Impilo Yengqondo Yomama

Muva nje, iqiniso lokuthi uSuku Lomama kanye neNyanga Yezempilo Yengqondo zombili ziwela enyangeni kaMeyi alibonakali njengengozi kimina. Impilo yengqondo kamama ibe ngeyomuntu siqu kimina kule minyaka embalwa edlule.

Ngikhule ngikholelwa ukuthi abantu besifazane *ekugcineni* bangaba nakho konke - imisebenzi ephumelelayo yayingaseyona imingcele kithi. Omama abasebenzayo baba yinjwayelo, yeka inqubekelaphambili esesiyenzile! Engahluleka ukukuqaphela (futhi ngiyazi abaningi esizukulwaneni sami nabo abakwazanga ukukuqaphela) ukuthi umhlaba awudalelwanga imindeni enabazali ababili abasebenzayo. Umphakathi kungenzeka wamukele omama abasebenzayo emhlambini kodwa... akunjalo. Ikhefu labazali lisashoda kakhulu ezingxenyeni eziningi zezwe, ukunakekelwa kwezingane kubiza ngaphezu kwerenti/imali ebolekiwe, futhi nginethemba lokuthi unesikhathi esiningi sokuphumula esikhokhelwayo (PTO) sokumboza ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho ingane kufanele ihlale ekhaya kusukela ekunakekelweni kwasemini ngoba kwe elinye isifo sezindlebe.

Nginomyeni ongeseka ngendlela emangalisayo osebenzisana nabazali njengoshampeni. Kodwa lokho akuzange kungivikele enkulisa ehlale engishayela ucingo kuqala – nakuba umyeni wami ayebhalwe njengomuntu wokuqala engangixhumana naye ngoba wayesebenza imizuzu eyi-10 kuphela futhi ngangihamba nginqamula idolobha. Akuzange kungivikele kumphathi omubi enganginaye ngisancela uthunjana wami, owangijezisa ngawo wonke amabhlogo enganginawo ekhalendeni lami ukuze ngikwazi ukupompa.

Kuningi okusasebenza emhlabeni sengathi kunomzali ongasebenzi ekhaya. Izinsuku zokuqalisa sekwephuzile/zangaphambi kwesikhathi zokukhululwa esikoleni samabanga aphansi ezibonakala zisikisela ukuthi kukhona ozohambisa izingane esikoleni ngo-10:00 ekuseni noma azilande ngo-12:30 pm Amahhovisi odokotela nodokotela wamazinyo avulwa kuphela kusukela ngo-9: 00 ekuseni kuya ku-5:00 ntambama, ngoMsombuluko kuya kuLwesihlanu. Abaqoqi bezimali, amaqembu ezemidlalo, izifundo, amakhonsathi esikole, uhambo lwasenkundleni konke okubonakala kwenzeka phakathi kuka-8:00 ekuseni kuya ku-5:00 ntambama Ungakhohlwa ukuwasha, ukusika utshani, ukuhlanza izindlu zangasese nokucosha. ngemva kwenja. Ubungafuni ukuphumula ngempela ngezimpelasonto, akunjalo? Kodwa kulesi sikhathi sonyaka, sizwa imilayezo eminingi ethi “siyabonga mama, uyiqhawe elinamandla”. Futhi nakuba ngingafuni ukubonakala ngingabongi, kuthiwani uma esikhundleni salokho sasinezwe elalingadingi ukuba sibe iqhawe elinamandla ukuze siphile?

