Hanyar kaina

Dukkanmu muna kan tafarkinmu na rayuwa. Wane ne mu a yau tarin abubuwan da muka gabata ne wanda ya sa mu zama yadda muke. Babu ɗayanmu da yake daidai, duk da haka duk muna iya alaƙa da juna ta hanyar irin wannan ji. Yayin da muke haskaka haske kan kashe kansa a cikin Satumba ta hanyar Wayar Fadakarwa ta Kasa da Watan Rigakafin, la'akari da waɗannan labaran guda uku daban:

Tom * saurayi ne dan shekaru 19, an canza masa tunani, ya cika burin sa na aiki a masana'antar nishadantarwa, kuma ga wani kamfani da yake da muradin yiwa aiki. Ya kasance burin sa na rayuwa. Rayuwa tayi dadi. Yana da abokai da yawa, kuma shine mai farin ciki-mai sa'a wanda kake son sani. Yana yin abokai a duk inda ya tafi. An san shi da saurin fahimta da ɗabi'a mai son nishaɗi.

Yanzu, ka yi tunanin wani namiji mai shekaru 60, Wayne, * a rayuwarsa ta biyu, bayan ya yi bautar ƙasarmu a matsayin Sojan Ruwa na Amurka. Ya dawo makaranta, yana cika burin sa na gina ilimi dangane da gogewarsa a aikin soja, da ma'amala da lamuran PTSD da makamantansu da yawancin masu yiwa kasa hidima ke fuskanta yayin da suka koma rayuwa "ta yau da kullun".

Sannan akwai wata mace 'yar shekara 14, Emma. * Sabo ga makarantar sakandare, tana da kwarin gwiwar neman kudi da kuma kiyaye rayuwarta na nan gaba. Bayan makaranta, kafin ta fara aikin gida, tana aiki a matsayin yarinya, tana kai jaridu ga maƙwabta cikin nisan mil biyu daga gidanta. Tana da wasu abokai, kodayake tana tunanin ba zata taba zama mai sanyi kamar dattijo mai farin jini ba, saboda haka ta bata lokaci mai tsere zuwa ga gaskiyar adabin da ke cikin littattafan gargajiya.

Dukkanmu muna kan tafarkinmu na rayuwa. A saman jiki, babu ɗayan waɗannan mutanen da suke da wani abu iri ɗaya. Duk da haka, duk suna iya zama duk wanda muka sani. Kuma ga wasu daga cikinmu, mun san Tom, Wayne da Emma. Nayi kuma nayi. Abin da ba ku sani ba shi ne cewa Tom yana kokawa da jima'i da neman matsayinsa na saurayi a wannan duniyar. Abin da ba ku ji ba shi ne Wayne, yana kokawa da nasa matsalolin na PTSD; a cikin burinsa na taimakon wasu, hakika yana neman taimakon da yake buƙata da gaske. Kuma abin da ba ku gani ba shi ne Emma, ​​tana ɓoye a bayan faɗakarwar haruffan littattafai da neman kuɗi don rufe buƙatunta na yin hulɗa da waɗanda take jin suna ganin ta a matsayin mai ban dariya da rashin nutsuwa.

Ga kowane ɗayan waɗannan mutane, waje ya ɓoye abin da suke ji a ciki. Kowane ɗayan waɗannan mutane ya kai ga matsayin cikakke kuma cikakke na rashin bege. Kowane ɗayan waɗannan mutane sun yanke shawarar ɗaukar lamura a hannunsu a cikin abin da suke jin ƙoƙari ne na yi wa duniya alfarma. Kowane ɗayan waɗannan mutane sun kai ga inda suka yi imani da gaske duniya za ta kasance mafi kyawu ba tare da su ba. Kuma kowane ɗayan waɗannan mutane ya wuce tare da aikin. Kowane ɗayan waɗannan mutane uku sunyi ainihin aikin ƙarshe na yunƙurin kashe kansa. Kuma biyu daga cikinsu sun gama aikin.

A cewar Asusun Ba da Lamuni na Amurka don Rigakafin Kashe Kansa, kashe kansa shine na goma cikin jerin masu haddasa mutuwa a Amurka. A shekarar 2017, an samu wadanda suka kashe kansu fiye da sau biyu (47,173) kamar yadda ake yi da masu kisan kai (19,510) a kasarmu. Kuma a cikin Colorado, tun daga 2016, binciken Foundationungiyar Lafiya ta Unitedasar ya lura cewa jiharmu ta ga ƙaruwa mafi girma, kowace shekara. Wannan wata matsala ce ta kiwon lafiyar jama'a wacce dukkanmu zamu iya kawo karshenta. Hanya daya ita ce ta wayar da kai da kuma lalata al'amuran da suka shafi lafiyar hankali. Kamar yadda likitoci ke taimaka mana game da lafiyar jikin mu, masu ba da magani na iya taimaka wa lafiyar hankalin mu. Yana da kyau a nemi taimako. Yana da kyau a bincika tare da abokai da dangi don tabbatar da waɗanda ke kewaye da mu suna lafiya. Kar a ɗauka wani yana da lafiya, kawai saboda suna iya zama lafiya a waje.

