Usuku Lwamazwe Ngamazwe Lokukhululeka Kwezingane
Usuku Lwamazwe Ngamazwe Lokukhululeka Kwezingane lugujwa ngo-Agasti 1 minyaka yonke njengosuku lokugubha abantu abakhetha ngokuzithandela ukungabi nabantwana futhi bakhuthaze ukwamukelwa kokuzikhethela okungenayo ingane.
Abanye abantu bebelokhu bezazi ukuthi bafuna izingane. Bazi kusukela bebancane ukuthi bebelokhu befuna ukuba abazali. Angikaze ngibe nalowo muzwa - empeleni okuphambene nalokho. Ngingowesifazane okhetha ukungabatholi abantwana; kodwa ngokweqiniso, angikaze nginqume. Ngokufana nabantu abahlale bazi ukuthi bafuna ukuba nezingane, bengihlale ngazi ukuthi angibatholi. Uma ngikhetha ukwabelana nabanye ngale nketho, ingahlangatshezwa nemizwa ehlukahlukene namazwana. Kwesinye isikhathi ukudalula kwami kuhlangatshezwana nokwesekwa nokuphawula okukhuthazayo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi … hhayi kangako. Ngihlangabezene nolimi olululazayo, imibuzo ephithizelayo, ihlazo, nokucwaswa. Ngike ngatshelwa ukuthi angisoze ngaba owesifazane wangempela, ukuthi nginobugovu, nokunye ukuphawula okulimazayo. Imizwa yami iye yalulazwa, yachithwa, yabukelwa phansi, ngokuvamile ngitshelwa ukuthi ngizoshintsha umqondo wami lapho ngikhula noma ngiyoyifuna ngelinye ilanga lapho sengivuthiwe. Manje, kufanele ngisho, njengoba ngisondela eminyakeni engu-40 ubudala futhi ngizizungeza ngamabomu abantu abangesekayo nababandakanya wonke umuntu, angitholi kaningi lawa mazwana, kodwa awazange ayeke ngokuphelele.
Emphakathini lapho inkambiso igxile ekuqaliseni umndeni nokukhulisa izingane, ukukhetha ukungabi namntwana kuvame ukubonakala njengokungajwayelekile, ukwephula isiko, nokuxakayo. Amahloni, ukwahlulela, namazwana anonya kuyalimaza futhi kungaba nomthelela empilweni nasengqondweni yomuntu. Ukusabela okunomusa nokuqondisisa kungamukelwa ngokufudumele ngabantu abenza isinqumo somuntu siqu sokungabi nabantwana. Ngokuphatha abantu abangenabantwana ngozwelo, inhlonipho, kanye nokuqonda, singakhuthaza umphakathi obandakanya wonke umuntu nowamukelayo owazisa ukukhetha okuhlukahlukene kanye nezindlela zokufeza.
Ukungabi nabantwana akukhona ukwenqaba ukuba umzali noma ukukhetha kobugovu, kodwa kunalokho kuyisinqumo somuntu siqu esivumela abantu ukuba balandele izindlela zabo. Njengoba umhlaba uya uthuthuka futhi uhlukahluka, abantu abaningi bamukela isinqumo sokuphila impilo engenabantwana nangenxa yezizathu ezihlukahlukene zomuntu ngamunye nezomuntu siqu. Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani abantu bekhetha ukungabi nabantwana, futhi lezi zisusa zingahluka kakhulu kumuntu nomuntu. Ezinye izizathu ezivamile zihlanganisa ukungabi nesifiso sokuba nezingane, ukuzinza kwezezimali, inkululeko yokubeka phambili ukuzanelisa komuntu siqu, ukwanda kwabantu/ukukhathazeka ngemvelo, imigomo yomsebenzi, izimo zempilo/zomuntu siqu, eminye imithwalo yemfanelo yokunakekela, kanye/noma isimo samanje somhlaba. Khumbula ukuthi isipiliyoni somuntu ngamunye sizohluka, futhi isinqumo sokungabi namntwana singesomuntu siqu. Kubalulekile ukuhlonipha nokweseka ukukhetha komuntu ukuthi uyakhetha ukuba nezingane noma cha; nokuthi injabulo nencazelo ingatholakala ezindaweni ezihlukahlukene.
Abanye abantu bathola ukwaneliseka nenjongo ekuphileni ngezinye izindlela ngaphandle kokuba umzali. Bangase bakhethe ukusebenzisa amandla abo emisebenzini yokudala, ekuzilibaziseni, ekunakekeleni abazali asebekhulile, ekuvolontiyeni, ekusizeni abanye abantu, nakwezinye izinto ezinengqondo ezihambisana nezindinganiso nezinkanuko zabo. Ukukhetha ukungabi namntwana akusho ukuphila okungenanzuzo noma ukwaneliseka. Kunalokho, abantu abangenazo izingane banethuba lokusebenzisa amandla nezinsiza zabo ezicini ezihlukahlukene zokuphila zabo ezibalethela injabulo. Ngokwami, ngithola injabulo enkulu ngokuvolontiya, ukuchitha isikhathi nomndeni, ukuhambahamba ngaphandle, ukunakekela izilwane ezifuywayo, nokuphishekela imigomo ehlukahlukene.
Ukukhetha ukungabi nabantwana kuyisinqumo somuntu siqu okufanele sihlonishwe futhi saziswe. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ukukhetha ukungabi nabantwana akumenzi umuntu angabi namandla othando, uzwela, noma iqhaza emphakathini. Ngokuqonda nokwamukela indlela yokuphila engenabantwana, singakhuthaza umphakathi obandakanya wonke umuntu noqondayo owamukela ukukhetha okuhlukahlukene futhi obungaza ukuphishekela injabulo yomuntu siqu nokwaneliseka, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lokho kufaka phakathi ukuba umzali noma cha.