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IVeki yeZenzo zoBubele ngokungahleliwe

“Xa ungena kwivenkile yakho yekofu okanye usiya emsebenzini, yintoni onokuyenza ukuze wenze usuku lomntu? Uhlawulela umntu omi emva kwakho ikofu? Ncuma uze ujonge umntu odlulayo eholweni? Mhlawumbi umntu ebenosuku olunzima kwaye ngokumvuma, wenze impembelelo ebomini bakhe. Akukho kudibana okwenzekayo kodwa lithuba lokusasaza ukukhanya. ”- URabi uDaniel Cohen

Ubusazi ukuba ukuba nobubele kulungile kuwe impilo? Oku kunokuquka ukubonakalisa ububele kwabanye okanye kwanokunikela ubungqina ngezenzo zobubele ezikungqongileyo. Ububele bunokuchaphazela ingqondo yakho ngokunyusa okanye ukukhulula i-serotonin, i-dopamine, i-endorphins, kunye / okanye i-oxytocin. Ezi khemikhali zinokuchaphazela ngokufanelekileyo amanqanaba oxinzelelo, ukudibanisa, kunye nokuphila kakuhle.

Ngoku siyazi ukuba ububele bungaphezulu nje kwento elungileyo yokwenza, kodwa buchaphazela impilo yethu iyonke, sibufaka njani ububele obuninzi ebomini bethu? Ukubeka imbeko IVeki yeZenzo zoBubele ngokungahleliwe, mna nabantwana bam sibandakanyeka kuMngeni kaFebruwari woBubele (yeyiphi indlela enhle yokwakha izakhono ze-kiddos kwesi sithuba kwaye ubanike ubuchopho obuhle)! Oku isayithi inika iingcebiso ezintle zokuphuhlisa owakho umngeni.

Ndahlala phantsi nabantwana bam, abaneminyaka eyi-8 kunye ne-5 ubudala, ukwenza imephu yesicwangciso sethu seentsuku ezingama-30. Sijonge iingcebiso zezenzo zobubele, sabonisana ngezimvo ezahlukeneyo ngokudibeneyo, kwaye sakha ipowusta ukwenza imephu yesicwangciso sethu senyanga. Siyiphonononga rhoqo kusasa nangokuhlwa kwaye sikhuphe into enye ngosuku. Ihlala phambi kwefriji yethu njengesikhumbuzo sokuba sibe nobubele omnye komnye nakwabo basingqongileyo. Ithemba lam kukuba emva kweentsuku ezingama-30, izenzo zobubele ezingalindelekanga ziba ngumkhwa wosapho. Ziye zendele kuthi kangangokuba asicingi nokucinga ngazo, sisuka nje senze izinto.

Sikwiveki yokuqala yezenzo zethu zobubele kwaye emva kwesiqalo esibi (sodade kunye nomntakwabo ABANGAbonisani ububele omnye nomnye), ndicinga ukuba siphumelele i-breakthrough phezolo. Ngaphandle kokubuza, bobabini benzele ootitshala babo iincwadi ezincinci. Bayila amabali kunye nemizobo kwaye bafaka iqhekeza lelekese kutitshala ngamnye kwingqokelela yakhe yobuqu (intsalela yeeholide zasebusika).

Ngelixa bebesenza lo msebenzi phezolo, ikhaya lazola. Izinga loxinzelelo lwam liye lehla kwaye ixesha lokulala liye lalula kakhulu. Ngale ntsasa basonge izipho zabo baza baphuma endlwini bevuya. Kwiintsuku nje ezimbalwa, sinokubona ukukhula kwethu kakuhle kunye noxinzelelo lwethu oludibeneyo lwehla. Ndiziva ndiphelelwa ngamandla, nto leyo endivumela ukuba ndibonakale ngcono kubo. Ngaphezu koko, benza into enobubele kumntu osebenza nzima kakhulu ukubafundisa imihla ngemihla kwaye mhlawumbi akabulelwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Nangona ndiyazi ukuba kuya kubakho amahla ndinyuka ngalo mceli mngeni ozayo, ndijonge phambili kusapho lwethu ukwenza lo mkhwa ulungileyo okhokelela kwiziphumo ezilungileyo kwabanye kunye noluntu.