Yiba nguMxhasi weMjikelo: Abasetyhini abaxhasa abanye abafazi
Makhulu amandla enkxaso enikelwa ngabanye. Eyona nto inkulu ngakumbi yinkxaso enentsingiselo enikelwa ngabo bahambayo okanye abahamba ngendlela efanayo. Umlingo uyenzeka xa abafazi bephakamisa kwaye baxhobise abanye abafazi. Ndiye ndahleka ngakumbi, ndabuhlungu kakhulu, ndakholelwa kum, kwaye ndakhula ngeendlela ezininzi kunokuba ndikhumbula umbulelo kubafazi abangenakubalwa abakhethe ukwabelana ngokukhanya kwabo, ubulumko, amava, iitalente, ububele, kunye nokukhaba okufunekayo ngamanye amaxesha. empundu nam. Kubo bonke abafazi abenze ubomi bam bangcono – ENKOSI!
Okubuhlungu kukuba, olu hlobo lwenkxaso alusoloko luboniswa. “Abafazi baxakile. Ngelixa uninzi lwethu lufuna ukuba nobubele kunye nokukhulisa, siyasokola necala lethu elimnyama - iimvakalelo zomona, umona kunye nokhuphiswano. Ngelixa amadoda ethanda ukukhuphisana ngendlela engaphaya – ukukhuphisana kwisikhundla nokulwela ukuthweswa isithsaba 'ngabaphumeleleyo' - abafazi bakholisa ukukhuphisana ngokufihlakeleyo nasemva kwemiboniso. Olu khuphiswano lufihlakeleyo kunye nogonyamelo olungathanga ngqo lusembindini wokuziphatha kakubi phakathi kwabasetyhini emsebenzini. " (UKatherine Crowley kunye noKathi Elster, ababhali be Amantombazana athetha uMsebenzi: Uhlala njani uBuchwephesha xa izinto Zizihambela)
Imikhwa yokukhuphisana phakathi kwabasetyhini ibuyela emva kwiinkulungwane kwaye yandulela ugqatso lokunyuselwa okanye idabi lokuthandwa ngakumbi kwimidiya yoluntu. Olu phando ibonisa ukuba abasetyhini abazama ukujongela phantsi impumelelo yomnye nomnye kusenokuba ngenxa yemvelo yemvelo yokukhuphisana ngezixhobo ezinqongopheleyo (oko kukuthi, ukutya, indawo yokuhlala, amaqabane). Ngamanye amazwi, yindlela yokusinda. Yongeza iintlobo ngeentlobo zemiyalezo ethi “wonke umntu obhinqileyo azenzele yena” enokungena ezingqondweni zabantu basetyhini ngokwemigaqo yentlalo kwaye sifumane icocktail enetyhefu ethi “Ndikumela, ntombazana!” kwaye “Ndinethemba lokuba awenza kakuhle njengam”. Le ndlela yokucinga ayipheleli nje ekukhokelela ekonakaliseni abanye, ikwasithintela ekufikeleleni amandla ethu apheleleyo.
Uhambo lobomi lomntu wonke lwahlukile kwaye luzaliswe yimiqobo. Abanye mngeni, nangona kunjalo, inefuthe elilinganayo kwabasetyhini kwihlabathi jikelele. Kukho amandla ngamanani. Ke, manenekazi, nithi senze ntoni isivumelwano ukhetha ukusikelela ubomi babanye abafazi, ngeendlela ezinkulu nezincinci? Ukwabelana ngento endiyifumene iluncedo:
- Ukuqonda ukuba andizizo iingcinga zam. Xa kuvela ikhwele okanye ingcamango yomona komnye umfazi, ndiyayiqaphela kwaye ndikhethe ukuziphatha ngendlela enobubele nexhasayo. Ndizama ukungavumeli ingcinga ukuba ilawule izenzo zam kodwa ndiyiphathe njengomqondiso wokuba kukho into ekufuneka ndiyiphonononge ngaphakathi kum (okt ukukhuseleka okufihlakeleyo okanye imfuno engafezekanga).
- Ukwamkela amandla am kwaye ukuhlakulela ukuzithanda. Okukhona ndikhuseleka ngakumbi, kokukhona ndiba nentembelo ngakumbi kubuchule bam bokufikelela usukelo lwam nokudala ubomi endibunqwenelayo, kokukhona kuvela utyekelo olungenampilo lokukhuphisana.
- Ukungqiyama kwi ubukhulu bengqondo. Zininzi izithsaba zokujikeleza. Amashumi alithoba anesixhenxe ekhulwini am akholelwa ngokwenene oko (okwathatha umsebenzi!). Kuphinde kubekho isithathu seepesenti esishiyekileyo esizinze kwingqondo yokunqongophala – ukukhula kwintlupheko “kwanceda” kule nto.
- Isenzo esincinci sobubele singenza impembelelo enkulu. Akuzange kundidle mali ukuncoma ibhinqa elalimi kumgca wokuphuma phambi kwam. Indlela asabela ngayo umfazi owayezityela etafileni esecaleni kwam xa ndandimhlawulela ngokufihlakeleyo isidlo sangokuhlwa yayixabiseke gqitha. Ukuthumela "Unayo le!" itekisi eya kwintombazana-umhlobo owoyikayo ukwenza intetho kuthathe imizuzwana embalwa.
- Ukuvuma ukungavumelani. Ukhetha ubisi lwe-cashew kwikofu yakho kunobisi lwe-almond? Icereal kwisidlo sangokuhlwa? Ukuvutha phezu kwejean ezibhityileyo? Nantoni na ekusebenzelayo! Xa iyantlukwano ingena endleleni yonxibelelwano lokwenyani kunye nokuhloniphana, ndithembela kumdla kwaye ndirhoxise ugwebo lokhetho lwabanye abafazi malunga nemizimba yabo, imisebenzi, isimbo sobuzali, njl.
- Ukunceda abanye abafazi bafikelele kwiinjongo zabo kwaye babhiyozele impumelelo. Oku akuthethi ukuba ucuthe izinto ozifezekisileyo okanye ukungahoyi iinjongo zakho - phakamisa njengoko unyuka kwaye wabelane ngokukhanya. "Ukuba sele "uphumelele," musa ukuphosa amanye amabhinqa ngokungazi ukuba uwabeke kwimingeni efanayo ojongene nayo ngexesha lomsebenzi wakho. Thumela ilifti emva ezantsi!” Umcebisi, umqeqeshi, umthetheleli.
- Ukuxhasa amashishini aphethwe ngabasetyhini okanye aqhutywayo. Ngaba ujonge into yokwenza kule mpelaveki okanye ngesipho somzuzu wokugqibela? Jonga enye okanye ngaphezulu kwezi:
- Ukunika inkxaso enentsingiselo. "Ndingaba luncedo njani kuwe namhlanje?" Endaweni yokuxhasa abanye abafazi ngendlela endifuna ukuxhaswa ngayo kuyo nayiphi na imeko, ndifumanisa ukuba yintoni bona ngokwenene kufuneka.
Uza kwenza ntoni na qhawula umjikelo wokhuphiswano phakathi kwabasetyhini?