Ukusebenzisa Izwi: Ukuqonda Ukuzibulala kanye Nesidingo Sokuqwashisa

Kuwo wonke umsebenzi wami, bengingene shí ezweni lokuzibulala, kusukela kubantu abacabanga ukuzibulala kuya kulabo abaye bazama futhi kabuhlungu kuya kulabo abaye banqotshwa yikho. Leli gama alisenalo uvalo kimi ngoba liyingxenye ebalulekile yempilo yami yomsebenzi. Nokho, ngiye ngabona ukuthi isihloko sokuzibulala sivusa imizwelo edumazayo kubantu abaningi.

Muva nje, phakathi nesidlo sasemini nabangane abambalwa, ngikhulume ngegama elithi “ukuzibulala” futhi ngababuza ukuthi libenza bazizwe kanjani. Izimpendulo bezihlukile. Omunye umngane wamemezela ukuthi ukuzibulala kuyisono, kanti omunye wabiza labo abazibulalayo ngobugovu. Umngane wokugcina ucele ukuthi sishintshe isihloko, engasihlonipha. Kwaba sobala ukuthi igama elithi ukuzibulala liqukethe isigcwagcwa nokwesaba okukhulu.

Inyanga Yokuqwashisa Ngokuzibulala inokubaluleka okunjalo kimi. Kusivumela ukuthi sihlangane futhi sixoxe ngokukhululekile ngokuzibulala, sigcizelela ukubaluleka kwakho kanye nesidingo sokuqwashisa.

E-United States, ukuzibulala kuyimbangela ye-11 ehamba phambili yokufa. Ngokushaqisayo, iColorado iyisifunda sesi-5 esinenani eliphakeme kakhulu labantu abazibulalayo. Lezi zibalo kubonisa ngokucacile ukuphuthuma kokukhululeka ukukhuluma ngokuzibulala.

Ukuze silwe ngokuphumelelayo nokwesaba okuzungezile ukuzibulala, kufanele siyinselele inselele izinganekwane ezikuqhubezela phambili.

• Inganekwane Yokuqala: Iphakamisa ukuthi ukuxoxa ngokuzibulala kwandisa amathuba okuthi othile akuzame. Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo lufakazela okuhlukile - ukukhuluma ngokuzibulala kunciphisa izingozi ezihlobene nempilo yengqondo. Ukuhlanganyela ezingxoxweni ezikhululekile kuvumela abantu ukuba baveze imizwa yabo futhi kunikeza inkundla lapho bangazwakala khona.
• Inganekwane Yesibili: Izimangalo zokuthi labo abaxoxa ngokuzibulala basuke befuna ukunakwa. Lokhu ukucabangela okungalungile. Kufanele sithathe ngokungathi sína noma ubani ocabanga ukuzibulala. Kubalulekile ukubhekana nenkinga futhi unikeze ukwesekwa ngokukhululekile.
• Inganekwane Yesithathu: Ukwengeza, kungamanga ukucabanga ukuthi ukuzibulala kwenzeka njalo ngaphandle kwesixwayiso. Ngokuvamile kunezimpawu eziyisixwayiso ezandulela umzamo wokuzibulala.

Mina ngokwami, angizange ngibuqonde ngokugcwele ubunzima bokuphila ngosizi njengomuntu owasinda ekulahlekelweni ngokuzibulala kwaze kwaba kulo nyaka odlule, lapho ngalahlekelwa khona umshana wami kabuhlungu ngenxa yokuzibulala. Kungazelelwe, umhlaba wami womsebenzi nowomuntu siqu wahlangana. Lolu hlobo oluthile losizi lusishiya nemibuzo eminingi kunezimpendulo. Kuletha umuzwa wecala njengoba sizibuza ukuthi yini ebesingakusho noma senze ngokuhlukile. Sihlale sizibuza ukuthi yini okungenzeka siyiphuthele. Ngalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu, ngiye ngaqonda umthelela omkhulu ukuzibulala okunawo kulabo abasele. Ngeshwa, ngenxa yenhlamba ezungeze ukuzibulala, abasindile bavame ukuthwala kanzima ukuthola ukwesekwa abakudinga kakhulu. Abantu basasaba ukuxoxa ngegama elithi ukuzibulala. Ukubona ukuzibulala ngapha nangapha kwangisiza ngabona ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukukhuluma ngokuzibulala. Angizange nginake wonke umuntu othintekile ngokuzibulala. Imindeni ilusizi futhi ingase yesabe ukukhuluma ngembangela yokushona kwabathandekayo bayo.

