Usuku Lokuvimbela Ukuzibulala Emhlabeni Wonke, Nsuku Zonke
Ukuzibulala kuvame ukuba ngundabamlonyeni lapho kuxoxwa khona ngokuhlebelana, izithunzi, noma “ngicela ungakutsheli muntu lokhu.” Ukukhuluma ngokuzibulala kungenzeka kuvuse impendulo esabekayo noma engaqinisekile kubantu abaningi, kufanele, ngoba bekuyimbangela yeshumi yokufa e-United States e2019.
Ake sizame ukusho leso sitatimende futhi, kodwa ngeso lengqondo sonke lesi sikhathi: Ukuzibulala kuyimbangela yeshumi ehamba phambili yokufa futhi kungenye yezinto ezingagwemeka kakhulu. Kulesi sitatimende sesibili, ithuba lokungenelela libonakala ngokugcwele. Ikhuluma ngethemba, kanye nesikhala nesikhathi esikhona phakathi kwemizwa, ukuziphatha, kanye nenhlekelele.
Isikhathi sokuqala umuntu engitshela ukuthi unemicabango yokuzibulala, ngangineminyaka engu-13 ubudala. Ngisho namanje lenkumbulo ibiza izinyembezi emehlweni ami kanye nozwelo enhliziyweni yami. Ngokushesha ngemva kwalokho kudalulwe kwaba khona isifiso sokuthi ngenze okuthile, ngithathe isinyathelo, ngiqinisekise ukuthi lo muntu engimthandayo uyazi ukuthi zikhona ezinye izindlela zokuphila kwakhe. Sekujwayeleke kakhulu kulesi sikhathi ukuba nokuzethemba, ukungazi ukuthi yini okufanele ukuyisho noma ukuyenza, futhi nami ngazizwa ngaleyo ndlela. Ngangingazi ukuthi ngenzeni ngoba njengeningi lethu, ngangingakaze ngifunde ngendlela yokugwema ukuzibulala. Nganquma ukubatshela ubuhlungu ababebuzwa bukhulu, kodwa futhi babungeke buhlale unomphela. Ngatshela nomuntu omdala engimethembayo ukuthi babecabanga ukuzibulala. Lowo muntu omdala wabaxhumanisa nensiza yezinkinga emphakathini wethu. Futhi baphila! Bathola usizo, baya ekwelashweni, baqala ukuphuza imishanguzo ababeyinikezwe udokotela wabo wengqondo, futhi namuhla ngiphila impilo enenjongo futhi ejabulisayo ethatha umoya wami.
Namuhla ngingusonhlalakahle wasemtholampilo onelayisensi, futhi emsebenzini wami ngizwe amakhulu abantu engitshela ukuthi acabanga ukuzibulala. Imizwa yokwesaba, ukungaqiniseki, nokukhathazeka ivame ukuba khona, kodwa kunjalo nethemba. Ukwabelana nomuntu ocabanga ngokuzibulala kunesibindi, futhi kukithina njengomphakathi ukuthi sisabele kulobo buhlakani ngozwelo, ukwesekwa, nokuxhumana nezinsiza ezisindisa impilo. Ngalolu suku Lukazwelonke Lokuvimbela Ukuzibulala kunemilayezo embalwa engifuna ukuyaba:
- Imicabango yokuzibulala yinto evamile, enzima, abantu abaningi ababa nayo ekuphileni kwabo. Ukuba nemicabango yokuzibulala akusho ukuthi umuntu uzofa ngokuzibulala.
- Ukucwaswa nezinkolelo ezingezinhle ngemicabango nokuziphatha kokuzibulala kuvame ukuba yisithiyo esikhulu kubantu abafuna usizo olusindisa ukuphila.
- Khetha ukukholelwa abantu obaziyo uma bekutshela ukuthi banemicabango yokuzibulala- bakhethe ukukutshela ngesizathu. Basize baxhume kusisetshenziswa sokuvimbela ukuzibulala ngokushesha.
- Lapho imicabango yokuzibulala isisingathwa ngokushesha nangendlela enakekelayo, esekelayo ngumuntu othandekayo, lowo muntu maningi amathuba okuba axhunywe kuzinsiza ezisindisa ukuphila futhi athole usizo aludingayo.
- Kunezinketho eziningi zokwelapha ezisebenzayo ezibhekana nemicabango nokuziphatha kokuzibulala, iningi lazo ezitholakala kabanzi futhi ezimbozwe izinhlelo zomshwalense.
Nakuba ukukhuluma ngokuzibulala kungase kusabisa, ukuthula kungase kubulale. Ukuvimbela u-100% wokuzibulala kuyikusasa elifezekayo nelidingekayo. Phefumula kulokhu okungenzeka! Dala leli kusasa ngaphandle kokuzibulala ngokufunda ukuthi ungaphendula kanjani kubantu empilweni yakho abangase babe nemicabango yokuzibulala noma ukuziphatha. Kunamakilasi amangalisayo, izinsiza eziku-inthanethi, nochwepheshe bomphakathi abalapha ukuze babelane ngolwazi lwabo futhi bazuze lo mphumela. Hlanganyela nami kule nkolelo yokuthi ngelinye ilanga, umuntu oyedwa, umphakathi owodwa ngesikhathi, singakuvimbela ukuzibulala.
Resources Online
Lapho Ungashayela Khona Usizo:
- Trevor Project: Shayela 866-488-7386Amahora angama-24 ngosuku, izinsuku eziyisikhombisa ngesonto
- Ingxoxo ebukhoma ne-Trevor Project: Ngo-1:00 ntambama kuya ku-7:00 ntambama nsuku zonke
- I-Trans Lifeline: Shayela 877-565-8860
- I-GLBT National Youth Talk:Shayela i-800-246-7743 NgoMsombuluko kuya kuLwesihlanu, ngo-2:00 ntambama kuya ku-10:00 ntambama
- Thumela i-imeyili help@lgbthotline.org
- Inombolo Kazwelonke Yokuzibulala: Shayela 800-273-8255
- Thumela umbhalo kumeluleki wenhlekelele ongaziwa: Thumela umbhalo ku-741741
- I-Colorado Crisis and Support Line: Shayela 844-493-TALK (8255)ukukhuluma nochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo amahora angama-24 ngosuku, izinsuku ezingama-365 ngonyaka
- I-Veterans Crisis Line: Shayela i-800-273-8255Amahora angama-24 ngosuku, izinsuku eziyisikhombisa ngesonto
- Ingxoxo ebukhoma ne-Veterans Crisis LineAmahora angama-24 ngosuku, izinsuku eziyisikhombisa ngesonto
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