Usuku Lomhlaba Lomoya Womuntu

Njengoba ingane yami ejabule eneminyaka emihlanu yayihlezi emathangeni kamkhulu esikhumulweni sezindiza eSaigon, ngaqhosha emndenini ngokuthi ngizogibela iJeep maduze. Sasingenazo izimoto zohlobo lweJeep endaweni – zazivela kumabonakude kuphela. Wonke umuntu wamamatheka nokho ekhala ngesikhathi esifanayo – labo abadala nabahlakaniphe kakhulu babazi ukuthi abazali bami nami sase sizoba ngabokuqala ohlwini lozalo lomndeni ukufuduka endaweni yakithi enokuthula siye endaweni engaziwa, engajwayelekile, futhi engakaziwa.

Ngemva kokuchitha amasonto amaningi ekamu lababaleki eliseduze namakhilomitha amaningi ohambo lwendiza, safika eDenver, eColorado. Angizange ngikuthole ukugibela iJeep. Sasidinga ukudla namabhantshi ukuze sifudumale ebusika, ngakho i-$100 abazali bami abalethela yona ayizange ihlale isikhathi eside. Sabusiswa ngendawo yokukhosela yesikhashana egumbini elingaphansi lomngane kababa owayeyimpi.

Ukukhanya kwekhandlela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuncane kangakanani, kukhanya ngokugqamile ngisho nasemakamelweni amnyama kakhulu. Ngokombono wami, lona umfanekiso olula womoya wethu womuntu - umoya wethu uletha izinga lokucaca kokungaziwa, ukuzola ekukhathazekeni, injabulo ekucindezelekeni, kanye nenduduzo emiphefumulweni elimele. Ngimatasatasa ngomcabango wokugibela iJeep epholile, ngangingazi ukuthi ekufikeni kwethu silethe ukuhlukumezeka kukababa ngemva kweminyaka eminingi yekamu lejele lokufundiswa kabusha kwezempi kanye nokukhathazeka kukamama njengoba ethola indlela yokukhulelwa okunempilo okulinganiselwe. izinsiza. Siphinde saletha imizwa yethu ehlangene yokungabi nakuzisiza - ukungalwazi ulimi oluyisisekelo ngenkathi sijwayela isiko elisha, nesizungu ngenkathi sikhumbula umndeni ekhaya.

Ukukhanya ezimpilweni zethu, ikakhulukazi kulesi sigaba esibalulekile, kwakuwumthandazo. Sasithandaza okungenani kabili ngosuku, lapho sivuka nangaphambi kokulala. Umthandazo ngamunye wawunezingxenye ezimbili ezibalulekile - ukubonga ngalokho esinakho kanye nethemba ngekusasa. Ngomthandazo imimoya yethu yasipha lokhu okulandelayo:

• Ukholo – ukwethemba okupheleleyo nokuqiniseka enjongweni ephakeme, futhi kithi, sethemba ukuthi uNkulunkulu uzosihlinzeka ngokugcwele kungakhathaliseki izimo zethu.
• Ukuthula - ukukhululeka ngeqiniso lethu futhi sigxile kulokho esibusiswe ngakho.
• Love - uhlobo lothando olwenza umuntu akhethe okuhle kakhulu komunye, ngaso sonke isikhathi. Uthando olungenabugovu, olungenamibandela, lwe-agape.
• Ukuhlakanipha – ngokuphila nobuncane obuncane mayelana nezinsiza zezwe, sazuza ubuhlakani bokubona okubalulekile empilweni.
• Ukuzithiba - sakha indlela yokuphila ehlelekile futhi sagxila ekutholeni amathuba omsebenzi nemfundo, siphila ngaphansi kakhulu kwezimali uma kuziwa "ekusweleni," kuyilapho sibeka imali yezindaba ezibalulekile njengemfundo nezidingo.
• Patience - ikhono lokwazisa isimo samanje nokwamukela ukuthi "iphupho laseMelika" lidinga isikhathi namandla amakhulu ukwakha.
• Joy - sasijabule kakhulu ngethuba kanye nelungelo lokuba nekhaya elisha e-United States, kanye nesibusiso sokuba nalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okusha ndawonye njengomndeni. Sasinempilo, ukuhlakanipha, umndeni, izindinganiso, nomoya.

Lezi zipho zomoya zanikeza insada enkulu phakathi kokulinganiselwa. Kunobufakazi obandayo bezinzuzo zokucabanga, ukuthandaza nokuzindla. Izinhlangano eziningi ezinedumela elihle, kuhlanganise ne I-American Psychological Association kanye ne-Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CDT) Foundation, qinisekisa ukuthi ukucabangela, ukuthandaza, nokuzindla, lapho kwenziwa njalo, kusiza osebenzayo ukuba abe namandla angeziwe okugxila, imizwa ezolile, kanye nokuqina okukhulayo, phakathi kwezinye izinzuzo. Emndenini wami, ukuthandaza njalo kwasisiza ukuba sisikhumbuze injongo yethu, futhi kwasinika ukuzethemba kwansuku zonke kokufuna amathuba amasha, ukwakha inethiwekhi yethu, nokuthatha ubungozi obaliwe ukuze sifeze iphupho lethu laseMelika.

Usuku Lomhlaba Lomoya Womuntu yaqalwa ngo-2003 nguMichael Levy ukukhuthaza abantu ukuthi baphile ngokuthula, ngobuhlakani, nangenhloso. Umhla ziyi-17 kuNhlolanja usuku lokugubha ithemba, ukuqwashisa, kanye nokunika amandla ingxenye yethu yomlingo nengokomoya evame ukukhohlwa phakathi kwempilo ematasatasa. Ngikhuthazwa amazwi acashunwe u-Arthur Fletcher athi, “Umqondo uyinto embi kabi ukumosha,” ngangiqhubeka ngithi: “Umoya uyinto embi kakhulu ukunganakwa.” Ngikhuthaza umuntu ngamunye ukuthi anikeze isikhathi, ukunaka, nokondleka emoyeni wakho ngoSuku Lomhlaba Lomoya Womuntu kanye nazo zonke ezinye izinsuku zokuphila kwakho. Umoya wakho uwukukhanya kwekhandlela eliqondisa indlela yakho endaweni emnyama, indawo yesibani phakathi kwesiphepho esikuholela ekhaya, kanye nomnakekeli wamandla nenjongo yakho, ikakhulukazi uma ukhohlwe ukubaluleka kwakho.