Umnyinyiva: Ukubaleka AKUKHO kumntu wonke

Kumoya wokubandakanya wonke umntu, andibhali oku ukuze ndiqinisekise wonke umntu ukuba kufuneka athathe inxaxheba. Baninzi abangayithandiyo nakanye, okanye imizimba yabo ibathintelayo ukuba bayenze, okanye zombini, kwaye ndiyayibulela le nto. Ihlabathi lethu beliya kukruqula ukuba wonke umntu ebenokwabelana ngento enye! Ekubhaleni imbono yam malunga nokubaleka, ndiyathemba ukuba lusukelo lwam lokungaphangeli, ukuthanda ubomi bonke, kunye nentsingiselo endinika yona, enokunxibelelana nomntu wonke. Kwabo banomdla wokubaleka rhoqo, ndiyathemba ukuba ukwabelana kwam okuthobekileyo kunokukukhuthaza ukuba ujonge ngakumbi kwaye ungatyhafi.

Ukubaleka kwaye ndinobudlelwane obuqinileyo, obuvavanywa ixesha. Yenye eyakhiwe kwiminyaka emininzi, kwaye kuhambo lwam bekukho iindawo ezininzi eziphakamileyo kunye nokuwa (ngokoqobo kunye nomfanekiso). Ukwenza into ngoku endandicinga ukuba ndingayenza ngaphambili ze yenza, kwaye ke ndingqina ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba enyanisweni mna unako yenze, mhlawumbi si #2 isizathu sokuba ndibe ndibaleka iimbaleki kule minyaka ilishumi idlulileyo. Isizathu sam #1 sokubaleka siyaguquguquka nosuku, kuxhomekeka kwindawo endikuqeqesho lwam, okanye ukuba ndiqeqeshelwa ugqatso olulandelayo konke konke.

“Awudikwa? Ndingadikwa kakhulu!”

Andazi ukuba ndivumelekile na ukwabelana ngale mfihlo kuluntu lwembaleki, kodwa ndiya phambili: thina do dikwa! Ndizivumela ukuba ndibe nesithukuthezi kwaye ndiziva ngokubanzi zonke iintlobo zezinto ezingathandekiyo ngaphambili, ngexesha, nasemva kwexesha elide. Iimbaleki zonyamezelo nazo zisenokudikwa, okanye zisiqhubela yonke imilingo nemvula. Zizilingo, inkxwaleko kunye nokukhula okwenza ukubaleka kunyanzelise kwaye kunomvuzo. Ndikhunjuzwa ngesicatshulwa esisuka kwimuvi “UManyano Lwabo,” apho umdlali ophambili uDottie, odlalwa nguGeena Davis othandekayo, wakhalaza ngokuba ibaseball inzima kakhulu, apho umqeqeshi wakhe, odlalwa nguTom Hanks obalaseleyo, aphendule: “Kumele ukuba nzima. Ukuba bekungenzima ke wonke umntu ebeya kuyenza. Ubunzima buyenza ibe ntle. ” Ndizakuvuma kwakhona ukuba ukubaleka ayingomntu wonke ngenxa yezizathu ezivakalayo endizibizayo ngasentla. Okubaluleke kakhulu kukuba, wonke umntu endikhe ndathetha naye uyavuma ukuba amabanga esikolo abaziva beneqhayiya ngokuwazuza ngawona bawasebenzele nzima.

Ayikokubasempilweni nje ngokwasemzimbeni

Ukubaleka kube yindlela yobomi kum. Kudlulela ngaphaya kokwakha amandla, ukugcina ukomelela, kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo. Into esiqhubeka sifunda ngayo malunga nokuba ukugijima kuwuchaphazela njani umzimba womntu umdla. Ndiyakuthanda ukufunda amanqaku anjalo, kodwa ndikwiphulo lokufuna okungakumbi kuneengenelo zomzimba kuphela. Zininzi kakhulu ezinye izinto ezilungileyo ezinokuvela ekubalekeni okungafane kuthethwe ngazo, kodwa kufanele ukuba ngokwenene. Ukubaleka kundivumela ukuba ndiphinde ndiqale kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ezimbi endinazo, enye ngaphezulu kwenye, ngelixa nto okunye ndizamile uye. Ndiye ndanyanzeleka ukuba ndixolelaniswe neenkumbulo ezingathandekiyo ezingenzanga nto indikhonza ngaphandle kokundenza ndizive ndizisola yaye ndineentloni. Xa ubaleka iiyure ezininzi, umamele iingoma ezingama-50 ezifanayo kwaye ubaleka ngendlela efanayo owenze izihlandlo ezininzi, ingqondo yakho ngokuqinisekileyo iya kubhadula. Ewe uyazitshintsha izinto, kodwa kusekho imida. Ngokungenakuphepheka, uya kucinga ngezinto ezingaphaya ukuba ubaleke kangakanani na, ushiye kangakanani na, xa unokuba nejeli yakho elandelayo ye-Gu okanye imihla embalwa, kunye naziphi na ezinye iingcamango nabani na ozama ukusinda kwi-15-mile-long. ukubaleka kuya kuba.

