Liptember, Lipstick for Life!
Abesifazane kanye nabantu besifazane abahlonza abantu badinga ukumelwa okungcono endaweni yezempilo yengqondo. Iyiphi indlela engcono kunokumamatheka kwe-lipstick?
I-Liptember, umkhankaso wenyanga yonke odalwe isisekelo esizinze e-Australia esizuza udumo emhlabeni wonke, wasungulwa ngo-2010. Phakathi nonyaka wabo wokuqala bakwazi ukuqwashisa kanye no-$55,000 wezimali zezinhlangano zezempilo yengqondo. Kusukela ngo-2014, uLiptember ukwazile ukuxhasa ngezimali izicelo zokuxhaswa kwezinhlekelele ezingaphezu kuka-80,000.1.
Iqembu lithole ukuthi ucwaningo oluningi lwezempilo yengqondo olwenziwa emphakathini wethu luhlola impilo yengqondo yabesilisa kodwa lisebenzisa lokhu okutholakele kubo bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane ngokufanayo. Umphumela waba ukuthi izinhlelo eziningi nezindlela zokuvimbela azikwazanga ukusiza izidingo zempilo yengqondo yabantu besifazane nabesifazane. Ngabahlanganyeli abadlala izindebe ezimibalabala, uLiptember unethemba lokuthi uzovusa ingxoxo mayelana nempilo yengqondo. Umqondo uwukunciphisa ukucwaswa kokufuna nokuthola ukwesekwa, nokuqaphela ukuthi bonke bayazuza kulokhu kunakekelwa esikhathini esithile ekuphileni kwabo. Isibindi sokuba sengozini kulesi sikhala singasindisa ngisho nokuphila.
Umlando wokuqala wempilo yengqondo yabesifazane uyinkathi emnyama ngempela. Kusukela ngo-1900 BC, amaGreki nabaseGibhithe bokuqala bathi "isibeletho esizulazulayo" noma "ukunyakaza kwesibeletho okuzenzakalelayo" njengembangela yazo zonke iziyaluyalu owesifazane angase abe nazo. Ikhambi kwaba ukushada, ukuhlala ukhulelwe, noma ukuyeka. Khuluma ngemiyalezo exubile! Igama lesiGreki elithi “hystera,” elisho isibeletho, liwumsuka wegama elilimazayo elithi “hysteria,” okuletha inkolelo-mbono yamakhulu eminyaka yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kwabesifazane. Ngisho noHippocrates wasayina i-hysteria theory, ephakamisa ukuthi ikhambi le- "uterine melancholy" kwakuwukushada nje futhi kube nezingane eziningi. Kwaze kwaba ngu-1980 lapho leli gama lasuswa khona ku-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM)2.
Njengoba isikhathi nemithi iqhubeka, ngisho nezindawo ezingcwele kakhulu zabesifazane zathathwa ochwepheshe besilisa. Ukunakekelwa kwezifo zabesifazane kanye nokubeletha, obekunikezwa kakhulu ababelethisi abaqeqeshiwe, kwaxoshwa futhi kwehliswa inani. Le ntambo ethize yokunakekelwa kwempilo yabesifazane kungazelelwe yaba indawo yendoda.
Isikhathi esinodlame nesiphazamisayo esikweni lethu saguqukela ekushisweni nasekubulaweni “kwabathakathi” besifazane, okungenzeka ukuthi babebhekene nezinkinga zempilo yengqondo ezingakahlonzwa, isithuthwane, noma abantu abazimele ababefisa ukuzicabangela bona.3.
Manje sisesimweni esingcono sokweseka abantu besifazane bethu kanye nabantu besifazane, kodwa ukungafani kusekhona. Imibono yobulili iyaqhubeka embonini yokunakekelwa kwezempilo lapho owesifazane engase alinde isikhathi eside ukuze ahlonzwe impilo.4, noma ngisho nokuba isisulu solimi oluxube ubulili lokuthi “kusekhanda lakhe” noma “uyahlanya nje.” Ukwengeza, ukucwasa ngokwebala kusaqhubeka kudala izithiyo ekutholeni ukunakekelwa. Owesifazane omnyama eMelika unamathuba angu-20% okuba nezinkinga zempilo yengqondo futhi kungenzeka achayeke kukho kokubili ukucwasa ngokobulili nokucwasa embonini yethu yokunakekelwa kwezempilo.
Njengosemusha owahlushwa ukudangala ngeminyaka yawo-'90s, nami, ngibhekana nalokhu kuhlukana. Ngibe nochwepheshe abaningi abazama ukuxilonga nokwelapha inqwaba yezinkinga zempilo yengqondo. Nganikezwa imithi egcinelwe kuphela iziqephu ezithinta ingqondo—imithi engazange ihlolwe ezingqondweni zentsha. Ngaphuma futhi ngigijima ohambweni olungalawuleki olungenzanga lutho olutheni ukudambisa umuntu ongokomzwelo owayezama konke okusemandleni akhe ukuze afane nabo bonke abanye “abantu abavamile.”
Ngakho ngasebenzisa amandla okwenza izimonyo ukuze ngiveze lokho engangikuzwa ngaphakathi. Uma benginosuku olukhanyayo nolujabulisayo, ubungangithola ngisedebeni elibomvu elifudumele elimema abantu ukuba beze baqale ingxoxo! Ukube bengibhekene nokucindezeleka nokudabuka, kungenzeka ukuthi ungithole ku-cocoa noma ku-merlot. Uma bekunosuku olusha oluzoba khona, umuzwa wokuba nethemba kanye nesiqalo esisha, i-lavender noma i-pastel ebomvu kungase kube ukukhetha.
Kwakuyisikhathi esibuhlungu ngisemusha futhi, uma ngibheka emuva, ngiyaqaphela ukuthi ubuhlakani bami nokuzimela kwakungeyona into eyayigujwa noma ehlolisiswayo. Akumangalisi ukuthi ngakuthola kunzima ukungena ebhokisini elincane lomphakathi! Ngiyethemba ukuthi lokho kulinganiselwa engabhekana nakho kuyehla esizukulwaneni ngasinye nokuthi, mhlawumbe, indodakazi yami izokwazi ukufinyelela ekunakekelweni kwezempilo yengqondo kanye nokwelashwa mina—kanye nabesifazane abaningi kangaka ngaphambi kwami—ngangingakaze ngikwazi.
I-Liptember ingumnyakazo ongikhuthazayo. Umbala, imbangela, nokunakekelwa. I-Lipstick ingaba ngaphezu kwezimonyo. Ingadlula. Kungabonisa lokho esiyikho nesithemba ukuba yikho. Kusinikeza amandla phezu kwethu ezweni lapho abesifazane abaningi bezizwa bengenamandla. I-Liptember isinika ithuba lokubungazwa nokwamukelwa njengoba sinjalo, futhi ngethemba ukuthi uzohlanganyela nami ekugubheni zonke izinsuku!
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