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INyanga yeSizwe yabanonopheli boSapho

By USarah W.

Xa kuthethwa ngootatomkhulu nomakhulu, ndibenethamsanqa eligqithileyo. Utata kamama waphila iminyaka engama-92. Kwaye umama kamama usaphila ngama-97. Uninzi lwabantu alukwazi ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nootatomkhulu nootatomkhulu kunye nootatomkhulu noomakhulu abaninzi abaphili ubomi obude. Kodwa, kumakhulu wam, iminyaka embalwa edlulileyo ayizange ibe lula. Kwaye ngenxa yoko, azikhange zibe lula kumama wam (owayemnyamekela ngokusisigxina kude kube ziinyanga ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo) nakuMakazi wam uPat (oqhubeka engumkhathaleli ohlala naye, ixesha elizeleyo) . Ngelixa ndinombulelo ongazenzisiyo kubo bobabini ngokunikezela iminyaka yabo yomhlalaphantsi ukuze bagcine umakhulu wam nosapho lwakhe, ndifuna ukuthatha umzuzu, ukuhlonipha iNyanga yoKwazisa ngabanonopheli boSapho, ukuthetha malunga nokuba ngamanye amaxesha, okona kulungileyo, ukhetho olunengqiqo lubonakala njani. njengeyona nto ingalunganga ukuyenza kwaye inokuba lolona khetho lunzima ebomini bethu.

Ukususela ekuqaleni kwakhe ukuya kutsho phakathi kwiminyaka yoo-90 umakhulu wam wayephila ubomi obumnandi. Ndandisoloko ndibaxelela abantu ukuba ndivakalelwa kukuba kwanasebudaleni bakhe, ubomi bakhe babulungile. Wayenomdlalo wakhe weveki wepenuckle, edibana kanye ngenyanga kwiSidlo sasemini sabaseTyhini kunye nabahlobo bakhe, eyinxalenye yeklabhu yokukrola, kwaye esiya kwimisa ngeeCawe. Ngamanye amaxesha kwakubonakala ngathi ubomi bakhe basentlalweni baneliseke ngakumbi kunobam okanye abazala bam ababekwiminyaka yethu yama-20 nama-30. Kodwa ngelishwa, izinto azizange zihlale zinjalo ngonaphakade kwaye kwiminyaka eliqela edluleyo, uye watshintsha waba mandundu. Umakhulu waqalisa ukuba nengxaki yokukhumbula izinto ezazisandul’ ukwenzeka, wabuza imibuzo efanayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, yaye waqalisa ukwenza izinto eziyingozi kuye okanye kwabanye. Kwakukho amaxesha apho umama okanye uMakazi uPat wayevuka kumakhulu ezama ukulayita isitovu apheke isidlo sangokuhlwa. Ngamanye amaxesha, wayezama ukuhlamba okanye ukuhambahamba ngaphandle kokusebenzisa umhambi wakhe aze awe, nzima, kumgangatho weethayile.

Ibicace gca kum no cousin wam umama ngumakazi wam uPat ukuba umthwalo wokumgcina ubathwalisa nzima. Ngokutsho kwe Ulawulo lokuPhila koLuntu, uphando lubonisa ukuba ukukhathalela abantu kunokuba yingozi ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwemali. Abakhathaleli banokufumana izinto ezifana nokudakumba, ukuxhalaba, uxinzelelo, kunye nokwehla kwempilo yabo. Nangona umama nomakazi uPat benabanye abantakwethu abathathu, ababini kubo abahlala kufutshane, babengafumani ncedo nenkxaso ababeyidinga ukuze banyamekele impilo yabo engokwenyama, ngokweemvakalelo, nasengqondweni baze banyamekele umakhulu wam kwangaxeshanye. . Umama akazange afumane ikhefu ngalo naliphi na ixesha elibalulekileyo. Ekuphela “kwekhefu” likamakazi yayikukuya kwindlu yentombi yakhe (umzala wam) ukuya kubukela amakhwenkwe akhe amathathu angaphantsi kweminyaka emithathu ubudala. Hayi kakhulu ikhefu. Kwaye umakazi wayemhoyile utatomkhulu ngaphambi kokuba asweleke. Intlawulo yayisiba yinyani, ngokukhawuleza kakhulu. Babefuna uncedo lweengcali, kodwa abantakwabo abazange bavume.

Ndinqwenela ukuba nesiphelo esonwabisayo sokwabelana ngendlela intsapho yam eyawucombulula ngayo lo mbandela. Umama, owayenengxaki nomalume, wafudukela eColorado ukuze abe kufutshane nam nentsapho yakowethu. Nangona oku kwakundenza ndibe noxolo lwengqondo, ndisazi ukuba umama akasekho kuloo meko, oko kwakuthetha ukuxhalaba ngakumbi kumakazi wam kunangaphambili. Sekunjalo, abanye oomakazi bam ababini kunye nomalume omnye babengenakuvuma naluphi na uhlobo loncedo olubalulekileyo. Ekubeni umalume wayeyi-power of attorney yakhe, kwakungekho nto ingako sasinokuyenza. Kwakubonakala ukuba omnye woomakazi bam (ongahlali endlwini nomakhulu wam) wenze isithembiso kuyise xa wayesondela esiphelweni sobomi bakhe, ukuba angaze abeke umama wabo kwindawo yokuhlala yabadala. Ngokwembono ka cousin wam, mna, mama, nomakazi wam uPat, esi sithembiso sasingasenangqondo kwaye ukugcina umakhulu wam ekhaya kwakumenza into embi. Ebengafumani ukhathalelo ebeludinga kuba akukho mntu kusapho lwam oligcisa lezempilo eliqeqeshiweyo. Njengomceli mngeni owongezelelekileyo uMakazi wam uPat, ngoku ekuphela komntu ohlala nomhakhulu wam, usisithulu. Kwaba lula kumakazi ukuba abambelele kwisithembiso sakhe xa wayekwazi ukuya ekhaya kuxolo nenzolo ekhaya, engenaxhala lokuba umama wakhe owayesele ekhulile usenokusivulela isitovu ngoxa elele. Kodwa kwakungafanelanga ukubeka olo xanduva koodade wabo ababesazi ukuba lifikile ixesha lesigaba esilandelayo sokuhoywa kukamakhulu.

Ndixelela eli bali ukubonisa ukuba umthwalo womnakekeli uyinyani, ubalulekile, kwaye unokucinezela. Kukwabonisa ukuba nangona ndibulela kakhulu kwabo bancedisa umakhulu wam ukugcina ubomi bakhe, kwikhaya lakhe alithandayo kunye nommelwane iminyaka emininzi, ngamanye amaxesha ukuba sekhaya ayisiyonto ingcono. Ke, ngelixa sicula indumiso yabo bancama ukukhathalela umntu othandekayo, ndifuna ukuvuma ukuba ukwenza ukhetho lokufuna uncedo lwengcali ayilokhetho oluphantsi lokwenzela abo sibakhathaleleyo.