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Inyanga Kazwelonke Yabanakekeli Bemindeni

By USarah W.

Uma kukhulunywa ngogogo nomama ozala umama, ngibe nenhlanhla enkulu. Ubaba kamama waphila waze waba neminyaka engu-92. Futhi umama kamama usaphila eneminyaka engu-97. Abantu abaningi abakutholi ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nogogo nomkhulu futhi iningi logogo nomkhulu abalitholi ukuphila isikhathi eside kangaka. Kodwa, kugogo wami, iminyaka embalwa edlule ayizange ibe lula. Futhi ngenxa yalokho, akubanga lula kumama wami (owayemnakekela ngokugcwele kwaze kwaba ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule) kanye naku-Anti wami uPat (oqhubeka engumnakekeli ohlala naye, wesikhathi esigcwele) . Nakuba ngibabonga unomphela bobabili ngokunikela iminyaka yabo yomhlalaphansi ukuze bagcine ugogo nomndeni wakhe, ngifuna ukuthatha umzuzu, ukuhlonipha Inyanga Yokuqwashisa Abanakekeli Bomndeni, ngikhulume ngokuthi ngezinye izikhathi, ukukhetha okuhle kakhulu, okunengqondo kubonakala kanjani. njengento engafanele ukuyenza futhi kungaba ukukhetha okunzima kakhulu ezimpilweni zethu.

Kusukela ekuqaleni kwakhe kuya phakathi kwawo-90s ugogo wami waphila impilo emnandi. Ngangihlale ngitshela abantu ukuthi nginomuzwa wokuthi ngisho nalapho esekhulile, izinga lakhe lokuphila lalimnandi. Ubenomdlalo wakhe wepenuckle wamasonto onke, ehlangana kanye ngenyanga eSidlweni Sasemini Sabesifazane nabangane, eyingxenye yekilabhu yokukhilosha, futhi eya emisa ngamaSonto. Kwesinye isikhathi kwakubonakala sengathi impilo yakhe yokuxhumana nabantu yanelisa ukwedlula eyami noma abazala bami ababeseminyakeni yethu yama-20 no-30. Kodwa ngeshwa, izinto azikwazanga ukuhlala zinjalo phakade futhi eminyakeni embalwa edlule, washintsha waba mubi kakhulu. Ugogo waqala ukuba nenkinga yokukhumbula izinto ezazisanda kwenzeka, wabuza imibuzo efanayo ngokuphindaphindiwe, futhi waqala nokwenza izinto ezaziyingozi kuye noma kwabanye. Kwakukhona izikhathi lapho umama noma u-Anti uPat bevuka kugogo ezama ukuvula isitofu nokupheka isidlo sakusihlwa. Ngezinye izikhathi, wayezama ukugeza noma ukuhambahamba ngaphandle kokusebenzisa isihambi sakhe futhi awe, aqine, awele phansi kuthayela.

Kwangicacela kanye nomzala wami, unina onguAnti wami uPat, ukuthi umthwalo womnakekeli wawubaphethe kabi kakhulu. Ngokusho kwe Ukuphatha Ukuphila Komphakathi, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukunakekela izingane kungaba nomthelela omkhulu ngokomzwelo, ngokomzimba nangokwezimali. Abanakekeli bangathola izinto ezinjengokucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, ingcindezi, nokuncipha kwempilo yabo. Nakuba umama nomamncane uPat benezingane zakwethu ezintathu, ezimbili zazo ezihlala eduze kakhulu, babengalutholi usizo nokusekelwa ababekudinga ukuze banakekele impilo yabo engokomzimba, engokomzwelo, neyengqondo kanye nokunakekela ugogo wami ngesikhathi esifanayo. . Umama akazange athole ukuphumula isikhathi esibalulekile. Okuwukuphela “kwekhefu” lika-anti wami kwakuwukuya endlini yendodakazi yakhe (umzala wami) ayobuka abafana bakhe abathathu abangaphansi kweminyaka emithathu ubudala. Hhayi kakhulu ikhefu. Futhi umamncane wayemnakekele umkhulu ngaphambi kokushona kwakhe. Inkokhelo yayisiba ngokoqobo kakhulu, ishesha kakhulu. Babedinga usizo lochwepheshe, kodwa izingane zakubo zazingavumi.

Ngifisa sengathi ngibe nesiphetho esihle sokuhlanganyela ngendlela umndeni wami oluxazulule ngayo lolu daba. Umama, owayenenkinga nomalume, wathuthela eColorado ukuze abe seduze kwami ​​nomndeni wami. Nakuba lokhu kwanginikeza ukuthula kwengqondo, ngokwazi ukuthi umama wayengasekho kuleso simo, kwasho ukukhathazeka okwengeziwe ngo-anti kunanini ngaphambili. Noma kunjalo, abanye obabekazi bami ababili nomalume oyedwa ngeke bavume noma yiluphi uhlobo losizo olubalulekile. Njengoba umalume ayengummeli wakhe, kwakungekho okuningi esasingakwenza. Kwabonakala omunye wo-anti bami (ongahlali endlini nogogo wami) wayenze isithembiso kuyise lapho esezokufa, ukuthi akasoze afaka umama wabo endaweni yokuhlala yabantu abadala. Ngokombono womzala wami, mina, umama kanye no-Anti wami uPat, lesi sithembiso sasingaselona iqiniso futhi ukugcina ugogo wami ekhaya empeleni kwakumenza azizwe ephansi. Ubengakutholi ukunakekelwa abekudinga ngoba akekho emndenini wami onguchwepheshe oqeqeshiwe. Njengenselelo eyengeziwe u-Anti wami uPat, okwamanje okunguye yedwa umuntu ohlala nogogo wami endlini, uyisithulu. Kwaba lula ku-anti ukunamathela esithembisweni sakhe lapho ekwazi ukuya ekhaya ebusuku ngokuthula nokuthula, ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ukuthi umama wakhe osekhulile angase avule isitofu ngesikhathi elele. Kodwa kwakungafanelekile ukubeka lowo mthwalo kodadewabo abazi ukuthi isikhathi sesifikile sesigaba esilandelayo ekunakekelweni kukagogo.

Ngikhuluma le ndaba ukuze ngiveze ukuthi umthwalo womnakekeli ungokoqobo, ubalulekile, futhi ungakhubaza. Kufanele futhi ngiveze ukuthi nakuba ngibonga kakhulu kulabo abasize ugogo wami ukuba alondoloze impilo yakhe, ekhaya lakhe alithandayo kanye nomakhelwane iminyaka eminingi kangaka, ngezinye izikhathi ukuba sekhaya akuyona into engcono kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, ngenkathi sicula indumiso yalabo abazidela ukuze banakekele othandekayo, ngifuna futhi ukuvuma ukuthi ukukhetha ukuthola usizo lochwepheshe akuyona into encomekayo ukwenza labo esibakhathalelayo.