Ngo-Epreli yinyanga yoLwazi ngoTywala
Ayizondaba zokuba ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kotywala yingxaki enkulu kwezempilo yoluntu. Ngapha koko, ngunobangela wesithathu ophambili wokufa okunokuthintelwa eMelika. IBhunga leLizwe kuTywala kunye nokuxhomekeka kweziyobisi liqikelela ukuba ngabantu abangama-95,000 e-United States ababhubha nyaka ngamnye kwiziphumo zotywala. I-NIAAA (iZiko leLizwe kuTywala kunye nokuSetyenziswa gwenxa kotywala) ichaza ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kotywala njengobuchule bokumisa okanye bokulawula ukusetyenziswa kwayo ngaphandle kweziphumo. Baqikelela ukuba baphantse babe zizigidi ezili-15 abantu e-United States abanengxaki yoku (i-9.2 yezigidi zamadoda kunye ne-5.3 yezigidi zabasetyhini). Kujongwa njengokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okungapheliyo kwaye kuphela malunga ne-10% ifumana unyango.
Bendihlala ndifumana umbuzo kwizigulana malunga noko kuthathwa ngokuba “kukusela okungenampilo.” Indoda esela ngaphezu kweziselo ezili-14 ngeveki (okanye ngaphezulu kwezisixhenxe ngeveki ibhinqa) isemngciphekweni. Uphando lubonisa lo mbuzo ulula: “Kukangaphi kunyaka ophelileyo ubusele izihlanu okanye nangaphezulu kwindoda, ezine okanye nangaphezulu ngemini enye?” Impendulo yesinye okanye ezingaphezulu ifuna uvavanyo oluthe kratya. Isiselo esinxilisayo sibandakanya ii-ounces ezili-12 zebhiya, ii-ounces ezi-1.5 zotywala, okanye ii-ounces ezi-5 zewayini.
Masitshintshe igiya. Kukho elinye iqela labantu abachaphazeleke kakhulu butywala. Ngabahlobo okanye amalungu osapho osela. Ukuba kukho izigidi ezili-15 zabasela ingxaki eMelika, kwaye kukho, masithi, umndilili wabantu ababini okanye nangaphezulu umntu ngamnye ochaphazelekayo, ewe, ungazenza izibalo. Inani leentsapho ezichaphazelekayo liyamangalisa. Eyam ibingomnye wabo. Ngo-1983, uJanet Woititz wabhala Abantu abadala abantwana bakaTywala. Uye waqhekeza umqobo wokuba isifo setywala sivalelwe kumntu oselayo kuphela. Uye wachonga ukuba iziyobisi zingqongwe ngabantu abafuna ukubakholelwa, kwaye ngenxa yoko, ngokungazi baba yinxalenye yesifo. Ndicinga ukuba uninzi lwethu luvavanywa ukuba lukhawuleze luzame ukulungisa "ingxaki" ukuze singaziva iintlungu okanye ukungonwabi. Rhoqo oku kukhokelela ekukhathazekeni kwaye akuncedi nganto.
Ndingathanda ukwazisa amagama amathathu "A": Ukwazisa, ukwamkeleka, kwaye inyathelo. Oku kuchaza ubuchwephesha obufundiswa ngabanyangi abaninzi bezempilo malunga nendlela yokujongana neemeko ezinzima ebomini. Ngokuqinisekileyo oku kuyasebenza kwiintsapho zabantu abasela ingxaki.
Ukwazisa: Cothisa ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo ukuze uyiqonde ngokupheleleyo kwaye uyiqonde imeko. Thatha ixesha lokunika ingqalelo kwinto eyenzekayo. Qaphela ngalo mzuzu kwaye uqaphele kuzo zonke iinkalo zemeko. Nika ingqalelo kumceli mngeni kwaye uziva njani ngawo. Beka imeko phantsi kweglasi yokukhulisa ngengqondo ukucacisa ngakumbi kunye nokuqonda.
Ukwamkelwa: Ndibiza le "yilento iyiyo”Inyathelo. Ukuvuleka, ukuthembeka, kunye nokungafihli nto malunga nemeko kunceda ukunciphisa iimvakalelo zentloni. Ukwamkela akuhambisani.
Intshukumo: Uninzi lwethu "fixers" sitsibela kwizisombululo zamadolo. Cingisisa ngononophelo kukhetho lwakho, kubandakanya (kwaye oku kuvakala ngokungathandabuzekiyo!), Indlela oziva ngayo ngayo. Unokukhetha.
Ukuxhathisa amandla okuba "wenze into," kwaye ucinge ngokucinga ukuba ngawaphi amanyathelo onokuwathatha anamandla. Elinye lala manyathelo onokuwathatha kukuzinakekela. Ukunxibelelana nomntu osokola nesifo sokukhotyokiswa butywala kunokuba nzima. Ukuba unoxinzelelo okanye uxinezelekile, kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ekufuneni uncedo kumcebisi okanye kunyangi. Unokuthatha inxaxheba kwinkqubo eyilelwe abahlobo kunye namalungu osapho otywala, anje UAl-Anon.
Kukho elinye igama ekufuneka sixoxe ngalo. Akuqali ngoonobumba A, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele. Ukuxhomekeka. Ligama esihlala sisiva kodwa esingaliqondi ngokupheleleyo. Andizange.
Eyona nkcazo ilungileyo ndiyibonileyo yokuxhomekeka kwikhowudi yipatheni yokubeka phambili iimfuno zeqabane, iqabane, ilungu losapho, okanye umhlobo ngaphezulu kweemfuno zakho. Yicinge njengenkxaso egqithileyo iba yimpilo. Ungamthanda umntu, ufune ukuchitha ixesha kunye naye kwaye ubekhona apho… ngaphandle kokuyalela okanye ukulawula indlela abaziphethe ngayo. Uziva unamandla ngokuba ungumncedi kwaye baya bexhomekeka ngakumbi kuwe. Okukwintsusa: yeka ukubonelela ngezisombululo kwaye uzame "ukulungisa" abantu obakhathaleleyo, ngakumbi xa ungacelwanga.
Ndiza kugqiba ngamanye amagama amane oza kuwaqonda xa uyeka umdaniso kunye notywala obusebenzayo. Kule meko bonke baqala ngonobumba "C." Ngokukhawuleza uyaqonda ukuba khange ukwenze oko unobangela akunako ulawulo kwaye awukwazi unyango … kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo unako dibanisa .
Izikhokelo kunye nezixhobo
https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohols-effects-health/alcohol-use-disorder
https://www.aafp.org/afp/2017/1201/od2.html
https://www.healthline.com/health/most-important-things-you-can-do-help-alcoholic
http://livingwithgratitude.com/three-steps-to-gratitude-awareness-acceptance-and-action/
https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-stop-being-codependent