Yeyiphi Intetho Yasesidlangalaleni eyandifundisa yona malunga nobuNkokheli

Ngoxa ndandisesikolweni, ndafundisa intetho yasesidlangalaleni iminyaka emibini. Yayiyiklasi yam endiyithandayo ukufundisa kuba yayiyikhosi efunekayo kuzo zonke ii-majors, ngoko ke ndibe nenyhweba yokunxibelelana nabafundi abaneemvelaphi ezahlukeneyo, abanomdla kunye neminqweno. Ukonwabela ikhosi yayingeyomvakalelo efanayo – abafundi babedla ngokuhamba ngosuku lokuqala bekrwaqula, bezingela kunye/okanye bejongeka bephakuzela ngokupheleleyo. Kwavela ukuba akukho mntu wayejonge phambili kwisemester yokuthetha esidlangalaleni ngaphezu kwam. Phantse kwiminyaka elishumi elinesiqingatha kamva, ndiye ndakholelwa ukuba okuninzi kwafundiswa kuloo khosi kunokunika intetho enkulu. Ezinye zeemfundiso ezisisiseko kwintetho ekhumbulekayo zikwayimiba ephambili yobunkokeli obusebenzayo.

1. Sebenzisa isimbo esingajonganga lwandlalo.

Xa uthetha esidlangalaleni, oku kuthetha ukuba ungayifundi intetho yakho. Yazi – kodwa ungavakali njengerobhothi. Kwiinkokeli, oku kuthetha ngokubaluleka kokuba nguwe wenene. Vula ukufunda, funda kulo mbandela kodwa wazi ukunyaniseka kwakho yeyona nto iphambili ekusebenzeni kwakho njengenkokeli. NgokukaGallup, "ubunkokeli abufanelanga konke-kwaye uya kuba yeyona nkokeli ibalaseleyo onokuba yiyo xa ufumanisa ukuba yintoni ekwenza ube namandla akhethekileyo." ¹ Izithethi ezibalaseleyo azilingisi ezinye izithethi ezibalaseleyo - zithembela kwisitayile sazo esikhethekileyo ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Iinkokeli ezinkulu zinokwenza okufanayo.

 

2. Amandla e-amygdala.

Njengoko abafundi beza besoyika kwaye begxalathelana ukuya eklasini ngosuku lokuqala lwesiqingatha sonyaka, bahlangatyezwa nomfanekiso woboya begusha obukhazimlayo obukhazimlayo kwibhodi emhlophe. Isifundo sokuqala sesiqingatha sonyaka sasimalunga nokuba esi sidalwa nokuthetha esidlangalaleni kwakufana ngantoni. Impendulo? Zombini zivula i-amygdala kubantu abaninzi okuthetha ukuba ubuchopho bethu buthetha enye yezi zinto:

"INGOZI! INGOZI! Balekani niye iinduli!

"INGOZI! INGOZI! Fumana isebe lomthi uze uhlise laa nto!”

"INGOZI! INGOZI! Andazi ukuba mandithini ndizovele ndibe ngumkhenkce, ndiyathemba ukuba andibonwanga kwaye ndilindele ukuba kudlule ingozi.”

Le mpendulo yokulwa/indiza/yomkhenkce yindlela ekhuselayo ebuchotsheni bethu, kodwa ayisoloko isinceda kakuhle. Xa i-amygdala yethu ivuliwe, sicinga ngokukhawuleza ukuba sinokukhetha okubini (ukulwa / ukuhamba) okanye ukuba akukho khetho konke konke (iqhwa). Amaxesha amaninzi, kukho inketho yesithathu, yesine, neyesihlanu.

Ngokuphathelele ubunkokeli, i-amygdala yethu inokusikhumbuza ngokubaluleka kokukhokela ngentliziyo - kungekhona nje iintloko zethu. Ukukhokela ngentliziyo kubeka abantu kuqala kwaye kubeka phambili ubudlelwane. Ifuna ukungafihli, ukunyaniseka kunye nokuthatha ixesha lokwazi abasebenzi kwinqanaba lomntu. Ikhokelela ekubeni abasebenzi bazibandakanye ngakumbi kwimisebenzi yabo ngeqondo eliphezulu lokuthembela. Kule meko, abasebenzi kunye namaqela kunokwenzeka ukuba ahlangabezane kwaye adlule iinjongo.

Ukukhokela ukusuka entloko okanye engqondweni kubeka phambili iinjongo, iimetriki, kunye nemigangatho ephezulu yokugqwesa. Kwincwadi yakhe ethi, “Umbutho Ongoyikiyo,” uAmy Edmondson uthi kuqoqosho lwethu olutsha sifuna zombini iindlela zobunkokeli. Ezona nkokeli zisebenzayo zinobuchule bokucofa kuzo zombini izitayile².