Uma uhlangana nomuntu onenkinga yemicabango yokuzibulala, kunezindlela ongenza ngazo umehluko:

• Baqinisekise ukuthi ababodwa.
• Veza uzwela ngaphandle kokuthi uqonda imizwa yabo ngokugcwele.
• Gwema ukwahlulela.
• Phinda amazwi abo kubo ukuze uqinisekise ukuqonda okunembile, futhi kubazisa ukuthi ulalele ngenkuthalo.
• Buza ukuthi banalo yini icebo lokuthi bazibulale kanjani.
• Bakhuthaze ukuthi bafune usizo lochwepheshe.
• Zicele ukubaphelezela esibhedlela noma ushayele ulayini wezinkinga
  • I-Colorado Crisis Services: Shayela 844-493-8255noma umbhalo BHEKA ukuze 38255

Kulolu suku Lomhlaba Lokuvimbela Ukuzibulala ngo-2023, ngithemba ukuthi ufunde izifundo ezimbalwa ezibalulekile: Zifundise ngokuzibulala futhi uqede ukwesaba ukuxoxa ngakho. Qonda ukuthi imicabango yokuzibulala iyindaba engathi sína edinga ukusekelwa nokunakwa okufanele.

Ake siqale Isonto lethu Likazwelonke Lokuvimbela Ukuzibulala ngokukwazi ukusho igama elithi, “ukuzibulala,” futhi sikhululeke ukuxoxa nanoma ubani olindele ukuthi othile ambuze ukuthi “uyaphila?” La mazwi alula anamandla okusindisa ukuphila.

Okubhekwayo

• cdphe.colorado.gov/suicide-prevention/after-a-suicide-loss
• cdc.gov/suicide/facts
• suicidology.org

Resources

• Impilo Yengqondo Nokuvimbela Ukuzibulala Ungakhuluma Kanjani Nezingane Nentsha (Spanish)
• I-American Foundation for Suicide Prevention's (AFSP) Izinsiza Zabasinde Ekulahlekeni: Inhlangano evimbela ukuzibulala engenzi-nzuzo ehlinzeka ngezinhlelo, efundisayo, eqongelela imali yocwaningo lokuzibulala nezinhlelo, futhi ifinyelele labo abalahlekelwe othile ngenxa yokuzibulala.
• Ukusinda Ekulahlekeni Kokuzibulala: Insiza kanye Nomhlahlandlela Wokwelapha
• Izingane, Intsha, kanye Nokulahlekelwa Ukuzibulala
• Isahluko saseColorado se-American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP): Imicimbi ye-AFSP nezinsiza eziqondene neColorado.
• I-American Association of Suicidology (AAS): Izincwadi nezisetshenziswa zabasinde ekulahlekelweni kokuzibulala.
• I-Suicide Prevention Coalition yaseColorado (SPCC): Umgomo wale nhlangano engenzi nzuzo ukunciphisa ukuzibulala kanye nomthelela wako kubo bonke abantu baseColoradan ngokumela, ukubambisana, kanye nemfundo. Ukwengeza, i-Suicide Prevention Coalition yaseColorado inikeza amaphakheji e-iCare emindenini elusizi mahhala.
• Izindlu zika-Judi: Inhlangano ezimele endaweni yaseMetro Denver ezinikele kuphela ekuhlinzekeni ukunakekelwa okusekelwe ocwaningweni ezinganeni ezisosizini nemindeni yazo.
• I-Dougy Center: Isikhungo Sikazwelonke Sokudabuka Kwezingane Nemindeni: Ihlinzeka ngosekelo nezinsiza zezingane, intsha, abantu abasha, kanye nemindeni yabo edabukisayo ngenxa yokushona bangabelana ngolwazi lwabo.
• I-Uniting for Suicide Postvention (USPV): Ihlinzeka ngezinsiza nokusekelwa kwawo wonke umuntu othintwa ukulahlekelwa ukuzibulala; kusivumela ukuthi sihlangane futhi sixoxe ngokukhululekile ngokuzibulala, sigcizelela ukubaluleka kwakho nesidingo sokuqwashisa.