Ukudibana
Intoni Is Ukunqumla kweendlela?
Leliphi igama elinye onokulisebenzisa ukuzichaza ukususela ngoku kuyo yonke imeko? Sonke sinezazisi ezingaphezu kwesinye kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba sibe sisinye ngexesha. Ukudibana kweendlela kuyayiqonda le nyaniso. Ndithatha ukudibana kweendlela njengengxelo epheleleyo yabantu abaphilayo abanamava kuye nawuphi na umntu. Iyafana nendlela esicinga ngayo ithiyori ebalulekileyo yohlanga ingxelo epheleleyo yembali. Kwinqaku elilungileyo, ukuhlangana kweendlela kunokunceda ukucacisa indlela esintsonkothe ngayo kwaye sinomdla ngayo sonke (ngaphezulu koku kungezantsi). Kukwakho neempembelelo ezingalunganga nangona, ekufuneka sizibandakanye embindini womsebenzi wethu wokwahluka, ukulingana, ukubandakanywa, kunye nokuba ngookwabo.
UKimberlé Crenshaw wayila 'indlela yokuhlangana' emva phaya ngo-1980 ekuboniseni ukuba abafazi abaNtsundu bajongana nocalucalulo oluhamba ngaphaya kokudibanisa ucalucalulo amadoda aMnyama ajongana nalo kwaye bonke abasetyhini kunye nabantu abangengobantu babini bajongana nabo. Ngamanye amazwi, asiko-A+B=C nje kuphela, kodwa kuno-A+B=D (ndivumela u-'D' amele 'izixa ezothusayo zocalulo' kulo mzekelo). Njengecala leegeek zenzululwazi endisebenza nazo, sibona olu hlobo lunye lwento eyenzeka kwibhayoloji nakwikhemistri, xa iikhompawundi ezimbini okanye ii-enzymes zidityanisiwe zinesiphumo esikhulu kakhulu (kwaye ngamanye amaxesha sahluke ngokupheleleyo) kunesiphumo 'sala malungu mabini' ahlukeneyo. '
#YitshoIgama lakhe ibe yimpendulo komnye wemiba efunyanwa ngabafazi abaMnyama. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa bebuzwa ngabantu abaMnyama ababulewe ngamapolisa, abantu badla ngokukhumbula amagama amakhwenkwe kunye namadoda aMnyama kunalawo amantombazana aMnyama, amabhinqa, kunye nabantu abangengabo. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba kulo mzekelo, kukho isazisi esongezelelweyo esinqumlanayo kwaye sibandakanyeka. Ukujonga kumaqela abantu ejongene kakhulu nobundlavini bamapolisa, kunye nabo amagama abo afumana ingqwalasela enkulu kunye nokubonakala kumajelo eendaba, kukho ezinye iinkqubo ezisebenzayo kuquka udidi kunye nokukwazi.
Ukuzicingisisa kunye nokuqonda okungcono
Ukuzama ukunika ingxelo ngazo zonke iinkcukacha zesazisi umntu anokuba nazo, ukuba ezinye zezazisi zinokutshintsha njani ekuhambeni kwexesha, kunye nendlela izazisi ezininzi ezidibana ngayo ukwenza iseti eyodwa yamava, izinto eziluncedo, kunye nezingeloncedo kulucelomngeni. Nazi izinto ezimbini zokuzihlolisisa ezibe luncedo kum. Ndimema wonke umntu ukuba azame ezi:
- Le nto yaziswa kum okokuqala ngu-Ijeoma Oluo kumsebenzi wakhe obalulekileyo, Ngoko ufuna ukuthetha malunga nobuhlanga (Andikwazi ukucebisa le ncwadi ngokwaneleyo). Qala ukubhala zonke iindlela onelungelo ngazo. Ndiyathanda ukukhomba indlela ka-Oluo yokuchaza 'ilungelo' kwimeko yobulungisa kwezentlalo: lulutho okanye iseti yeenzuzo onazo kunye nabanye abangenazo. Inyhweba ikwafuna ukuba nawe awukhange ulifumane nge-100% kwaye abanye bajongane nokusilela ngokungabi nalo. Jonga isahluko sesine sale ncwadi inye ukuba ufuna ingcaciso engakumbi. Ndiyawuxabisa lo msebenzi ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi. Indincedile ukuba ndicinge ngenani elipheleleyo lezazisi endinazo ngokubanzi, ekusenokwenzeka ukuba andizange ndiyicinge ngaphambili. Ngalo lonke ixesha ndisenza uluhlu lwam, ndiye ndafumanisa ezintsha! Ukuza kuthi ga ngelo xesha, u-Oluo (kunye nam) sicebisa ukwenza oku kubonakalisa ngokuthe rhoqo njengomnqweno wokuncedisana naye.
- Iphuhliswe nguHeather Kennedy kunye noDaniel Martinez weSikolo saseColorado seMpilo yoLuntu, oku kuthatha umsebenzi ongentla kwaye uguqule ibali. Yindlela yokujonga ubutyebi benkcubeko yethu. Apha uya kudlula kwiphepha lomsebenzi kwaye ujonge oko kusebenza kuwe. Lo msebenzi ubhiyozela amandla kunye nezibonelelo ezifunyenwe ngamaqela ahlala ejongelwa phantsi kwilizwe lethu, kubandakanywa i-BIPOC, umphambukeli, ulutsha, abakhubazekileyo, i-LGBTQ +, kunye noluntu olongezelelweyo. Ndifake ukuprintwa kwakhona kolu luhlu lokutshekisha ngemvume yabo kwaye ungahamba Apha ukuyiphonononga.
Ingcamango yokugqibela: Imfesane, kungekhona ukuqonda
Isicatshulwa ekwabelwana nam kutshanje kwi Umntu Kwanele podcast oko kwahlala kum ukususela ngoko. Kudliwanondlebe nondwendwe lwabo, uqaphele nonbhinary performer, umbhali, kunye nomlweli UAlok Vaid-Menon uthe: “Bekugxilwe kukuqonda, kungekhona imfesane. Ke, abantu baya kuthi ‘Andiqondi—’ Kutheni kufuneka undiqonde ukuze uthi andifanele ndibe nogonyamelo?” UJustin Baldoni, umdidiyeli wepodcast, uqhube wathi “sicinga ukuba kufuneka siqonde into ukuze siyamkele, okanye siyithande, ayiyonyani leyo.”
Uqeqesho lwam kwimpilo yoluntu lundifundise ukuba eyona nto inokutshintsha izenzo zomntu kukukhulisa ukuqonda. Ukuba siyasiqonda isizathu okanye indlela okuza kusinceda ngayo ukwenza isenzo, kunokwenzeka ukuba siyenze. Kodwa le meko yomntu iza nexabiso xa sinyanzelisa ukwazi yonke into kuqala phambi kokuba senze. Kukho izinto ezininzi kwihlabathi lethu ekunzima ukuziqonda, ezinye zide zingaziwa ngonaphakade. Singakwazi kwaye kufuneka siqhubeke sifunda kwaye sibhiyozele izazisi zethu ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, iimbono, kunye neendlela zokuba kulo mhlaba. Ukufunda okuqhubekekayo luxanduva esinokuluthatha njengenxalenye yezenzo zethu zokulwela, ukuxhasa, kunye nobudlelwane. Ukuwaqonda ngokupheleleyo amava, nangona kunjalo, akufanele kube yinto efunekayo ekuboniseni uvelwano nokufuna ubulungisa nokulingana.