Tom, Wayne da Emma kowannensu ya dace da alƙaluma daban, kuma wasu na iya ganin yawan kashe kansa, kodayake duk ƙungiyoyin alumma suna fuskantar kashe kansu. Studentsalibai mata, kamar Emma, ​​suna ƙoƙari kashe kansu sau biyu fiye da na ɗalibai maza. Kuma tare da mutane kamar Wayne, a cikin 2017, ƙimar tsohon soja ya kashe akalla sau 1.5 fiye da na waɗanda ba tsofaffi ba.

Duniyar da muke ciki a yau ba za ta taɓa sanin abin da Tom ko Wayne za su iya kawowa ba. Koyaya, ga waɗanda suka san Tom da Wayne, akwai fanko. Kuma wannan za a iya cewa ga duk wanda ya dandana wani da suka sani ya kashe kansa. Iyalin Tom ba su da sha'awar rayuwa. Tom koyaushe yana da sha'awar duniyar da ke kewaye da shi. Lokacin da yake son yin wani abu, sai ya yi tsalle ya shiga da ƙafa biyu. Na rasa irin bushewar jikinsa da kuma sha'awar rayuwa. Wanene ya san abin da zai yi idan ya rayu a baya 19. exididdigar tsoffin ma'aikatan da Wayne zai iya kaiwa lokacin da ya zama mashawarcin mai ba da shawara sun ɓace har abada. Ba za su iya koya daga gogewa da ƙwarewar Wayne ba. 'San uwan ​​Wayne da phean uwan ​​sa sun kuma rasa kawun mai kulawa da kauna. A wurina, na san na rasa abin dariyarsa game da ilimin nahawu na yadda ake amfani da kalmomi da salon magana. Wayne ya yi kyau kwarai da gaske.

Amma ga Emma, ​​hanyar da ta zaɓa ba ta kasance ta ƙarshe kamar yadda ta yi tsammani ba. Bayan aiki da lamuran da duk abin da ya tursasa ta ta zabi da ta yi, yanzu ta zama lafiyayye, mai aiki a cikin jama'a. Ta san lokacin da za ta bincika motsin zuciyarta, lokacin da za ta tashi tsaye don kanta da lokacin da za ta nemi taimako. Na san Emma zata kasance lafiya. Wannan yarinyar 'yar shekaru 14 ba ita ba ce. Tana da tsarin tallafi mai kyau a wurin, dangi da abokai da ke kula da ita, da kuma tsayayyen aikin da zai sa ta samu aiki. Kodayake duk muna kan hanyarmu, a wannan yanayin, hanyar Emma tawa ce. Ee, nine Emma.

Idan kai ko wani wanda ka sani yana fuskantar tunanin kashe kansa, akwai hanyoyi da yawa don neman taimako. A cikin Colorado, kira Ayyukan Crisis na Colorado a lamba 844-493-8255 ko aika TALK zuwa 38255. Kwanan nan Majalisa ta zartar da kudirin doka wanda ya sanya 988 a matsayin lambar ƙasar gabaɗaya don kira idan kuna cikin kashe kansa ko rikicin lafiyar hankali. Lambar tana kan manufa don fara aiki a tsakiyar 2022. Har sai hakan ta faru, a ƙasa zaku iya kiran 800-273-8255. Duba tare da danginku da abokai da waɗanda suke kusa da ku. Ba ku taɓa sanin hanyar da wani zai iya kasancewa da kuma tasirin da za ku iya yi ba.

* An canza sunaye don kare sirrin mutum.

 

Sources:

Gidauniyar Amurka don Rigakafin Kisa. https://afsp.org/suicide-statistics/

Cibiyoyin Kula da Cututtuka da Cututtuka. https://www.cdc.gov/msmhealth/suicide-violence-prevention.htm

Cibiyar Kula da Lafiya ta Hauka. https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/suicide.shtml

Allianceungiyar onasa ta Ciwon Hauka. https://www.nami.org/About-NAMI/NAMI-News/2020/FCC-Designates-988-as-a-Nationwide-Mental-Health-Crisis-and-Suicide-Prevention-Number

Tsarin Rigakafin Kashe Kan Kasa. https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Imar Matasa da suka kashe kansu a Colorado ya ƙaru da kashi 58% cikin Shekaru 3, yana mai da shi Sanadin Mutuwa 1 cikin 5 Yara Matasa. https://www.cpr.org/2019/09/17/the-rate-of-teen-suicide-in-colorado-increased-by-58-percent-in-3-years-making-it-the-cause-of-1-in-5-adolescent-deaths/