Indlela yam

Sonke sihamba kwindlela yethu ebomini. Ngubani esiyiyo namhlanje yingqokelela yamava ethu adlulileyo asenza sibe yile nto siyiyo. Akukho namnye kuthi ofanayo, kodwa sonke sinokunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo ezifanayo. Njengoko sikhanyisa ukukhanya ngokuzibulala ngo-Septemba ngeNyanga yoKwazisa ngokuBulala nokuThintela iNyanga, qaphela la mabali mathathu ahlukeneyo:

UTom * yindoda eneminyaka eli-19 ubudala, ekhululekile, ezalisekisa iphupha lakhe lokusebenza kwishishini lokuzonwabisa, nakwinkampani ekudala efuna ukuyisebenzela. Ibiliphupha lakhe lobomi bonke. Ubomi bumnandi. Unabahlobo abaninzi, kwaye ungumntu owonwabileyo-onethamsanqa ofuna ukwazi. Uzenzela abahlobo naphina apho aya khona. Uyaziwa ngobukrelekrele bakhe obukhawulezayo kunye nesimo sengqondo sokuthanda ulonwabo.

Ngoku, khawuthelekelele indoda eneminyaka engama-60 ubudala, uWayne, * kwisigaba sakhe sesibini sobomi, emva kokukhonza ilizwe lethu njengoMkhosi waseLwandle waseUnited States. Ubuyele esikolweni, wazalisekisa iphupha lakhe lokwakha imfundo esekwe kumava akhe emkhosini, ejongene nemicimbi ye-PTSD kunye nezinto ezinjengezo zininzi zinikwa ngabantu xa bebuyela kubomi “obuqhelekileyo”.

Kwaye kukho intokazi eneminyaka eli-14 ubudala, uEmma. * Esitsha kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, ukhuthazekile ukuba afumane imali kwaye agcinele ikamva lakhe. Emva kwesikolo, ngaphambi kokuba aqale umsebenzi wakhe wasekhaya, usebenza njengentombazana ephepha, ehambisa amaphephandaba kubamelwane ngaphakathi kweekhilomitha ezimbini zendlu yakhe. Unabahlobo, nangona ecinga ukuba ngekhe apholise njengobhuti wakhe odumileyo kwezemidlalo, ke uchitha ixesha elininzi ebalekela kwinyani yoncwadi ekhoyo kwiincwadi zakudala.

Sonke sihamba kwindlela yethu ebomini. Phezulu, akukho namnye kwaba bantu unento efanayo. Nangona kunjalo, banokuba bonke abantu esibaziyo. Kwaye kwabanye bethu, siyamazi uTom, uWayne noEmma. Ndenze kwaye ndiyenzile. Into ongayaziyo kukuba uTom ulwa nesini sakhe kwaye ufumana indawo yakhe njengomfana oselula kweli hlabathi. Into ongayivayo ngoWayne, ulwa nemicimbi yakhe yePTSD; Kumnqweno wakhe wokunceda abanye, eneneni ufuna uncedo aludinga ngokwenene. Kwaye into ongayiboniyo nguEmma, ​​efihle ngasemva kwefadade yabalinganiswa beencwadi kunye namaphupha okwenza imali ukumfihla isidingo sakhe sokunxibelelana nabo baziva bembona ngathi uyadika kwaye akapholanga.

Kumntu ngamnye kwaba bantu, ngaphandle bekufihla oko baziva ngaphakathi. Umntu ngamnye kwaba bantu bafikelela kwinqanaba lokuziva bephelelwe lithemba. Ngamnye waba bantu bagqibe kwelokuba bathathe imicimbi ezandleni zabo ngento abavakalelwa kukuba lilinge lokwenza ubabalo lwehlabathi. Ngamnye waba bantu bafike kwinqanaba apho bakholelwa ngokwenyani ukuba umhlaba uya kuba yindawo engcono ngaphandle kwabo. Kwaye umntu ngamnye kwaba bantu wenza isenzo. Ngamnye kwaba bantu bathathu wenza isenzo sokwenyani nesokugqibela sokuzama ukuzibulala. Kwaye ababini kubo bagqiba isenzo.

Ngokwe-American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, ukuzibulala ngunobangela weshumi ophambili wokufa kwabantu eUnited States. Ngo-2017, bekukho ngaphezu kokuphindaphinda kabini ukuzibulala (47,173) kunokubulawa kwabantu (19,510) kwilizwe lethu. Kwaye eColorado, ukusukela nge-2016, isifundo se-United Health Foundation siqaphele ukuba ilizwe lethu libone ukonyuka okuphezulu, unyaka nonyaka. Le yingxaki yempilo yoluntu enokuthintelwa esinokusebenzela ukuyiphelisa. Enye indlela kukwazisa kunye nokubekwa ecaleni kwemicimbi yezempilo yengqondo. Njengokuba oogqirha banceda ngempilo yethu yasemzimbeni, oochwephesha banokunceda ngempilo yethu yengqondo. Kulungile ukucela uncedo. Kulungile ukukhangela kubahlobo kunye nosapho ukuqinisekisa ukuba abo basingqongileyo benza kakuhle. Sukucinga ukuba umntu ulungile, kuba kusenokubonakala kulungile ngaphandle.

