Ukunyukela Kubunzima: Inyanga yeQhayiya ngo-2023
LGBTQ+ Iqhayiya li...
I-echo, ukunqwala, kunye nokuvuleka kokwamkela konke.
Indlela eyodwa eya kulonwabo, ukuzixabisa, uthando, ukuzithemba, kunye nokuthembela.
Ukufaneleka, ulonwabo, kunye nokugqunyelelwa kwisidima ukuze ube kanye kanye ungubani.
Umbhiyozo nomoya wokwamkela imbali yomntu.
Ukukroba ekuzibopheleleni okunzulu kwikamva lento engaphezulu.
Ukuvuma ukuba, njengoluntu, asisathule, asifihli, okanye sodwa.
- UCharlee Frazier-Flores
Ngenyanga kaJuni, kwihlabathi liphela, abantu bajoyina ukubhiyozela uluntu lwe-LGBTQ.
Imisitho ibandakanya imibhiyozo ebandakanyayo, imingcelele ezele ngabantu, iinkampani ezivulelekileyo neziqinisekisayo, kunye nabathengisi. Usenokuba uwuvile umbuzo othi "kutheni?" Kutheni kukho imfuneko yeNyanga yokuZingca ye-LGBTQ? Emva kwalo lonke eli xesha, zonke iinguqu, imizabalazo, kunye neziganeko zobundlobongela uluntu olujongene nazo, kutheni siqhubeka nokubhiyozela? Ngokubhiyoza esidlangalaleni, isenokuba yeyabo bonke abeza ngaphambi kwethu; isenokuba ukubonisa ihlabathi ukuba sibaninzi kwaye asimbalwa; inokuba ukubonisa ezo inkxaso kwabo bahlala bezifihlile ukuphepha ucalucalulo, ukuvalelwa entolongweni okanye ukufa. Kutheni le nto yahlukile kumntu wonke. Kwanakwabo bangazibandakanyiyo kwiminyhadala yokwenyani, abaxhasi baya kubonakala ngakumbi okanye bathethe ngomlomo ngoJuni. Ndiye ndafunda kule minyaka ukuba inyanga yeSilimela ivumela uluntu ukuba luziveze ngokwalo nangokuhlangeneyo. Ukubonakala kubalulekile kwabo bajongene nocalucalulo. Amava ethu obomi avakala ngokwahlukileyo, nangaphakathi kuluntu lwe-LGBTQ. Konke ukuzonwabisa kunye nemibhiyozo kunokunceda ukuzisa inkuthazo kunye nemvakalelo yesiqhelo kwiqela labantu abangathathi ntweni. Yindawo apho usapho, abahlobo, kunye nabaxhasi banokuza khona ukuze banikele ubungqina kubomi babantu abakhethekileyo. Likhwelo lomanyano nenkxaso kuluntu olubandakanyayo. Ukuba yinxalenye yemibhiyozo kunokubangela ukuba uzive wamkelekile. Ukuthatha inxaxheba kumbhiyozo weQhayiya kuvumela inkululeko yokuzibonakalisa, indawo yokuzifihla, kunye nendawo yokubalwa njengenye yezininzi. Inkululeko kunye noqhagamshelwano lunokonwaba.
Inkqubo yokufunyaniswa komntu wonke ozifumana ebekwe bucala kuluntu lwehlabathi oluqhelekileyo olwamkelweyo yodwa.
Imibhiyozo yekratshi ayipheleli nje kwabo bachonga “njengabanye.” Akunjalo nje kwabo bawela kuluntu lwe-LGBTQ. Yindawo wonke wamkelekile! Sonke sizalelwa kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zenkcubeko, zemali, kunye nemfundo. Abo bangaphakathi kuluntu lwe-LGBTQ banokubamba ukufana okuthile kwabanye ngaphakathi kwesangqa sangaphakathi. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba banikwe ithuba lokwabelana ngamava abo obuqu, ubunzulu bomzabalazo buyahluka ngokusekelwe kwilungelo kunye nokuswela ilungelo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba amandla kabani, ukwamkeleka kwakhe, kunye nempumelelo yakhe ngokufuthi kudla ngokuthintelwa ngumkhethe ngokwentlalo. Amabali ethu ayahluka ngokusekelwe kwizinto zombini ngaphakathi nangaphandle kolawulo lwethu. Imiphumo yempilo engokwengqondo, yeemvakalelo, neyomzimba umntu adibana nayo ebudeni bobomi bakhe inento yokwenza nokwamkelwa, unyango nenkxaso esiyifumana kwabanye. Umzekelo, uMnyama, umthonyama, okanye umntu webala uya kujongana namava ahlukileyo kunendoda emhlophe. Masithi umntu we-BIPOC ukwachonga njengabangavumelaniyo ngokwesini okanye abagqithisayo, kunye ne-non-traditional orientation ngokwesondo, kwaye i-neurodivergent. Kwimeko apho, baya kuziva beqokelele ucalucalulo oluninzi kuluntu olungamkeli kumanqanaba amaninzi. INyanga yokuZingca ibalulekile njengoko ibonelela ngethuba lokubhiyozela iyantlukwano yethu. INyanga yokuZikhukhumeza inokuzisa ulwazi ngokubaluleka kokwabelana ngendawo, ukuvumela umntu ngamnye ukuba aviwe, ukuqhubela phambili ukwamkelwa kwehlabathi, kunye nokudala indawo yesenzo ekugqibeleni idala utshintsho.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, oko sikugqala njengokwamkelekileyo ngokufuthi kusekelwe kumava ethu obomi, kwimilinganiselo yokuziphatha, kwiinkolelo nakuloyiko lwethu.
