Inyanga Kazwelonke Yokuqwashisa Nge-ADHD
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Wasabela kanjalo umama lapho ngimtshela ukuthi lapho indodakazi yakhe ineminyaka engu-26, kwatholakala ukuthi ine-attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).
Yebo, ngeke akwazi ukuthweswa icala ngokungaliboni – akekho owakubona. Ngenkathi ngiseyingane ngiya esikoleni emuva ngasekupheleni kwawo-90 nasekuqaleni kwawo-2000, amantombazane ayengafundi. uthole I-ADHD.
Ngokuyisisekelo, i-ADHD yayingeyona ngisho nokuxilongwa. Ngaleso sikhathi, sasiyibiza ngokuthi i-attention deficit disorder, noma i-ADD, futhi lelo gama laligcinelwa izingane ezinjengomzala wami, uMichael. Uyalwazi uhlobo. Akakwazanga ukufeza ngisho nemisebenzi eyisisekelo, akakaze enze umsebenzi wakhe wesikole, anganaki esikoleni, futhi akakwazanga ukuhlala athule uma umkhokhela. Kwakungabafana abaphazamisayo ababanga uthuthuva ngemuva kwekilasi ababenganakile baphazamisa uthisha phakathi nesifundo. Kwakungeyona eyentombazane ethule nenesifiso esinamandla sokufunda noma iyiphi incwadi eyayingayithola, eyayidlala imidlalo futhi yathola amamaki amahle. Cha. Ngangingumfundi oyimodeli. Kungani umuntu engakholelwa ukuthi ngine-ADHD?
Indaba yami ayijwayelekile, futhi. Kuze kube muva nje, bekwamukelwa kabanzi ukuthi i-ADHD iyisimo esitholakala ngokuyinhloko kubafana nabesilisa. Ngokwe- Children and Adults with ADHD (CHADD), amantombazane atholakala engaphansi nje kwengxenye yezinga abafana abatholakala ngalo.[1] Ngaphandle uma bethula nezimpawu zokungasebenzi kahle ezichazwe ngenhla (inkinga yokuhlala unganyakazi, ukuphazamisa, ukushikashikeka ekuqaleni noma ukuqeda imisebenzi, ukuthatheka), amantombazane nabesifazane abane-ADHD bavame ukunganakwa - ngisho noma bedonsa kanzima.
Into abantu abaningi abangayiqondi nge-ADHD ukuthi ibukeka ihluke kakhulu kubantu abahlukene. Namuhla, ucwaningo seluhlonze izethulo ezintathu ezivamile ye-ADHD: ukunganaki, i-hyperactive-impulsive, futhi ihlanganisiwe. Izimpawu ezifana nokugedla, ukuthatheka, kanye nokungakwazi ukuhlala unganyakazi konke kuhlotshaniswa nesethulo esinamandla futhi yilokho abantu abavame ukuhlobanisa nokuxilongwa kwe-ADHD. Kodwa-ke, ubunzima bokuhleleka, izinselele ezinokuphazamiseka, ukugwema umsebenzi, kanye nokukhohlwa yizimpawu okunzima kakhulu ukuzibona futhi zonke zihlotshaniswa nokwethulwa ngokunganaki kwalesi simo, okuvame ukutholakala kwabesifazane namantombazane. Mina ngokwami ngitholwe nginesethulo esihlanganisiwe, okusho ukuthi ngiveza izimpawu zazo zombili izigaba.
Emgogodleni wayo, i-ADHD yisimo sezinzwa nokuziphatha esithinta ukukhiqizwa kobuchopho nokuthatha i-dopamine. I-Dopamine ikhemikhali esebuchosheni bakho ekunikeza lowo muzwa wokwaneliseka nenjabulo oyithola ngokwenza umsebenzi owuthandayo. Njengoba ubuchopho bami bungakhiqizi leli khemikhali ngendlela efanayo nobuchopho be-neurotypical, kufanele busungule ngendlela engizibandakanya ngayo “nemisebenzi eyisicefe” noma “engaphansi kokuvuselelayo”. Enye yalezi zindlela iwukuziphatha okubizwa ngokuthi “ukukhuthaza,” noma izenzo eziphindaphindayo ezihloselwe ukunikeza ukukhuthazwa ebuchosheni obunganyakaziswa kangako (yilapho kuvela khona ukugedla noma ukucosha uzipho). Kuyindlela yokukhohlisa ubuchopho bethu ukuthi bukhuthazwe ngokwanele ukuze sibe nentshisekelo kokuthile ebesingeke sibe nentshisekelo kuyo uma kungenjalo.