UTom, uWayne noEmma banobuntu obahlukileyo, kwaye abanye banokubona inqanaba eliphezulu lokuzibulala, nangona onke amaqela abantu bezibulala. Abafundi ababhinqileyo, njengoEmma, ​​bazama ukuzibulala kabini ngokufuthi njengabafundi abangamadoda. Kwaye nabantu abanjengoWayne, ngo-2017, inqanaba lokuzibulala kwamagqala ubuncinci lingama-1.5 amaxesha aphezulu kunalawo angengawo amagqala.

Umhlaba esiphila kuwo namhlanje awusoze wazi ukuba uTom okanye uWayne bangazisa ntoni ngokupheleleyo kuwo. Nangona kunjalo, kwabo babemazi uTom noWayne, akukho nto. Kwaye oku kunokuthiwa kuye nawuphina umntu onamava kumntu amaziyo ukuba uzibulala. Usapho lukaTom luyiphose eyona nto ayithandayo ebomini. UTom wayehlala elithanda ilizwe elimngqongileyo. Xa efuna ukwenza into, watsibela ngeenyawo ezimbini. Ndikhumbula uburharha bakhe kunye nomdla wobomi. Ngubani owaziyo ukuba ngewayephumeze ntoni ukuba ebephila kwiminyaka eli-19 ubudala. Amadoda amaninzi angaphambi kokuba abe ngumcebisi okaWayne afikelele esiphelweni. Abasoze bakwazi ukufunda kumava kunye nobungcali bukaWayne. Abatshana bakaWayne nabo baphulukana nomalume onenkathalo nothando. Kum, ndiyazi ukuba ndiyalukhumbula uburharha bakhe malunga novavanyo lwegrama yokusetyenziswa gwenxa kwee-clichés kunye namaqhalo. UWayne wayekulungele oko.

Ngokubhekisele ku-Emma, ​​indlela ayikhethileyo yayingeyiyo eyokugqibela njengoko wayenethemba. Emva kokusebenza ngemicimbi nayo yonke into emqhubileyo ukuba enze ukhetho alwenzileyo, ngoku ungumntu osempilweni, osebenzayo kuluntu. Uyazi ukuba kufuneka ahlole iimvakalelo zakhe nini, nini ukuzimela ngokwakhe kwaye acele nini uncedo. Ndiyamazi uEmma uzakulunga. Le ntombazana ineminyaka eli-14 ubudala ayisiyiyo le nto ayiyo namhlanje. Unenkqubo efanelekileyo yokumxhasa, usapho kunye nabahlobo abamkhathaleleyo, kunye nomsebenzi ozinzileyo omgcina ephangela ngokufanelekileyo. Nangona sonke sisendleleni yethu, kule meko, indlela kaEmma yeyam. Ewe ndinguEmma.

Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo uneengcinga zokuzibulala, zininzi iindlela zokufuna uncedo. EColorado, tsalela umnxeba iColorado Crisis Services ku-844-493-8255 okanye uthumele i-TALK ku-38255. ICongress kutshanje ipasise umthetho oyilwayo ochaza i-988 njengelizwe lonke ukubiza ukuba ngaba uzibulala okanye unengxaki yempilo yengqondo. Inani lijolise ekusebenzeni phakathi ku-2022. Kuze kwenzeke oko, kuzwelonke ungatsalela umnxeba ku-800-273-8255. Jonga nosapho kunye nabahlobo bakho kunye nabo bakungqongileyo. Awusoze wazi indlela umntu anokuba kuyo kunye nefuthe onokuthi ulwenze.

Amagama atshintshiwe ukukhusela imfihlo yomntu.

 

Imithombo:

Isiseko saseMelika soThintelo lokuzibulala. https://afsp.org/suicide-statistics/

Amacandelo okuLawula nokuKhuselwa kwezifo. https://www.cdc.gov/msmhealth/suicide-violence-prevention.htm

IZiko leSizwe lezeMpilo yeNgqondo. https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/suicide.shtml

Umanyano lukaZwelonke malunga nokugula ngengqondo. https://www.nami.org/About-NAMI/NAMI-News/2020/FCC-Designates-988-as-a-Nationwide-Mental-Health-Crisis-and-Suicide-Prevention-Number

Uthintelo lokuZibulala kuZwelonke. https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Ireyithi yokuzibulala kolutsha eColorado inyuswe ngama-58% kwiminyaka emi-3, iyenza ukuba ibe ngunobangela woku-1 kwaba-5 kwabaFikisayo ekufeni. https://www.cpr.org/2019/09/17/the-rate-of-teen-suicide-in-colorado-increased-by-58-percent-in-3-years-making-it-the-cause-of-1-in-5-adolescent-deaths/