Uthintelo: Indoda eyiSmart, uMfazi oSilumko

Xa ndandikwikholeji, ndandifuna ukuba ngumchwephesha wezidlo obhalisiweyo. Ukutya ngendlela esempilweni kunye nokuziqhelanisa nokuziphatha kubalulekile ukuze uthintele izifo ezininzi kubafazi nakumadoda, kwaye ndacinga ukuba ukuba ngumntu ozilolonga kuya kungenceda mna kunye neziguli zam, kodwa ingakumbi usapho lwam kunye nabahlobo. Ngelishwa, andilunganga kakhulu kwizibalo okanye inzululwazi, ukuze loo msebenzi ungandisebenzisi, kodwa ndisebenzisa ulwazi endiluthathe kwizifundo ezahlukeneyo zezempilo nezesondlo kunye noqeqesho ukuze ndizame ukunceda usapho lwam kunye nabahlobo usempilweni.

Ndigxila ikakhulu ekuncedeni amadoda ebomini bam ukuba abe sempilweni: utata wam, umntakwethu, nomlingane wam. Ngoba? Kuba amadoda aneminyaka yobomi elindelekileyo kunababhinqileyo - ngokomndilili, amadoda asweleke ngeminyaka emihlanu kunabasetyhini.¹  Kuba amadoda asengozini yokufa zizinto ezininzi ezibalaseleyo zokufa, uninzi lwazo ezinokuthintelwa, kubandakanya isifo seswekile, isifo sentliziyo, kunye nesibindi okanye izifo zezinso.² Kwaye kuba amadoda ahlala ekuphepha ukubona oogqirha babo, kwaye ukubona ugqirha linyathelo eliphambili kuthintelo.³ Amadoda nawo mancinci kakhulu amathuba okuba abeke elangeni xa aphumela ngaphandle. Kulungile, ndiyenzile yokugqibela, kodwa iyinyani yamadoda ebomini bam!

Elinye lamaqela endiwathandayo nguGrateful Dead, kwaye bahlala befaka ingoma ebizwa ngokuba yi "Man Smart, Woman Smarter." Nangona ndingavumi ngokupheleleyo kwaye ndingakhuthazi isini esinye ngaphezulu kwayo nayiphi na indlela, kufuneka ndivume ukuba inzululwazi icebisa ukuba abantu basetyhini "banobukrelekrele" kuthintelo kunamadoda. Le yinto elungileyo kwimpilo yabasetyhini xa iyonke, kodwa ikwathetha ukuba sinokuwanceda amadoda kubomi bethu ukuba abe ngcono kwaye abe nobukrelekrele kuthintelo.

Kwaye uJuni lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuqalisa: yinyanga yeNtlalontle yaBantu, egxile ekukhuliseni ulwazi ngezempilo ezinokuthintelwa kwaye ikhuthaze ukufunyanwa kwangoko kunye nonyango lwezifo kumadoda namakhwenkwe.

Ndizama ukukhumbuza utata wam, umntakwethu, kunye nomtshana ngezindlela ezilula zokuhlala usempilweni ngaphandle kokurhola. Oku kunzima kunokuba kuvakala, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu! Ndizama ukubanceda benze ukhetho lokutya olusempilweni (utata undibiza ngokuba ngumlindi wakhe), ndibanyanzele ukuba bazilolonge kunye nam nokuba iyinto yokugqibela abafuna ukuyenza, okanye ubakhumbuze ukuba bafake isikrini eselanga nangaliphi na ixesha xa bephuma (ngakumbi xa bandindwendwela apha eColorado, kuba sivela eNew York kwaye ilanga leColorado yiRRONG).

Ndizama nokuqinisekisa ukuba babona ugqirha nogqirha wamazinyo rhoqo ukuba bahlale bekwimeko entle kwaye babambe nayiphi na imiba emincinci ngaphambi kokuba baguqukele kwiingxaki ezinkulu. Banokundifumana ndicaphukisa ngendlela engathethekiyo, ngakumbi xa ndikwimowudi yokubek 'esweni, kodwa bayazi ukuba kungenxa yokuba ndibakhathalele kwaye bafuna ukuba bahlale besempilweni. Abangandimamela ngalo lonke ixesha, kodwa ndiya kuhlala ndizama, ngakumbi ngelixesha leNyanga yaMadoda yezeMpilo. Kule nyanga, sonke masenze umzamo wokukhuthaza amadoda kubomi bethu ukuba aqalise ukuphuhlisa imikhwa esempilweni enokukhokelela kubomi obunempilo. Nezinto ezincinci zinganceda ukwenza umahluko kwaye zijike ezo zibalo zijikeleze!

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1. Ukupapashwa kwezempilo kweHarvard, iSikolo sezonyango saseHarvard: Kutheni amadoda esoloko esifa kwangoko kunabafazi-2016: https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/why-men-often-die-earlier-than-women-201602199137
2. Inethiwekhi yamadoda: iZizathu eziPhezulu zokuBhubha ngobuhlanga, uKwabelana ngesondo, kunye nobuhlanga - 2016: https://www.menshealthnetwork.org/library/causesofdeath.pdf
3. Igumbi leendaba laseCleveland Clinic: Uhlolisiso lweKlinikhi yaseCleveland: Amadoda aya kwenza phantse nantoni na ukuthintela ukuya kugqirha- 2019: https://newsroom.clevelandclinic.org/2019/09/04/cleveland-clinic-survey-men-will-do-almost-anything-to-avoid-going-to-the-doctor/