Uma sibheka emuva, izimpawu zazikhona ngempela...asizange sazi ukuthi yini okufanele siyibheke ngaleso sikhathi. Manje njengoba sengenze ucwaningo olwengeziwe mayelana nokuxilongwa kwami, ekugcineni sengiyaqonda ukuthi kungani kwakufanele ngihlale ngilalela umculo lapho ngenza umsebenzi wesikole, noma ukuthi kwakungenzeka kanjani ukuba ngicule ngokuhambisana nezinhlamvu zengoma. ngenkathi Ngifunde incwadi (enye ye-ADHD yami “amandla amakhulu,” ngicabanga ukuthi ungayibiza). Noma kungani ngangihlala ngidweba ama-dood noma ngicosha izinzipho phakathi nekilasi. Noma kungani ngikhethe ukwenza umsebenzi wami wesikole phansi kunokuba ngiwenzele edeskini noma etafuleni. Sekukonke, izimpawu zami azibanga nomthelela omubi kangako ekusebenzeni kwami esikoleni. Ngangimane ngiyingane exakile.
Kwaze kwaba yilapho ngiphothula ekolishi futhi ngaphumela emhlabeni “wangempela” lapho ngacabanga ukuthi okuthile kungase kuhluke kakhulu kimi. Uma usesikoleni, izinsuku zakho zonke uzibekele wena. Umuntu uyakutshela uma udinga ukuya ekilasini, abazali bayakutshela uma sekuyisikhathi sokudla, abaqeqeshi bayakwazisa ukuthi kufanele uzivocavoca nini nokuthi kufanele wenzeni. Kodwa ngemva kokuphothula iziqu futhi uphume endlini, kufanele uzinqumele okuningi kwalokho. Ngaphandle kwaleso sakhiwo ezinsukwini zami, ngangivame ukuzithola ngisesimweni “sokukhubazeka kwe-ADHD.” Ngangiyokhungatheka kakhulu ngenxa yokuba nokwenzeka okungenamkhawulo kwezinto engangizozifeza kangangokuthi angikwazanga nhlobo ukunquma ukuthi iyiphi inkambo okufanele ngiyithathe futhi ngenxa yalokho ngangingeke ngifeze lutho.
Kungaleso sikhathi lapho ngaqala khona ukuqaphela ukuthi kwakunzima kakhulu kimi ukuba “ngumuntu omdala” kunokuba kwakunjalo kontanga yami abaningi.
Uyabona, abantu abadala abane-ADHD basabambekile ekubambeni-22: sidinga isakhiwo kanye nesimiso ukuze usisize silwe nezinye zezinselele esibhekana nazo. umsebenzi omkhulu, okuthinta ikhono lomuntu lokuhlela nokubeka phambili imisebenzi, futhi kungenza ukuphatha isikhathi kube umzabalazo omkhulu. Inkinga iwukuthi, sidinga nezinto ezingalindelekile futhi ezijabulisayo ukuze senze ubuchopho bethu buhlanganyele. Ngakho-ke, nakuba ukusetha izinqubo kanye nokulandela uhlelo olungaguquki kungamathuluzi abalulekile abantu abaningi abane-ADHD abawasebenzisayo ukuze balawule izimpawu zabo, futhi ngokuvamile siyakuzonda ukwenza into efanayo usuku nosuku (okujwayelekile) futhi sikwenqabe ukutshelwa ukuthi benzeni (njengokulandela isimiso setha uhlelo).
Njengoba ungacabanga, lokhu kungabangela izinkinga ezithile emsebenzini. Kimina, ngokuvamile kubukeka njengobunzima bokuhlela nokubeka phambili imisebenzi, izinkinga zokuphatha isikhathi, nokuhlela izinkinga nokulandela amaphrojekthi amade. Esikoleni, lokhu kwabonakala njengokuhlale kumpintsha izivivinyo futhi kushiye amaphepha azobhalwa kusasele amahora ambalwa ngaphambi kokuba zifike. Nakuba lelo su kungenzeka ukuthi lingithole ngidlula ezingeni eliphansi ngokwanele, sonke siyazi ukuthi aliphumelelanga kakhulu emhlabeni wochwepheshe.
Ngakho-ke, ngiphatha kanjani i-ADHD yami ukuze ngikwazi ukulinganisa umsebenzi futhi ngiphothule esikoleni ngesikhathi esifanayo ngilala ngokwanele, ngivivinya umzimba njalo, ngihambisana nemisebenzi yasekhaya, ngithola isikhathi sokudlala nenja yami, futhi hhayi kuyavutha...? Iqiniso liwukuthi, angifuni. Okungenani hhayi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kodwa ngenza isiqiniseko sokuthi ngibeka phambili ukuzifundisa futhi ngifaka amasu avela kuzinsiza engizithola ku-inthanethi. Kwangimangaza kakhulu ukuthi ngithole indlela yokusebenzisa amandla ezinkundla zokuxhumana ukuze kube kuhle! Ngokumangazayo, iningi lolwazi lwami mayelana nezimpawu ze-ADHD nezindlela zokuzilawula zivela kubadali bokuqukethwe kwe-ADHD ku-Tiktok naku-Instagram.
Uma unemibuzo mayelana ne-ADHD noma udinga amathiphu/amasu nanka ezinye zezintandokazi zami:
@hayley.honeyman
@adhdoers
@unconventionalorganisation
@theneurodivergentnurse
@currentadcoaching
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