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Eia mākou. Ua hiki mai ka hopena o ka makahiki; ʻike mākou ʻo ka manawa kēia no ka hauʻoli, ka hoʻolauleʻa, a me ka pilina me nā mea aloha. Akā naʻe, nui ka poʻe i kaumaha a mehameha paha. ʻO ka mea pōʻino, ʻo ka kūleʻa i ke ola i kēia mau lā ʻaʻole pono e komo i nā hoaaloha. He aha ka hana? Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Daniel Cox, i kākau ʻia ma New York Times, me he mea lā aia mākou i kekahi ʻano o ka "hoʻohaʻahaʻa hoaloha." Me he mea lā, nui nā manaʻo no ke kumu o kēia. Ua ʻoi aku ka ʻae ʻana o ka hopena o ka pili ʻana i ko mākou olakino noʻonoʻo a kino. Hoʻomaopopo pinepine ʻia ka noho kaʻawale ʻana a me ka mehameha ma ke ʻano he pilikia koʻikoʻi a me ke olakino lehulehu, ʻoi aku hoʻi i nā poʻe ʻelemakule, e alakaʻi ana i nā hopena olakino kino a me ke kino.
Wahi a ka Survey on American Life, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o kā mākou mau hoa pili, kamaʻilio liʻiliʻi mākou me nā hoaaloha, a ke hilinaʻi nei mākou i nā hoaaloha no ke kākoʻo. Ma kahi kokoke i hoʻokahi hapalua o nā ʻAmelika e hōʻike ana i ʻekolu a ʻoi aʻe paha nā hoa pili, aʻo 36% hōʻike ʻehā a ʻeiwa. ʻO kekahi o nā manaʻo e pili ana i ka emi ʻana o ke komo ʻana i nā hana hoʻomana, ka emi ʻana o ka male male, ka haʻahaʻa o ke kūlana socioeconomic, ka loaʻa ʻana o ka maʻi maʻi mau, hana i nā hola lōʻihi, a me nā loli i ka wahi hana. A, no ka mea he nui o mākou i hilinaʻi i ka wahi hana no ka pilina, ua hōʻeha kēia i ka manaʻo o ka mehameha a me ka noho kaʻawale.
Aia kekahi mau nuances hoihoi i ka ʻikepili. No ka laʻana, ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli o ka poʻe ʻAmelika ʻAmelika a me Hispanic i kā lākou mau hoaaloha. Eia kekahi, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā wahine e nānā i nā hoaaloha no ke kākoʻo naʻau. Hoʻokomo lākou i ka hana i ka hoʻomohala ʻana i kā lākou pilina… me ka haʻi ʻana i kahi hoaaloha aloha lākou iā lākou! Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻo 15% o nā kāne e hōʻike ʻole i kahi pilina pili. Ua piʻi kēia ma kahi helu ʻelima i nā makahiki he 30 i hala. ʻO Robert Garfield, ka mea kākau a me ka psychotherapist, ʻōlelo ʻo nā kāne e "pale i kā lākou mau hoaaloha;" ʻo ia hoʻi ʻaʻole lākou e hāʻawi manawa e mālama iā lākou.
ʻO ka hoʻokaʻawale kaiapuni kahi hemahema a i ʻole ka launa pū ʻana me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, akā ʻo ka loneliness i wehewehe ʻia ma ke ʻano he ʻike pilikino makemake ʻole. He ʻokoʻa nā huaʻōlelo, ʻoiai ua hoʻohana pinepine ʻia lākou, a ua like nā hopena olakino ʻelua. ʻO ka noho kaʻawale ʻana a me ka mehameha ka mea maʻamau i nā hui ʻelemakule. Hōʻike nā noiʻi ʻāina ma kahi o hoʻokahi o ʻehā mau mākua kahiko e noho ana i ke kaiāulu e hōʻike ana i ka noho kaʻawale ʻana, a ma kahi o 30% e hōʻike nei me ka mehameha.
