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Inyanga yokuQatshelwa kweMpilo yeNgqondo

Unyaka wonke, izihloko ezininzi ezifanelekileyo zinikwa inyanga emiselweyo "yokwazisa." UCanzibe yiNyanga yoKwazisa ngeMpilo yeNgqondo. Impilo yengqondo sisihloko esikufutshane nesithandekayo entliziyweni yam, ngokomsebenzi nangokwam. Ndibe ngugqirha onelayisensi ukusukela ngo-2011. Ndisebenze kwicandelo lezempilo yengqondo ixesha elide kunoko kwaye ndihlala nemiba yempilo yengqondo ixesha elide. Ndiqale ukuthatha ii-antidepressants zombini ukudakumba kunye nexhala ngelixa ndisekholejini kwaye ngo-2020, ndineminyaka engama-38 ubudala, kwafunyaniswa ukuba ndine-ADHD okokuqala. I-Hindsight ngokuba yi-20/20, kwaye ndiyazi into endiyaziyo ngoku, ndinokukhangela ngasemva kwaye ndibone ukuba imiba yam yempilo yengqondo ikhona ukusukela ebuntwaneni. Ukwazi ukuba uhambo lwam alufani nolunye kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukukhululeka kuxinzelelo, iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuxhalaba, kunye neminye imiba efana ne-ADHD ayifiki kude kube kamva ebomini, umbono wokwazisa ngempilo yengqondo undibetha kabini. Kukho imfuno edibeneyo yolwazi olwandisiweyo olujikeleze impilo yengqondo, kodwa kukwakho ulwazi olunzulu, lomntu ngamnye omele lwenzeke.

Ingcamango apho esi sithuba sazalwa, ukuba awukwazi into ongayazi ngenxa yokuba awuyazi, ayinakuba yinyani ngakumbi xa kuziwa kwimpilo yengqondo, okanye ngokuchanekileyo, ukugula kwengqondo. Ngendlela efanayo ukuba umntu ongazange abe namava okudakumba okukhulu okanye ixhala elikhubazayo anokwenza uqikelelo olunovelwano nolufundileyo malunga nokuba lunjani na, umntu ophile uninzi lobomi bakhe nengqondo engasebenzi ngokwekhemikhali inokuba nayo. ixesha elinzima lokwazi xa kukho into engalunganga ncam. Kuze kube yilapho amayeza kunye nonyango luyilungisa ingxaki kwaye umntu uyakwazi ukufumana ubomi kunye nengqondo elungelelanisiweyo yekhemikhali, kunye nokuqonda okusandul 'ukuphuhliswa ngonyango, ukuba abo babandezeleka yimiba efana nokudandatheka okungapheliyo kunye nokuxhalaba baye bazi ngokupheleleyo ukuba kukho into engalunganga ekuqaleni. indawo. Kufana nokubeka iindondo zikagqirha kwaye ubone ngokucacileyo okokuqala. Kum, ukubona ngokucacileyo okokuqala kwakuthetha ukukwazi ukuqhuba uhola wendlela ngaphandle kokuqaqanjelwa sisifuba kwaye ndingaphoswa kukuya kwiindawo ngenxa yokuba ndandikungxamele kakhulu ukuqhuba. Kwiminyaka engama-38, ngoncedo lwamayeza agxininisekileyo, ukubona ngokucacileyo yayikukuqonda ukuba ukugcina ingqwalasela kunye nenkuthazo ukuze ugqibezele imisebenzi bekungafanelanga ukuba kube nzima kangako. Ndiye ndaqaphela ukuba andonqeni kwaye ndingenawo amandla, bendiswele i-dopamine kwaye ndihlala nengqondo enentsilelo enxulumene nokusebenza kwesigqeba. Owam umsebenzi kunyango uye waphilisa amayeza angenakuze alungise kwaye andenze ndibe ngugqirha onovelwano nosebenzayo.

Ngalo Meyi, njengokuba ndiye ndacingisisa malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini kum ukubaluleka kokuzisa ulwazi kwimiba yempilo yengqondo, ndiyaqonda ukuba kuthetha ukuthetha. Kuthetha ukuba lilizwi elinceda ekunciphiseni ibala kunye nokwabelana ngamava am ukuze omnye umntu aqonde ukuba kukho into engaphakathi kwengqondo yakhe ayilunganga kwaye afune uncedo. Kuba, apho kukho ukuqonda, kukho inkululeko. Inkululeko yeyona ndlela endinokuyichaza ngayo ukuba kunjani ukuphila ubomi obungenaxhala rhoqo kunye nelifu elimnyama lokudakumba.