Uluntu lwe-LGBTQ luhlala luvela, lukwabelana, kwaye luqhekeza iingcamango malunga namava omntu. Iindonga ezijikeleze iintliziyo zethu kunye neengqondo zethu zinokukhula kwaye zikhule ukuze zibandakanyeke ngakumbi. Kubalulekile ukuba sithathele ingqalelo ukuthambekela kwethu ngabanye ngokusekelwe kumava obomi. I-bias yindawo engaboniyo esingayaziyo ngenxa yenkululeko ubomi bethu obukhethekileyo obusinike yona. Kule nyanga qwalasela indlela unxibelelwano lwakho nehlabathi olunokwahluka ngayo kolomnye umntu. Bunokwahluka njani ubomi babo kobakho? Enyanisweni, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntu uzichaza njani na, ubani usenokusondela ekuqondeni, ekwamkeleni nasekuvisisaneni. Ukuqonda ukhetho lomnye namava akuyomfuneko ukuvuma uhambo lwabo. Ngokuphuma ngaphandle kwemilinganiselo yethu, sinokunceda abanye benze okufanayo. Usukelo lwabantu lolonwabo lukhangeleka ngokwahlukileyo kumntu wonke. Ukuvula iintliziyo neengqondo zethu kunokwandisa amandla ethu okwamkela abanye.
Ukuphawula abanye njengabangaphandle kwenzeka kuyo nayiphi na imeko ebandakanya amandla aphikisayo empembelelo.
Ngaba ukhe wakubona ukugxothwa komntu ngokusekwe kwinkcazo-ntetho yakhe yesini, ukuziqhelanisa nesondo, kunye nokuzazisa? Ndibone amehlo, izimvo, kunye neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuhlukumeza. Kumajelo eendaba, sinokufumana ezo zichasene nokuzibonakalisa. Kulula ukuhlanganisa abantu ngabanye ngaphandle kokuqonda kwethu okanye inqanaba lokwamkelwa. Umntu ngaxa lithile usenokuthi umntu okanye iqela labantu “ngabanye” kunaye. Inokwenza umntu azive ephakamile kunabo sibabiza ngokuhlukileyo koko kugqalwa njengokwamkelekileyo. Okunye ukuleyibhela kusenokuba sisenzo sokuzikhusela, ukuguqa ngamadolo kuloyiko, okanye ukungaqondi. Ngokwembali, siye sabona abakhi balo mandla xa bekwahlula abanye. Kuye kwabhalwa emthethweni, kwachazwa kwiijenali zezamayeza, kwavakala phakathi koluntu, kwaye kwafunyanwa kwiindawo zengqesho. Kwisangqa sakho sempembelelo, fumana iindlela zokuxhasa ubandakanyo, hayi ngokwengqiqo kuphela, kodwa fumana iindlela zokwandisa ulwazi lwabanye ngokwakhayo. Thetha, cinga, kwaye uphile ubomi bokufuna ukwazi kwaye ukhuthaze nabanye ukuba benze okufanayo.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba oko sikwenzayo njengabantu ngabanye kunokwenza umahluko.
Yiba nesibindi ngokwaneleyo ukuvavanya iilebhile kunye neenkcazo ngaphakathi kwengqondo yakho kwaye uqalise ukubuza imibuzo ekungekho mntu uyibuzayo. Izinto ezincinci esabelana ngazo nezizivakalisayo zinokutshintsha imbono yomnye umntu. Nokuba isenzo sethu sibangela ukuba kucingelwe kwenye, ekugqibeleni sinokubangela utshintsho kusapho, ekuhlaleni, okanye emsebenzini. Vula ukuba ufunde ukuchongwa okutsha, iintetho kunye namava. Inkcazo yokuba singoobani kunye nento esiyiqondayo ngehlabathi elisingqongileyo inokutshintsha. Yiba nesibindi ngokwaneleyo ukwandisa ulwazi lwakho. Yiba nesibindi ngokwaneleyo sokuthetha kwaye wenze utshintsho. Yiba nobubele kwaye uyeke ukwahlukanisa abanye ngohlelo. Vumela abantu ukuba bachaze ubomi babo. Qala ukubona abanye njengenxalenye yamava oluntu ngokubanzi!
Izibonelelo ze-LGBTQ
Enye iColorado - enye-colorado.org
Isiseko sezindlu zikaSherlock | Nceda LGBTQ Ulutsha - sherlockshomes.org/resources/?msclkid=30d5987b40b41a4098ccfcf8f52cef10&utm_source=bing&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Homelessness%20Resources&utm_term=LGBTQ%20Homeless%20Youth%20Resources&utm_content=Homelessness%20Resources%20-%20Standard%20Ad%20Group
Iprojekthi yeMbali ye-LGBTQ yaseColorado- lgbtqcolorado.org/programs/lgbtq-history-project/
Imbali yeNyanga yeQhayiya- history.com/topics/gay-rights/pride-month