Uyangi Gcwalisa
"Uyangi Gcwalisa."
Kulungile, uma sicabanga ngokuncoma, singase sicabange ngabadumile, abaphezulu kakhulu njengalezi ezivela kufilimu ethi "Jerry Maguire," eqondiswa uCameron Crowe ngo-1996.
Ake sehlise kancane kancane noma okubili futhi sicabangele amandla angaba khona ekubongeleni owamukelayo kanye nalowo ophayo.
Empeleni kunoSuku Lukazwelonke Lokuncoma oluba minyaka yonke ngoJanuwari 24. Inhloso yaleli holidi ukusho okuthile okuhle kubangani bakho, umndeni, kanye nosebenza nabo. Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi ukuncoma nakho kunomphumela onenzuzo kumuntu oncomayo. Ngamanye amazwi, ncoma futhi ungase ujabule nawe.
I-“Readers Digest” iye yahlola abantu phakathi neminyaka edlule futhi yathola ezinye zezincomo ezingcono kakhulu ezihlanganisa izinto ezinjengalezi: “uyisilaleli esihle,” “ungumzali omangalisayo,” “uyangikhuthaza,” “Nginokholo wena,” nabanye.
"I-Harvard Business Review" ithole ukuthi abantu bavame ukubukela phansi umthelela wokuncoma kwabo kwabanye. Bathole nokuthi abantu bakhathazeke ngokweqile ngekhono labo lokudumisa omunye umuntu ngekhono. Sonke sizizwa sidangele noma singakhululekile, futhi ukukhathazeka kwethu kusishiya singenathemba ngemiphumela yokudumisa kwabo.
Njengokudla kahle nokuvivinya umzimba, thina njengabantu sinesidingo esibalulekile sokubonwa, ukuhlonishwa, nokwazisa abanye abantu. Lokhu kuyiqiniso esimisweni somsebenzi kanye nempilo nje jikelele.
Omunye umbhali wayekholelwa ukuthi kumayelana nokudala isiko lokubonga. Lokhu kungase kubaluleke kakhulu manje kunangaphambili. Ukuzwakalisa ukwazisa komunye umuntu njalo kuyasiza ekudaleni lesi siko. Umthelela walezi zimpawu ezinhle awukwazi ukugcizelelwa.
Njenganoma yini okufanele yenziwe, kudinga ukuzijwayeza. Abanye bethu banamahloni noma bayesaba futhi abakhululekile ukuveza imizwa yethu. Ngikholelwa ukuthi uma usuthole ukuqaphela, ukunikeza indumiso noma izincomo kuzoba lula, ukunethezeka nomsebenzi obalulekile wansuku zonke.
Uyobe uzwakalisa ukwazisa kwakho okuqotho kosebenza naye, umphathi, uweta, umabhalane wasesitolo, noma ngisho nomngane wakho womshado, izingane zakho, nomamezala wakho.
Abacwaningi bathole ukuthi indawo efanayo yobuchopho, i-striatum, iyasebenza lapho umuntu eklonyeliswa ngokunconywa noma ngokheshi. Lokhu ngezinye izikhathi kubizwa ngokuthi “imiklomelo yomphakathi.” Lolu cwaningo lungaphinde luphakamise ukuthi uma i-striatum icushiwe, ibonakala ikhuthaza umuntu ukuthi enze kangcono ngesikhathi sokuzivocavoca.
Kungenzeka ukuthi ukuthola ukudunyiswa kukhipha ikhemikhali ebuchosheni ebizwa ngokuthi i-dopamine. Kuyikhemikhali efanayo ekhishwa lapho sithanda, sidla ukudla okumnandi, noma sizindla. “Kuwumvuzo wemvelo” kanye nendlela yokukhuthaza ukuziphatha okufanayo esikhathini esizayo.
Ukubonga, ngiyakholwa, kuyisenzo esibalulekile esenzeka lapha. Futhi ukucacisa, uma ufuna ukwenza impilo yakho ibe ngcono, naka lokho ocabanga ngakho. Lawa amandla okubonga. Ukwazisa othile kuqinisa ubuhlobo bakho naye. Kungase kukhuthaze umlingani wakho noma osebenza naye ukuthi ahlanganyele. Futhi, lapho othile ekuncoma, kwamukele! Abantu abaningi basabela ekunconyweni ngokuba namahloni (oh cha!), bazigxeke bona (oh bekungekuhle neze), noma ngokujwayelekile bakususe. Abaningi bethu bagxile kakhulu ezintweni esingazithandi kangangokuthi sishaya indiva izinto ezinhle ezishiwo abantu abasizungezile. Uma uthola ukunconywa, ungazibeki phansi, uchezukise ukunconywa, uveze ubuthakathaka bakho, noma uthi bekuyinhlanhla nje. Kunalokho, bonga futhi ube nomusa, uthi ngiyabonga, futhi uma kufanele, ncoma okwakho.
Ukwenza lokhu kushintshana okuhle kube umkhuba kuholela kumqondo oqinile wokusondelana, ukwethembana, nokuba ngowabanye. Ukuqhubeka nokuzijwayeza ukubonga kubo bonke ubudlelwano bakho kungaholela ekuthuleni, ekujabuleni kwakho. Ngakho-ke, bonisa ukwazisa kwakho ngothile ngokugxila ezintweni ezicabangelayo (futhi ngezinye izikhathi ezingabonakali) azenzayo.
Abantu ababongayo nabo banamathuba amaningi okuthi benze ukuziphatha okunempilo kube ingxenye yendlela yabo yokuphila. Benza isikhathi sokuhlolwa okuvamile. Bazivivinya kakhulu futhi benze ukukhetha okunempilo mayelana nokudla nokuphuza. Zonke lezi zinto zithuthukisa impilo.
Amazwana mayelana namaqembu esimisweni somsebenzi: ukubonga kubalulekile empilweni yeqembu. Amalungu eqembu azizwa ehlonishwa futhi eqashelwa azonweba lowo muzwa kwabanye, enze umjikelezo omuhle.
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