ʻia no nā hoaaloha a me nā ʻohana o ka poʻe ʻona lama, e like me al anon.
Aia kekahi huaʻōlelo hou a mākou e kūkā ai. ʻAʻole ia e hoʻomaka me ka leka A, akā pono e hoʻomaopopo. Codependance. He huaʻōlelo a mākou e lohe pinepine ai akā ʻaʻole maopopo ʻole paha. ʻAʻole wau.
ʻO ka wehewehe maikaʻi loa aʻu i ʻike ai no ka hilinaʻi ʻana he kumu o ka prioritizing ʻana i nā pono o kahi hoa, pākahi, ʻohana lālā, a i ʻole he hoa aloha ma mua o kāu mau pono pilikino. E noʻonoʻo e like me ke kākoʻo he lōʻihi loa ia e lilo i olakino. Hiki iā ʻoe ke aloha i kekahi, makemake e noho manawa me lākou a ma laila no lākou ... me ka ʻole o ke kuhikuhi a hoʻokele i kā lākou ʻano. Manaʻo ʻoe i ka mana e ka mea kōkua a lilo lākou i mea nui aʻe iā ʻoe. Ke laina lalo: e hoʻōki i ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā hopena a me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e "hoʻoponopono" i ka poʻe āu e mālama nui ai, keu ke noi ʻole ʻia ʻoe.
E hoʻopau wau me nā huaʻōlelo ʻehā āu i ʻike ai ke pau ʻoe i ka hulahula me ka mea ʻonā ʻona. I kēia hihia hoʻomaka lākou āpau me ka leka "C." ʻIke koke ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe kumu ia, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe hooponopono ia, a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ho'ōla ʻo ia ... akā hiki iā ʻoe keʻoiaʻiʻo hoʻopilikia ia mea.
Nā kūmole a me nā kumuwaiwai
https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohols-effects-health/alcohol-use-disorder
https://www.aafp.org/afp/2017/1201/od2.html
https://www.healthline.com/health/most-important-things-you-can-do-help-alcoholic
http://livingwithgratitude.com/three-steps-to-gratitude-awareness-acceptance-and-action/
https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-stop-being-codependent