Kodwa esikhundleni salokho, konke kuqhubeka kuba nzima. Kuya kuba nzima ukuthi abesifazane bathole usizo lwezempilo abakudingayo futhi bathathe izinqumo ngemizimba yabo. Ukunakekelwa kwezempilo kungahluka kuye ngokuthi umqashi wakho ungubani noma uhlala kusiphi isimo. Kulula kwabanye ukushumayela ngokuzinakekela lapho uzizwa sengathi unesikhathi sokuxubha ngezinye izinsuku, ingasaphathwa eyokuthola isikhathi sokuhamba. ekwelapheni (kodwa kufanele, ukwelashwa kuyamangalisa!). Futhi lapha ngicabanga ukuthi kunzima emndenini onabazali ababili abasebenzayo, lokho akuqhathanisi nalokhu abazali abangabodwa ababhekana nakho. Amandla engqondo asetshenziswa umzali kulezi zinsuku ayaphela.

Futhi siyamangala ukuthi kungani inhlalakahle yawo wonke umuntu ibonakala iyancipha. Siphila esimweni esingaguquki sokuthi uhlu lwezinto okufanele zenziwe lude kunenani lamahora ngosuku, kungaba semsebenzini noma ekhaya. Ukuchaza enye yezintandokazi zami ze-sitcom (“Indawo Enhle”), kuya kuba nzima ukuba umuntu. Kuya ngokuba nzima ukuba umzali. Kuya kuba nzima ukusebenza emhlabeni ongadalelwanga ukuthi sisebenze kuwo.

Uma udonsa kanzima, awuwedwa.

Ngandlela thize, sixhumeke kakhulu kunangaphambili. Ngiyabonga ukuthi siphila esikhathini lapho izingane zami zingakwazi khona i-FaceTime nogogo bazo ukuze zizifisele uSuku Lomama oluhle ngenkathi ziphakathi kwezwe lonke. Kodwa kukhona ubufakazi obandayo ukuthi abantu bazizwe bebodwa futhi benesizungu kunanini ngaphambili. Kungase kuzwakale sengathi yithi kuphela esingakuqondi konke.

Ngifisa sengathi ngabe nginenhlamvu yesiliva kubazali abasebenzayo abalwa nengcindezi yokwenza konke. Iseluleko esihle kakhulu engingasinikeza yilesi: naphezu kwalokho okungenzeka sikhule sikukholelwa, awukwazi ukukwenza konke. Awuyena, empeleni, iqhawe. Kufanele sibeke imingcele kulokho esingakwenza nesingakwazi ukukwenza, esizokwenza nesingeke sikwenze. Kufanele sinqabe kwamanye ama-fundraiser noma sibeke umkhawulo ngemuva kwemisebenzi yesikole. Amaphathi osuku lokuzalwa akudingeki abe umcimbi ofanele izinkundla zokuxhumana.

Ngiye ngabona ukuthi isikhathi sami singenye yezinto zami eziyigugu kakhulu. Ngivimba isikhathi ekhalendeni lami lomsebenzi lapho ngiyisa izingane esikoleni futhi ngenqaba noma yimuphi umhlangano ongqubuzana nalokho. Ngenza isiqiniseko sokuthi kunesikhathi esanele phakathi nosuku ukuze ngenze umsebenzi wami ukuze kungadingeki ngisebenze kusihlwa. Ngixoxa kakhulu nezingane zami ngomsebenzi wami, ngakho ziyaqonda ukuthi kungani ngingakwazi ukuya kuyo yonke imicimbi phakathi nosuku esikoleni. Izingane zami bezilokhu zilahla izingubo zazo kusukela zisenkulisa futhi zifunda ukuhlanza indlu yazo yokugezela. Ngikubeka eqhulwini ngokungaphezi okubaluleke kakhulu futhi njalo ngibeka eceleni izinto ezingakhiqizi, kungaba sekhaya noma emsebenzini.

Beka imingcele futhi uvikele inhlalakahle yakho siqu ngangokunokwenzeka. Ungesabi ukucela usizo - kungaba kumngane, ilungu lomndeni, umlingani wakho, udokotela wakho, noma uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo. Akekho ongakwenza eyedwa.

Futhi usize ukudala isistimu engcono ukuze izingane zethu zingalwi izimpi ezifanayo esizilwelayo.