Ke, le nto ibuyela njani kwi-amygdala? Ngokwam amava, ndiqaphele ukuba ndibambekile ndikhokela ngentloko kuphela xa ndiziva ngathi zimbini kuphela izinto endinokukhetha kuzo – ngakumbi xa ndijongene nokwenza isigqibo esikhulu. Ngeli xesha, ndisebenzise oku njengesikhumbuzo sokungena ebantwini ukufumana indlela yesithathu. Njengeenkokeli, akukho mfuneko yokuba sizive sivaleleke kumabhinari. Endaweni yoko, sinokukhokelela ngentliziyo ekufumaneni indlela ebandakanya ngakumbi, enomvuzo, kunye nefuthe kwiinjongo zethu nakumaqela ethu.

3. Yazi abaphulaphuli bakho

Kuyo yonke isiqingatha sonyaka, abafundi banike iindidi ngeendidi zeentetho – ezifundisayo, zomgaqo-nkqubo, izikhumbuzo nezimemayo. Ukuze baphumelele, kwakubalulekile ukuba bazi abaphulaphuli babo. Kwiklasi yethu, oku kwenziwa ngobuninzi bezinto eziphambili, imvelaphi kunye neenkolelo. Iyunithi yam endiyithandayo yayiziintetho zomgaqo-nkqubo kuba omabini amacala emigaqo-nkqubo ayedla ngokunikezelwa.

Kwiinkokeli, ukwazi iqela lakho kuyafana nokwazi abaphulaphuli bakho. Ukwazi iqela lakho yinkqubo eqhubekayo efuna ukungena rhoqo. Enye yezinto endizithandayo zokungena zivela kuGqr Brenè Brown. Uqalisa iintlanganiso ngokucela abantu abazileyo ukuba bachaze amagama amabini ngendlela abaziva ngayo ngolo suku³. Esi siko sakha unxibelelwano, ukuba ngumntu, ukhuseleko kunye nokuzazi.

Isithethi kufuneka sibazi abaphulaphuli baso ukuze intetho ibe nempumelelo. Kukwanjalo nakwiinkokeli. Bobabini ubudlelwane bexesha elide kunye nokungena rhoqo kungundoqo.

4. Ubugcisa bokucenga

Njengoko benditshilo, iyunithi yentetho yomgaqo-nkqubo yayiyeyona nto ndiyithandayo ukufundisa. Kwakuvuyisa ukubona ukuba yeyiphi imiba yabafundi abanomdla kwaye ndandithanda ukuva iintetho ezijoliswe ekuthetheleleni isikhundla, kunokutshintsha nje iingqondo zoontanga. Abafundi bebecelwa ukuba bangaxoxi kuphela ngengxaki ekhoyo kodwa bacebise nezisombululo ezitsha zokusombulula loo ngxaki. Abafundi abaphumelele kakhulu ekubhaleni nasekunikezeni ezi ntetho, ngabo bathe baphanda ngokucokisekileyo macala onke kwaye beza nesisombululo esingaphezulu kwesinye esicetywayo.

Kum, lo ngumzekelo ofanelekileyo wobunkokeli obusebenzayo. Ukukhokela amaqela kunye nokuqhubela phambili iziphumo, kufuneka sicace kakhulu kwingxaki esizama ukuyisombulula kwaye sivuleleke kwisisombululo esingaphezulu kwesinye ukwenza impembelelo esiyifunayo. Kwincwadi yakhe ethi, "Drive," uDaniel Pink uthi isitshixo ekukhuthazeni abantu asiloluhlu lwezinto ezinokuthi zigqitywe okanye zifezekiswe, kodwa kunokuzimela kunye nokukwazi ukukhokela umsebenzi kunye nobomi babo. Esi sesona sizathu sokuba kutheni iimeko zemisebenzi kuphela (i-ROWEs) zibonakaliswe ukuba zihambelana nokunyuka okukhulu kwemveliso. Abantu abafuni kuxelelwa ukuba mabenze ntoni. Bafuna inkokeli yabo ukuba ibancede babonelele ngokucacileyo iinjongo zabo ukuze bazifezekise ngendlela naxa befuna ngayo⁴. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokucenga abantu kukungena kwiintshukumisa zabo zangaphakathi ukuze baphendule kwaye banoxanduva lweziphumo zabo.

Njengoko ndihleli ndicamngca ngeeyure endizichithe ndiphulaphule iintetho, ndinethemba lokuba kwanabafundi abambalwa endibe nenyhweba yokubafundisa baya kukholelwa ukuba iklasi yokuthetha yayingaphezu kokujongana noloyiko lwabo mihla le. Ndiyathemba ukuba nabo baneenkumbulo ezimnandi ngezakhono zobomi kunye nezifundo esizifunde kunye e-Eddy Hall kwiYunivesithi yaseColorado State.

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¹gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/401999/leadership-authenticity-starts-knowing-yourself.aspx

²forbes.com/sites/nazbeheshti/2020/02/13/do-you-mostly-lead-from-your-head-or-from-your-heart/?sh=3163a31e1672

³panoramaed.com/blog/two-word-check-in-strategy

⁴Qhuba: inyaniso emangazayo malunga nezinto ezisikhuthazayo