No ke aha e loaʻa ai ka hopena o ka male male? ʻAe, ma ka ʻikepili noiʻi, kokoke i ka 53% o kēlā mau hōʻike e ʻōlelo nei ʻo kā lākou hoa kāne a i ʻole hoa pili pinepine i kā lākou kamaʻilio mua. Inā ʻaʻohe āu mea nui ʻē aʻe, a laila hiki paha iā ʻoe ke mehameha.
Ka hopena like me ka puhi paka a i ʻole ka momona?
Ma muli o ka maʻamau o kēia mau ʻike, pono e noʻonoʻo nā mea mālama mua i nā hopena olakino e pili ana i ka noho kaʻawale ʻana a me ka mehameha, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā poʻe ʻelemakule. Ke hōʻike nei kahi hui noiʻi e ulu nei i kahi pilina ikaika ma waena o ka noho kaʻawale ʻana a me ka mehameha me nā hopena ʻino. Hoʻonui ʻia ka make ʻana o nā kumu āpau e like me ka nui o ka puhi paka a i ʻole ka momona. Nui aʻe ka maʻi puʻuwai a me nā maʻi noʻonoʻo. ʻO kekahi o kēia hopena ma muli o ka poʻe kaʻawale e hōʻike ana i ka hoʻohana kiʻekiʻe o ka paka a me nā ʻano hana olakino ʻē aʻe. Hoʻohana kēia poʻe kaʻawale i nā kumuwaiwai mālama olakino no ka mea pinepine lākou i nā maʻi olakino maʻi. I ka manawa like, hōʻike lākou i ka liʻiliʻi o ka mālama ʻana i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo lapaʻau i loaʻa iā lākou.
Pehea e kamaʻilio ai
Ma ka ʻaoʻao hoʻolako, ʻo ka "kauoha kanaka" kahi ala. He hoʻoikaika kēia e hoʻopili i nā maʻi me nā lawelawe kākoʻo ma ke kaiāulu. Hiki i kēia ke ho'ohana i ka luna hihia nāna e loiloi i nā pahuhopu, nā pono, ke kāko'o 'ohana a me ka ho'ouna 'ana aku. E kuhikuhi pinepine nā kauka i nā maʻi i nā hui kākoʻo o nā hoa. Hana maikaʻi kēia no kēlā mau maʻi me kahi pilikia olakino like ʻole a i ʻole maʻi. ʻO ka ikaika o kēia mau pūʻulu, ʻoi aku ka maʻi o ka poʻe maʻi i nā manaʻo mai nā mea ʻē aʻe e pili ana i kahi ʻano like. Ua hui pū kekahi o kēia mau pūʻulu i nā "keʻena kamaʻilio" a i ʻole nā pūnaewele media ʻē aʻe.
ʻO Catherine Pearson, kākau i ka Times ma Nowemapa 8, 2022 i wehewehe i ʻehā mau papa hana i hiki iā mākou a pau ke noʻonoʻo i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā manaʻo o ka noho kaʻawale ʻana a me ka mehameha.
- E hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka nāwaliwali. Ke kamaʻilio nei wau iaʻu iho ma ʻaneʻi. Ua lawa me ke kāne a i ʻole ka stoicism. He maikaʻi ke haʻi aku i kou manaʻo no lākou. E noʻonoʻo e hui pū i nā hui hoa i kūkulu ʻia no ke kākoʻo. E noʻonoʻo e kaʻana like i kāu mau hakakā me kahi hoaaloha.
- Mai noʻonoʻo ʻoe ua loaʻa ʻole nā hoaaloha a i ʻole ma ka manawa wale nō. Pono lākou i ka hoʻolālā. E kiʻi aku i kekahi.
- E hoʻohana i nā hana i kāu pono. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻoi aku ka ʻoluʻolu o ka hapa nui o mākou i ka hoʻopili ʻana me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe inā pili mākou i kahi hana kaʻana like. Maikaʻi loa ia. He haʻuki paha ia, a i ʻole ka hui ʻana e hoʻoponopono a hana i kekahi mea.
- E hoʻohana i ka mana o ka "check-in" ma o ka kikokikona a i ʻole leka uila. ʻO ia paha ka paipai ʻana e pono ai i kekahi i kēia lā, i ʻike wale ʻia e noʻonoʻo ʻia nei lākou.
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