Andiyi kukhuthaza into kanyekanye, kodwa ukubaleka kuzinikele njengomsebenzi endiwunyulele ukucamngca, ucwangciso lobomi, kunye nokubhiyozela ubomi. Kukho zonke iintlobo zokufunda kwindlela yembaleki, nayo. Ukuqala ngokucacileyo, ewe, uya kufunda ngakumbi malunga nendlela umzimba wakho osabela ngayo ekusebenzeni kunye nendlela yokuqhuba ngcono kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Ukuba uyayenza ingongoma, unokufunda izixeko ngokudlula-kunye-ngendlela ongenakuhamba ngayo ngezinye iindlela zokuhamba. Ngaba uyafuna ukwazi eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokunqumla kwiSithili seGadi ngexesha leparade yaseMardi Gras? Kuthekani ukuba useMzantsi Boston kwaye unqwenela ukusebenzisa indlu yangasese yoluntu? Leliphi icandelo elingaphantsi koMlambo iPlatte onokuthi uzipholele nje? Ukujikeleza ngeenyawo kundenze ndazi ngakumbi iindawo ezidumileyo kunye neziganeko ezizayo zasekuhlaleni, kuba ndidibana nazo ngengozi. Kodwa uya kufunda ngokungathandabuzekiyo ukuba zeziphi iindlela othanda ngazo indlela oziphatha ngayo zonke iinjongo kunye nemiqobo ojongene nayo. Yintoni oyifumana ikukhuthaza kakhulu kwaye ukuvala njani ukungazithembi? Yintoni oyifezayo ngokuzityhala kwisantya esikhawulezayo okanye imigama emide onokuthi uhambe nayo kuzo zonke ezinye iinjongo.

Amaqhinga oRhwebo

Kugqatso ngalunye ndizibekela usukelo olufanayo: yonwaba apho ndikhoyo, ndilugqibe, kwaye ndifunde kwabanye. Ngexesha logqatso, bonke abathathi-nxaxheba balusapho. Ayingomdyarho okhuphisanayo ngaphandle kokuba uyimbaleki ekwinqanaba lokuqala, kwaye emva koko uyabona. amabali amnandi ayenzeka. Sonke siyavuyisana kwaye sijonge omnye komnye. Ukubaleka umgama ngowona mdlalo usekelwe kwiqela-ukuziva ndinokucinga ngawo. Esi sesinye isizathu sokuba ndibaleke. Ugqatso lwam lokuqala ndandikulo phezu kwentloko yam, njengoko uninzi lwabantu abaqalayo lunjalo. Uyafunda, uqeqeshe, kwaye ucwangcise, kodwa yiza imini yomdyarho awukayazi into omawuyilindele. Ndinombulelo ngonaphakade kumfazi owabelana nam nge-ibuprofen kum kwikhilomitha ezili-18. Ngoku ndihlala ndizisa eyam ibuprofen, i-acetaminophen kunye ne-Band-Aids kwikhosi, kwaye ndihlala ndijonge abanye abasweleyo. Xa ekugqibeleni ndaye ndahlawula ubabalo lokuqala, kwiminyaka kamva, yayileloxesha lesangqa esigcweleyo endandinethemba lalo, kwaye yayizalisa umphefumlo kwaye igqibelele. Nazi ezinye izifundo zam ezithobekileyo endizifundileyo:

1. Fumana isizathu sakho. Mhlawumbi kukuseka ukubaleka njengomkhwa kukodwa kuyinjongo yakho. Ukuba kunjalo, yenza lo mkhwa ucace kwaye ungabi buthuntu njengoko ndenzayo kuqala. Mhlawumbi sele ubaleka rhoqo kodwa ufuna into entsha nangaphezulu. Ukuba imidyarho elungelelanisiweyo ayikuchulumancisi, yila eyakho into. Mhlawumbi ufuna ukwenza into evakala ngathi ayinakwenzeka kuwe, njengokubaleka ujikeleze iCity Park izihlandlo ezihlanu ngaphakathi kwesantya esithile, okanye ngaphandle kokuhamba, okanye ngaphandle kokufuna ukufa. Into ephambili kukuba injongo yakho mayivuyise kwaye ikukhuthaze nina.
2. Thetha nezinye iimbaleki. Abantu abaphumeleleyo (kwaye babaleka) i IMarathon yaseBoston, okanye abo benza rhoqo ultras, okanye balugqibe lonke ugqatso ukutyhala amalungu osapho kwizithuthi (ezivunyiweyo). ibingabanye babona bantu banobubele endakha ndadibana nabo. Ngokubanzi, iimbaleki ziyakuthanda ukuthetha ivenkile kwaye sihlala sonwabile ukunceda!
3. Yiba nesiseko sabalandeli bakho okanye iqela lenkxaso (bona ngokwabo akufuneki babaleke, ngokuyimfuneko). Nokuba uziqeqesha ngokupheleleyo njengengcuka yodwa, uya kufuna abantu ukuba bakukhuthaze kwaye bakukhumbuze ukuba ude kangakanani kwaye yintoni into enkulu xa ubetha inqanaba elibalulekileyo onokuthi unciphise. Umhlobo wam uMarina wahleka kakhulu xa ndathi kwimpelaveki ezayo “kufuneka ndibaleke iimayile ezisibhozo kuphela.” Yinkumbulo ecacileyo kunye nobuhlobo obuthandekayo endibubambe ngokusondeleyo.
4. Yiba nengqondo evulekileyo kwaye ulinge indlela yakho yokujonga kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Kukuphi ukutya / isiselo / igiya / ikhosi / ixesha lemini elisebenzela iqabane lakho lisenokungasebenzi kuwe. Into esebenze kakuhle kwimpelaveki ephelileyo isenokungasebenzi ngomso. Ukubaleka kunokuba guquguquka.
5. Iingoma zamandla. Fumana ezininzi kangangoko unako kwaye uzisebenzise ngobuchule. Ndibeka eyam iyure ecaleni koluhlu lwam lokudlalayo kwaye ndinoluhlu lokudlala olwahlukileyo lweengoma zamandla endinokuzidlala xa zifunwa. Ndicinga ukuba umculo ugcina isimilo sam kunye nesantya esingcono kunee-audiobooks okanye ii-podcasts, kodwa nganye eyabo. Kwabo bahamba ngaphandle okanye abangeva kakuhle, beka phambili umendo ngeyona mbono ilungileyo okanye ukuhla okumnandi, okanye umboniso okanye imuvi onokuyibukela kwi-treadmill eya kukugcina ubandakanyekile. Kakade ke, kukho kwakhona iinkqubo kunye nezikhokelo zeembaleki ezingaboniyo kunye nemidyarho emininzi ivumela imidyarho emibini okanye ukuhamba ngeebhayisekile. Ukuba unayo intando, ungafumana indlela.
6. Yiba neenkolelo ezincinci. Ngokunyanisekileyo. Ndikhe ndasebenzisa ii-earbuds zam ezifayo okokugqibela Thoba imidyarho (yaqala ukungasebenzi masithi kwiminyaka emine eyadlulayo) kuba ndikwazile ukulugqiba lonke ugqatso, nditsho neLake Sonoma 50 (umzila wam wokuqala nowokugqibela). Xa ii-earbuds zam ekugqibeleni zisifa kum, ndijonge ukufumana uhlobo olufanayo kunye nombala, nangona ndingade ndijoyine impucuko yethu yanamhlanje kwaye ndifumane ezona zicingo zingenazingcingo.
7. Yamkela ukuba uya kuba nemiqobo. Ngombulelo, uya kwakha amanqanaba amatsha okuqina kunye nokuzithemba. Ingakumbi wakube udibana nenjongo yakho yokuqala enkulu yokuzikhuthaza, ezi zithintelo aziyi kuziva zinkulu kangako. Emva kweminyaka yokuqhuba, ngokusisiseko ulindele ukusilela kwaye uzive ufezekile ngakumbi ngokuqhubeka nokuba kunjalo.
8. Cwangcisa ikhosi yakho ngocoselelo kwaye ube nesicwangciso saxa ulahleka. Iya kukhathaza kwaye mhlawumbi yoyike, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi xa ndilahlekile ndiye ndafumana iindawo ezintsha ezipholileyo kwaye ndiye ndakwazi ukongeza umgama endingakhange ndicinge ukuba ndingawenza!
9. Yiba nenkani kodwa ube bhetyebhetye malunga neshedyuli yakho yokubaleka. Ubomi busitsalela kwiindlela ezininzi, ngamanye amaxesha ezichasayo. Zihloniphe iintsuku zakho ezinde ezibekiweyo. Musa ukuzandisa kakhulu imini nobusuku ngaphambili. Kulungile ngokulandula izimemo zokuhamba intaba, ukuya kwimibhiyozo yomculo, kunye nokunye ukuphuma owaziyo ukuba kuya kuhenda ikamva kakhulu.
10. Thatha ixesha lokuphumla. Uloliwe onqumlayo. Ndiwukhuphe wonke u-2020, njengoko abaninzi benzile, kwaye endaweni yoko ndenza iiklasi zokudanisa isamba. Yayisoyikeka.

Izibonelelo Ndiyazithanda

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Ixesha Lokugqiba

Ukulungiselela lo nyaka Usuku lweGlobal Running (Juni 1), vele uphume wenze into oyithandayo engenzi umsebenzi. Ukuba into oyithandayo ikwenzela zonke izinto endibalekayo (mhlawumbi nangaphezulu?), intle kakhulu! Ukuba awukayifumani into okwangoku, qhubeka ujonge. Ukuba ufuna ukubaleka kodwa uziva unoloyiko oluncinci, baleka usoyika! Alikho ixesha eligqibeleleyo lokuqalisa into entsha (ngaphandle kokuba luqeqesho lomdyarho, apho unokufuna inani elifanelekileyo leeveki ukuqalisa).

 

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