Xyaum Ua Tsaug

Yog koj tuaj ntawm kuv lub tsev, thawj qhov uas koj yuav pom thaum koj taug kev hauv lub qhov rooj yog Mr. Turkey. Koj muaj peev xwm credit lub siab muaj tswv yim ntawm kuv 2.5-xyoo-laus rau qhov ntawd. Mr. Qaib ntxhw yog liab qab zoo nkauj tam sim no, tsuas yog ob peb plaub. Thaum lub Kaum Ib Hlis Ntuj, nws yuav tau txais cov plaub ntau dua. Ntawm txhua plaub, koj yuav pom cov lus xws li "mama," "dada," "Play-Doh," thiab "pancakes". Koj pom, Qaib ntxhw yog qaib ntxhw ua tsaug. Txhua txhua hnub, kuv tus me nyuam me qhia peb ib yam uas nws ua tsaug rau. Thaum kawg ntawm lub hli, peb yuav muaj qaib ntxhw puv plaub uas muaj txhua yam ntawm kuv tus tub nyiam. (Sab ntawv ceeb toom: Kuv xav kom kuv tau txais credit rau lub tswv yim no. Tab sis nws yeej yog los ntawm @busytoddler ntawm Instagram. Yog tias koj muaj menyuam, koj xav tau nws hauv koj lub neej).

Yog lawm, kuv tus tub tseem hluas dhau los tsis nkag siab lub ntsiab lus ntawm kev ris txiaj, tab sis nws paub tias nws hlub dab tsi. Yog li ntawd, thaum peb nug nws, "koj nyiam dab tsi?" thiab nws teb nrog "chaw ua si," peb hais rau nws "koj ua tsaug rau koj qhov chaw ua si." Nws yog ib lub tswv yim yooj yim zoo nkauj, yog tias koj xav txog nws; ua tsaug rau tej yam uas peb muaj thiab tej yam uas peb hlub. Txawm li cas los xij, nws tuaj yeem nyuaj rau tib neeg, suav nrog kuv, nco ntsoov. Rau qee yam, nws yooj yim dua los nrhiav tej yam los yws txog. Lub hlis no, kuv tab tom xyaum hloov kuv cov lus tsis txaus siab ua tsaug. Yog li es tsis txhob "ugh. Kuv tus me nyuam pib ncua sij hawm mus pw dua. Txhua yam kuv xav ua yog mus so ntawm kuv tus kheej ib feeb,"Kuv tab tom ua haujlwm hloov qhov ntawd mus rau "Kuv ua tsaug rau lub sijhawm ntxiv no los txuas nrog kuv tus tub. Kuv hlub tias nws muaj kev nyab xeeb nrog kuv thiab xav siv sijhawm nrog kuv. " Kuv puas tau hais tias kuv yog xyaum qhov no? Vim tsis muaj txhais tau tias qhov no tuaj yooj yim. Tab sis kuv tau kawm tias qhov kev hloov pauv hauv lub siab tiag tiag tuaj yeem ua qhov xav tsis thoob. Yog vim li ntawd kuv txiv thiab kuv thiaj xav qhia peb cov tub ua kev ris txiaj thaum tseem hluas. Nws yog kev xyaum. Thiab nws yog ib qho yooj yim kom poob tawm. Yog li tej yam yooj yim xws li mus ncig ntawm lub rooj noj hmo thiab hais tias tsuas yog ib qho uas peb ua tsaug rau yog txoj hauv kev ceev kom xyaum ua kev ris txiaj. Rau kuv tus tub, txhua hmo nws yog tib lo lus teb. Nws ua tsaug rau "muab mama marshmallows." Nws ua li no ib zaug thiab pom tias ua rau kuv zoo siab, yog li ntawd nws ua tsaug rau txhua hnub. Nws yog ib qho kev ceeb toom tias peb tuaj yeem ua tsaug rau qhov yooj yim tshaj plaws. Thiab muab marshmallows rau kuv vim nws paub nws ua rau kuv zoo siab? Kuv txhais tau tias, los ntawm. Qab zib heev. Yog li, ntawm no yog ib qho kev ceeb toom, rau kuv tus kheej thiab rau koj, nrhiav ib yam dab tsi ua tsaug rau hnub no. Raws li tus ci ntsa iab Brené Brown tau hais tias, "Lub neej zoo tshwm sim thaum koj nres thiab ua tsaug rau lub sijhawm zoo tib yam uas peb coob tus tsuas yog ua kom lub zog los sim nrhiav lub sijhawm tshwj xeeb."

* Kuv paub tias kuv muaj cai muaj ntau yam uas yuav tsum ua tsaug. Kuv qhov kev cia siab yog tias peb txhua tus tuaj yeem pom yam tsawg kawg ib yam, loj lossis me, ua tsaug rau txhua hnub.*